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July 2012 Moms
OkieMama
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For those who did CIO
OkieMama
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What's the longest amount of time your LO ever cried for- without stopping? I never attempted it back when everyone else did, we coslept and nursed to sleep and I was fine with our situation so didn't feel the need to teach him to go to sleep on his own in his crib.
Well now that I'm pregnant my body is trying to wean but he is not having it. I still have enough to get him to sleep initially but last night he woke up an hour later asking for more milk. (And by milk he meant bo0b, he was not about to accept anything from a cup). I knew I had nothing left, and I thought he should be able to go back to sleep without it. I won't be able to be at his every whim when my belly gets huge or when there's a newborn. So I offered snuggles, water, a paci, milk from a sippy, pats, a pouch, songs, and everything I did made him FURIOUS. Slamming his body down, hitting the wall, fuming mad. He wanted one thing.
I would normally have probably given in but I told him "it's all gone, when you wake up there will be more" and I wanted to stand by it. I flashed back to all the CIO days and thought, "he can only cry for so long and then he'll settle down or wear himself out."
Nope, apparently he can cry forever, which is what I suspected back then. An hour and 15 minutes of blood curdling scream your guts out and it had become a battle of wills, no way could I give in and nurse now. I tried ignoring him, leaving the room, consoling him, giving him to DH. We were at a total loss.
It's become blatantly obvious my child has no coping methods other than me. Have I ruined him?
Tell me something encouraging.
Well now that I'm pregnant my body is trying to wean but he is not having it. I still have enough to get him to sleep initially but last night he woke up an hour later asking for more milk. (And by milk he meant bo0b, he was not about to accept anything from a cup). I knew I had nothing left, and I thought he should be able to go back to sleep without it. I won't be able to be at his every whim when my belly gets huge or when there's a newborn. So I offered snuggles, water, a paci, milk from a sippy, pats, a pouch, songs, and everything I did made him FURIOUS. Slamming his body down, hitting the wall, fuming mad. He wanted one thing.
I would normally have probably given in but I told him "it's all gone, when you wake up there will be more" and I wanted to stand by it. I flashed back to all the CIO days and thought, "he can only cry for so long and then he'll settle down or wear himself out."
Nope, apparently he can cry forever, which is what I suspected back then. An hour and 15 minutes of blood curdling scream your guts out and it had become a battle of wills, no way could I give in and nurse now. I tried ignoring him, leaving the room, consoling him, giving him to DH. We were at a total loss.
It's become blatantly obvious my child has no coping methods other than me. Have I ruined him?
Tell me something encouraging.
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Re: For those who did CIO
Married: 5/21/05 **~** Emery Aylin 6/30/12
BFP#1-11/5/10- Surgery for ectopic pregnancy 11/15/10 BFP#2-11/1/11 Due 7/8/12 Born 6/30/12
Oops we did it again... BFP 03/23/14 Due 12/6/14 Nora Born 11/23/14
I'm not necessarily wanting to do CIO I just don't know what my options are besides nursing or letting him scream when he wouldn't accept anything else. I thought with the official CIO method there was a window age-wise and I've definitely missed it.
Married: 5/21/05 **~** Emery Aylin 6/30/12
BFP#1-11/5/10- Surgery for ectopic pregnancy 11/15/10 BFP#2-11/1/11 Due 7/8/12 Born 6/30/12
Oops we did it again... BFP 03/23/14 Due 12/6/14 Nora Born 11/23/14
When DH goes in or takes him from me it makes him even madder because he knows nursing isn't an option, but he still won't accept paci, sippy, singing, snuggling, or rocking.
He wants one thing. So my options are give it to him, or feel his wrath.
Kellen lasted about 1.5 hours the first night, and only 30 mins the second and it went down from there very rapidly. I think it is easier on the mom when they are a tad bit younger though, as they aren't screaming mama or anything like that.
I'm so sorry you are having a rough time. I think that, if you do choose to do CIO, you have to be consistent. That it the #1 key. Even if it takes 3 hours! If you go in after over an hour of crying, then all that crying was in vain. It hard, it really is. That is why its usually a last ditch effort for most moms as no one wants to hear their LOs cry.
All in all, (with K at least) if you are successful, your LO will be much better off. Happier, less tired, and with new helpful coping skills!
I did CIO around 5 months and it took couple of weeks but she never cried for more then 10 minutes...
Married: 5/21/05 **~** Emery Aylin 6/30/12
BFP#1-11/5/10- Surgery for ectopic pregnancy 11/15/10 BFP#2-11/1/11 Due 7/8/12 Born 6/30/12
Oops we did it again... BFP 03/23/14 Due 12/6/14 Nora Born 11/23/14
One thing I will say though, is that they don't recommend sleep training if they are sick or teething, which is hard at this age. When are our kids NOT teething? All I can suggest is maybe a dose of children's Advil and/or orajel before bed if he's got teeth coming in and you still want to sleep train. Be prepared for some regression when the new baby arrives too.
Good luck. I know it sucks. And may I suggest blasting music through some noise canceling headphones while he's crying? It's the only thing that kept me from breaking down those first nights.