My lo prefers daddy more than mommy

Re: My lo prefers daddy more than mommy

• tifdaski84 member

  January 2014

  It's just a phase and she could very well prefer you over her dad next month.  Don't take it personal - she doesn't know/understand that it's hurting your feelings.

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• lindseybb21 member

  January 2014

  She's 16 months. I get that she doesn't understand what she's doing but it still is heartbreaking

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  January 2014

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• yepyepsms member

  January 2014

  My LO also prefers DH and has for about six months. It does bother me a lot somedays, but I've gotten better about for the same reasons PP's already said. Just tried to remind myself all the good things I do for him, that I'm a good mom, and he doesn't know what he's doing. I also have tried to think of it as a blessing in some way because I'm pregnant, have been sick, tired, etc.

  Some things that have worked well for us:

  1. Remove DH from the situation for awhile. He initally cries or has issues sometimes when DH goes in the basement but after a couple of minutes he doesn't think about Daddy anymore and we have a good time.

  2. Be totally present for some of the play time together.  I found that I had my cell phone and looking at apps while I was playing with LO and I wasn't really present. I think LO's can sense when you're not "all there" with them.

  3. Create norms or traditions that are only for you and LO and nobody else.  I have always done bath, toothbrush, pjs, etc. I never ever give that up, because I know on the worst nights, I have that 20 minutes with him for sure.  My son doesn't need to be rocked anymore but sometimes I do on an especially bad night so we can cuddle for a while in the dark and he never fights it and it hasn't started any dependency on rocking. Feeds my cuddle fill on nights he doesn't want me and I hope it reminds him Mommy loves him too and just not Daddy:)

   

  

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• Ninja77 member

  January 2014

  Glad to know I am not alone on this-  our son favors daddy right now.  I just keep telling myself it is a phase and will pass.    

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• MaggieF516 member

  January 2014

  I thought I was the only one dealing with this.  I'm seperated with my son's father, but he absolutely adores his father and is constantly saying"Dada" when he's not around and looking for him. When his father drops him off with me, he sometimes crys and wants to stay with his father!  This is so heartbreaking.  I do think some of this has to do with his father seeing him less so seeing him is always special to him.  His father also gets to do more "fun" things with him versus all the day to day things I have to do which he doesn't like (i.e. take vitamins, sit in highchair, go to sleep, etc.).

  

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