No More Mommy Wars

giraffeluvspi · January 2014

I'm just going to leave this here, as opposed to the UO, because it doesn't deserve to get lost...

https://momsunitingmoms.com/no-more-mommy-wars-a-photo-project/

..aaaannnndddd begin bitching about this not being a "hugs and kisses" thread.

PrimRoseMama · January 2014

I am all about some P&R. I will be happy when the CIO proposals get few & far between. Then we can fight over veggie pouches & organic food.

valstulas · January 2014

I haven't opened the UO thread and now I'm thinking I probably won't.

valstulas · January 2014

I haven't opened the UO thread and now I'm thinking I probably won't.

PrimRoseMama · January 2014

valstulas said:
I haven't opened the UO thread and now I'm thinking I probably won't.

It's really not that bad.

giraffeluvspi · January 2014

No, it's not that bad, it just prompted me to share this tidbit I saw last night.

lrichmond86 · January 2014

I shared this on fb last night. It pretty much sums up how I feel. We all love our babies and are doing our best.

KTZ17 · January 2014

Damn, last time I looked the UO was about brussel sprouts...

thegoodpotato · January 2014

But if we don't have mommy wars, how will we know who is winning!?!?!!

(and that's a joke in case anyone can't tell that's sarcasm)

chiboo9 · January 2014

Love this!

PrimRoseMama · January 2014

thegoodpotato said:
But if we don't have mommy wars, how will we know who is winning!?!?!!
(and that's a joke in case anyone can't tell that's sarcasm)

The only ones that win are the advertisers on the bump.

You're welcome Bump Gods!

macncheese0712 · January 2014

Someone shared this on the Facebook group for my bfing support group last night and it started the most ridiculous sanctimommy conversation. To the point where I don't know if I will go to the meetings anymore.

giraffeluvspi · January 2014

CNettles86 said:

Someone shared this on the Facebook group for my bfing support group last night and it started the most ridiculous sanctimommy conversation. To the point where I don't know if I will go to the meetings anymore.

How could someone take this and make it Sanctimommy? Unless you're a complete asshole and just say "Yeah, fuck their message, my way will always be superior".

macncheese0712 · January 2014

ChrissieMeas said:

CNettles86 said:

Someone shared this on the Facebook group for my bfing support group last night and it started the most ridiculous sanctimommy conversation. To the point where I don't know if I will go to the meetings anymore.

How could someone take this and make it Sanctimommy? Unless you're a complete asshole and just say "Yeah, fuck their message, my way will always be superior".

It started off with someone bitching that this makes it seem like formula and bf are equal and that makes her feel like all her hard work to EBF was for nothing. It was absurd.

giraffeluvspi · January 2014

CNettles86 said:

CNettles86 said:

Someone shared this on the Facebook group for my bfing support group last night and it started the most ridiculous sanctimommy conversation. To the point where I don't know if I will go to the meetings anymore.

How could someone take this and make it Sanctimommy? Unless you're a complete asshole and just say "Yeah, fuck their message, my way will always be superior".
It started off with someone bitching that this makes it seem like formula and bf are equal and that makes her feel like all her hard work to EBF was for nothing. It was absurd.

Wow... I bet she's a real pleasure sometimes.

arlingirl · January 2014

Oy. I've said this before, but no one is in ANYONE else's shoes so to say "I have it harder because I ______" is what starts the bullshit and butthurt.

PrimRoseMama · January 2014

CNettles86 said:
Someone shared this on the Facebook group for my bfing support group last night and it started the most ridiculous sanctimommy conversation. To the point where I don't know if I will go to the meetings anymore.

I know I'm guilty of being an argumentative twat just for the sake of arguing (sometimes), but FFS! Sanctimommies make me want to commit a felony.

EagleWife · January 2014

CNettles86 said:

CNettles86 said:

Someone shared this on the Facebook group for my bfing support group last night and it started the most ridiculous sanctimommy conversation. To the point where I don't know if I will go to the meetings anymore.

How could someone take this and make it Sanctimommy? Unless you're a complete asshole and just say "Yeah, fuck their message, my way will always be superior".
It started off with someone bitching that this makes it seem like formula and bf are equal and that makes her feel like all her hard work to EBF was for nothing. It was absurd.

