Becoming a nervous nelly

Kvalletta13 · January 2014

Hi ladies!

I had a mc in November and now my DH and I are 6 weeks pregnant! We are over the moon and very much hope that this one sticks, but I am so nervous that it won't. We were crushed in November and never thought it would happen to us. I don't have very many symptoms(exhaustion, naseaus) and I am trying to relax but it's so hard! Anyone else in the same boat?!

JSS1002 · January 2014

I'm pregnant with my second (my first is just 9 months old), and I was feeling the same way as you,... until around 2 AM when I woke up with a headache and feeling very nauseated, and that feeling has carried through the whole day. I'll be 7 weeks tomorrow. Hope that helps - with my first, I didn't have any morning sickness really, just some mild nausea around week 8 (it was so unremarkable that I didn't even remember, and had to go back and read my pregnancy journal today to remember).

Congrats and I'm sorry for your loss.

jlworden710 · January 2014

I'm in the exact same boat... We had a loss in November and I'm 5w2d today. I don't think the worry will ever go away, that's normal. I have just been trying to go by one of the mantras that floats around TB "today I am pregnant". That has helped get me though a few rough times so far. That and I have been working really hard to let myself celebrate the little things.

As far as symptoms I haven't really had that many either... I keep poking my boobs to make sure they're a little tender. Of course last time I didn't have any symptoms really until 7 weeks.

Hugs. I know it's hard.

roashem2008 · January 2014

Not in the same situation but wanted to say congrats, and FX crossed for a sticky baby! >:D<

Smallllmin · January 2014

I'll be 7 weeks on Thursday and still haven't had many symptoms... Mild nausea for a few days, and then today I feel totally normal (just sore boobs). I haven't experienced a loss, but don't worry, you're not the only one with few symptoms! FX!

adoxyinherear · January 2014

I am very sorry for your loss. I totally understand the nervous feelings... we had an early loss before DD, and I had very, very few symptoms with her in the first trimester, and those only for a few weeks. I was a nervous wreck. But, she's here now

Congratulations and take it easy!

nyg2042 · January 2014

I'm sorry for your loss. I had an early loss as well, so I can definitely relate to the anxiety. What few symptoms I have apparently like to mess with my head and come and go as they please. I try to distract myself and use mantras.

allyall10 · January 2014

I haven't experienced a loss, but I feel the same way you do. I honestly don't think I was expecting our IVF to work this time. I took a HPT instead of just waiting for my blood test, and expected it to be negative due to being so early in the process. I have been a wreck since I saw the positive, expecting it to be a "just kidding" kind of scenario. Due to crappy lab techs and Navy base labs, I had to wait to get my results instead of getting them the same day like I did last time. I just received my first set yesterday, and am finally starting to calm down. I will feel much better when I get the second set back some time later this week. All I can say, is don't worry. But, that's not very helpful.

MMason12 · January 2014

We got our BFP in September and had a mmc later in October.

We are now a little over 4 weeks with this little bean. We are both hoping the baby sticks, but honestly -- I don't think either one of us is going to be attached or excited until the 12 week point.

Edited to add: We lost our little on at 7w4d and found out at 9w2d. I still had every symptom in the book between our loss and when we found out. We had seen the heartbeat at 6w5d and we had zero clue that we had lost our little one for weeks. Without having an ultrasound we wouldn't have known for another few weeks. It took 2 weeks after we found out for us to get in for a d&c and I still had every symptom in the book.

The moral of the story -- symptoms do not equal a good or healthy pregnancy. You can have tons of them and there be issues and you can have none of them and have a great healthy baby.

Try your best not to read into the signs and symptoms. Just take it day by day and know that stressing out or worrying about isn't going to help anyone. Unless you are smoking crack, drinking tons of alcohol, or doing other super dangerous things that greatly increase your chances for a miscarriage there isn't anything you nor your doctors can do.

It really helps me to just think about the fact that there is literally nothing I can do -- besides take my prenatal -- to make sure our baby sticks. It is what it is. And if I cannot directly control it then I am not going to let those emotions control me. I do everything I can to make sure it sticks and after that it's out of my control.

Hopefully that helps!

C0602t · January 2014

Hi there! I'm sorry for your loss. You are not alone! We miscarried our first pregnancy in September at 5 weeks. Just got a BFP on Friday and have been a nervous nut case ever since! We have our first appt 2/7, but every time I feel the slightest cramp I'm convinced we will never make it to that appt. I try to be optimistic but this is the way it is now ya know. I run to the bathroom every hour to check if it's just CM. I'm terrified to have sex... I don't really have any symptoms, of course I'm barely over 4 weeks but I'm just anxiously waiting to feel pregnant! Congrats, Wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months :-)

Edit: added a few things!

C0602t · January 2014

jlworden710 said:
I'm in the exact same boat... We had a loss in November and I'm 5w2d today. I don't think the worry will ever go away, that's normal. I have just been trying to go by one of the mantras that floats around TB "today I am pregnant". That has helped get me though a few rough times so far. That and I have been working really hard to let myself celebrate the little things.

As far as symptoms I haven't really had that many either... I keep poking my boobs to make sure they're a little tender. Of course last time I didn't have any symptoms really until 7 weeks.

Hugs. I know it's hard.

I keep poking at my boobs too! How funny

MissChele09 · January 2014

I am 5w6d with my first and I am a nervous reck! I have ocassional mild cramping and spotting and every time it happens I get scared. I can't imagine the fear felt by those who have previously miscarried. My first appointment is next week so I am trying to stay calm until then. Stress will only make it worse. I find it helps to discuss my fears with DH. He helps to keep me from being overly paranoid.

Best wishes for a healthy baby.

Kvalletta13 · January 2014

So helpful! Thank you so much!! I'm a very healthy person so I'm keeping my fingers crossed for a healthy pregnancy.

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