I am curious to know if anyone has found some good story books about blended families.
I have been scouring Amazon as of late, and I can find story books for younger kids (SS is 5 y/o) regarding divorce and "why mommy and daddy are mad at each other" type things but DH and BM haven't been together for SS entire life (since he was just an infant). So, he doesn't really have a hard time understanding why he has two different houses.
I guess I am just wanting to find a book or story about Step Parents and their roll in a kids life. I find it hard to explain to him in a kid-friendly way. Some books about adoption seem KIND OF applicable but not really.
Ideas? TIA!
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I don't know of any books but it seems like just telling him that he has a lot of people/family who love him is the best thing you can do.
As far as conflict between BD and BM seems like it would be explained like any other adult conflict. People don't always get along regardless of whether it is his parents or any other friends or family in his life. Do you and his dad get a long 100% of the time?
I guess I phrased our situation poorly. I don't think books about DH and BM getting along are applicable because they don't have conflicts often (mainly because BM never comes around).
There is no CO in place, but we have SS Monday-Fri and BM has him on Sat & Sun ... when she decides she has time to see him. So, we more or less have him 90% of the time.
I don't think he's mature for his age, and he's never asked about why he doesn't get to live with his Mom. I would attribute this to the fact that he just never has. I am a little nervous for when the questions DO start though. Who knows - maybe I'll come up with some sparkly and entertaining story on the spot to explain to him why he doesn't get to see BM often. LOL
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If he asks why BM doesn't see him often, be honest. You don't know.
Honesty goes a long way with kids. And don't make a big deal about something if your SS is not making a deal out of it.
Thanks @ambrvan! I am very blessed to have been in SS's life since he was just an infant. We have a good relationship with each other, and I think I am just scared for when he gets a little older and starts asking why me and why not his mom.
What you said was really great, though. And hopefully when the time comes I am not so caught-off-guard and can actually put it that articulately and not panic and hide under the bed.
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The parts you are worried about are really not the hardest parts of being a blended family. Just let it roll.