----

So this lovely mom is EBF to get all of the gold stars? Not for her baby's health? Jeeze...

thegoodpotato · January 2014

EagleWife said:

CNettles86 said:

CNettles86 said:

Someone shared this on the Facebook group for my bfing support group last night and it started the most ridiculous sanctimommy conversation. To the point where I don't know if I will go to the meetings anymore.

How could someone take this and make it Sanctimommy? Unless you're a complete asshole and just say "Yeah, fuck their message, my way will always be superior".
It started off with someone bitching that this makes it seem like formula and bf are equal and that makes her feel like all her hard work to EBF was for nothing. It was absurd.

----
So this lovely mom is EBF to get all of the gold stars? Not for her baby's health? Jeeze...

My best friend / roommate from university had a baby 1mo before I had M. I switched M to formula around 8 weeks because of serious bad colic (we were at the hospital because of it at one point) which turned out to be a fore/hind milk imbalance. You always find these things out too late.

My friend had a really hard time establishing her supply, and had to take medication and pump the entire 18mo she nursed her kid in order to make enough milk. But then she'd send me all these weird messages about how skinny he was, and how he didn't have a baby pot belly, and how she worried he wasn't getting enough milk... I was ready to shake her until her teeth rattled. FFS, if you think he's hungry, a goddam bottle of formula every now and again won't kill him.

It was like she was totally looking for all the gold stars... Or for some kind of validation? I just don't know. I always had a little sense she was trying to make jabs about me switching to formula so early when she had nursed for so long despite all the obstacles.

It could just be me projecting mommy guilt.....

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giraffeluvspi · January 2014

thegoodpotato said:

EagleWife said:

CNettles86 said:

CNettles86 said:

Someone shared this on the Facebook group for my bfing support group last night and it started the most ridiculous sanctimommy conversation. To the point where I don't know if I will go to the meetings anymore.

How could someone take this and make it Sanctimommy? Unless you're a complete asshole and just say "Yeah, fuck their message, my way will always be superior".
It started off with someone bitching that this makes it seem like formula and bf are equal and that makes her feel like all her hard work to EBF was for nothing. It was absurd.

----
So this lovely mom is EBF to get all of the gold stars? Not for her baby's health? Jeeze...

My best friend / roommate from university had a baby 1mo before I had M. I switched M to formula around 8 weeks because of serious bad colic (we were at the hospital because of it at one point) which turned out to be a fore/hind milk imbalance. You always find these things out too late.

My friend had a really hard time establishing her supply, and had to take medication and pump the entire 18mo she nursed her kid in order to make enough milk. But then she'd send me all these weird messages about how skinny he was, and how he didn't have a baby pot belly, and how she worried he wasn't getting enough milk... I was ready to shake her until her teeth rattled. FFS, if you think he's hungry, a goddam bottle of formula every now and again won't kill him.

It was like she was totally looking for all the gold stars... Or for some kind of validation? I just don't know. I always had a little sense she was trying to make jabs about me switching to formula so early when she had nursed for so long despite all the obstacles.

It could just be me projecting mommy guilt.....

@thegoodpotato sounds like she was fishing for gold stars and trying to shame you at the same time. That takes talent.

Carrie3102 · January 2014

I've seen that before and I love it.

I hate mommy wars. That is all. We all love our kids, and what works for one won't for another, so who am I to judge in any aspect, BFing, sleep training, potty training, diapering, tummy sleeping, back to sleep, etc, etc, etc... good friggin grief, as long as your kid is healthy, happy and clean who really gives a shit... REALLY? FTR if you are practicing something that I think is dangerous for your kid... I'm totally judging you. Human nature.

I know some of you judged me hard core for letting DD tummy sleep from 7 weeks on... but guess what, IDGAF you know why... you weren't here. I was.

I know what's best for my kids, you don't. Sometimes I like to come here and talk and ask questions, provide advice, give support, hear that other moms are dealing with the same junk I am, but at the end of the day, we all have to do what's best for our family based on our own intimate knowledge of our dynamic.

I've become very confident in my mothering decisions because I see how my kids are happy, healthy, and clean. They are loved, they are or will be disciplined, they will never worry that someone cares for them and wants what's best for them. So... to anyone who wants to judge, feel free, just know I really don't care... nor should you when you are judged in return. Be confident in your choices.

The end.