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Long Vent!

ela81ela81
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Dh told me yesterday that his mom is coming up Christmas Eve and staying for a couple of days (at least his dad can't come). I ask if she is staying at his sisters and he said he did not know. He said she may spend the night with us on Christmas Eve. The reason I'm pissed is this is my baby's 1st Christmas, I want dh and I to get dd up and show her want santa got her. I want to wear what I want to wear (I don't like to go braless in front of others, i.e. his mom). They (his family) do sh!t like this at time that are important to me. When we came home from our honeymoon I had to tell him to tell his brother and nephew that they were not stay at our house that night, our first night home since we got married (we paid them a lot to stay there for the dogs while we were gone.....go home now!) His mom and brother stayed with us for 2 weeks, during that 2 weeks we had our 1st anniversary (how fun:(). Thank goodness it did not work out but when dd was born they(his parents) wanted to come up for a week and stay with us! We live in a 2 bedroom apartment, get a hotel room!!! My stomach was in knots right up until dd was born b/c I did not want them in our home then. They always do this. There are so many other issues I have with them (asking to "borrow" money while we were paying for ivf oop!) I just wish they would stay where they are and let us visit them when we want to. BTW, I don't say anything to dh b/c I know it's not right to tell him I'm not happy about his mom coming up. If you made it this far your a champ:) I just had to vent to somebody about it! Right or wrong it's how I feel!

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  • JBSugarJBSugar
    I would be bothered by that too.  What does your DH say?
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  • duke'sgirlduke'sgirl
    Oh, no! I'm sorry! I would feel the same way if J's parents were coming. (Obviously they live so close that we won't have to deal with this). You are entitled to how you feel, and I agree 100% about wanting Isabel's first Christmas to be just the 3 of you. Could you politely tell DH that this is what you really want, and if at all possible could his mom stay with his sister. Sorry, sweetie :(
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  • skoorbniborskoorbnibor member

    How you feel is how you feel... I understand.

    I hope they are not staying with you and maybe DH can say, We are thrilled to have you over on Christmas, we are having a quiet morning with the baby, but we'd love to see you for a late lunch (or dinner or whatever)

    I would personally ask your husband how important it is to him for his mom to be there... if it is very important to him, I would suck it up. But if he is not that concerned, I would see if she will stay elsewhere or come visit the next day. Good Luck

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  • charmcitygirlcharmcitygirl member
    Honestly, I think you need to say something to your DH.  This is your first Christmas with the baby and you want it to be just the three of you.  I don't think that's too much to ask.  DH will need to tell his mom that she'll need to stay with his sister on Christmas eve.  Don't let your MIL ruin your first Christmas...the most important person is your baby!
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  • nicolita14wnicolita14w
    Ugh, what a pain. I would feel the same way. Can DH talk to your sisters and get one of them to have your MIL stay there on Christmas eve?
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