Community› The Bump Message Boards› Multiples
Multiples
New Discussion

Evening routine

lwatkins12lwatkins12 member
in Multiples
My boys are 3 months old and since they were about 3 weeks old our evening routine starts around 4:30 with them crying/screaming/fussing until they wear themselves out for bed around 8 or 8:30. We've tried to get them in bed around 7 or 7:30. We've played with the bedtime in case they aren't early to sleep. Every single evening is a nightmare that is driving me insane. I despise the evenings and we don't know what to do. Even baths before bed don't really help. It always ends up the same. For a while we thought it was colick but now it seems like they may be teething, drooling/chewing on their fists. They're both BF. One will take a bottle sometimes but the other one wants the real thing. It's exhausting! Anyone have any suggestions? My husband also works into the evening hours a lot of the times which means when he walks in the door, I'm usually in a rage and the babies are screaming. We live a few states away from family and we have only lived here a short time so I don't really have any friends to turn to. My oldest DS is 19 and I never had these issues with him!
Report Reply to Post

Re: Evening routine

  • LottaLattesLottaLattes member
    What are their nap times like? It might help for them to have a nap around 3-4 so they aren't quite so tired, though I know before 4 months or so schedules are kind of hypothetical.

    Around that age mine were going to bed around 6:30 and I would then go downstairs and have a drink. It is rough, it will get better (hugs)
    Warning No formatter is installed for the format bbhtml
    Report Reply
  • Loading the player...
  • lwatkins12lwatkins12 member
    edited January 2014
    They wake up around 7am & they've been doing better about going back down for a nap around 9 but it doesn't usually last more than 45 minutes. L always wakes up before A. Pretty much the rest of the day is a battle for naps. L wants to be held all the time. He's gotten to where he immediately starts screaming the moment I put him down or in his swing. It's just a nightmare everyday. They sleep pretty well at night once we get them down. I try to put them down for regular naps but it always ends up with them either falling to sleep in their swing or with me holding one of them. They won't cry it out. They just keep crying. Right now, they've been at it for over 2 hours. L fell asleep and 5 minutes after I put him in bed he woke up crying. I can calm them much easier than my husband so he gets frustrated and we end up snapping at each other. We've argued more since they were born than ever. It's awful and makes me yearn for my old life of being alone.
    Report Reply
  • kbarn20kbarn20 member
    My last child did this all the time. Our pediatrician specifically explained the evening hours you mentioned are notorious for fussiness in babies. If needed, you can always put them down in their cribs/beds and walk away for a bit. They will be fine. Our last little guy ended up with acid reflux, which contributed to his crazy fussy periods. I would call your pediatrician and see if they have any suggestions. I feel for you!!!! Hang in there.
    Report Reply
  • LottaLattesLottaLattes member
    It is soooo hard, the first 4 months were bad but gets way way better. I recommend looking at EASY type sleep structure now that they are a tiny bit older and the sleep lady book helped a ton.

    My friend always joked that once you have kids you have a lot more hallway sex. AKA saying "f*** you" as you pass in the hallway. Having kids is so hard on a marriage, but it gets easier too. Take care of you too!!
    Warning No formatter is installed for the format bbhtml
    Report Reply
  • LottaLattesLottaLattes member
    And I don't know if CIO even works quite at this age yet, my friend sleep trained her quads at 5 months. Hang in there, I used to literally mentally project myself a year into the future, so dang stressful.
    Warning No formatter is installed for the format bbhtml
    Report Reply
  • carrotcake06carrotcake06 member
    Have you read about the period of purple crying? https://purplecrying.info

    My boys used to do this - it was like a switch flipped at 5pm and they screamed for hours. One of them had zero awake happy time for MONTHS.

    Can you wear the fussier one?

    My boys were 6wks early, so it wasn't until closer to 4mo that they became happier babies. And now they're all smiles and giggles.

    It's so ridiculously hard. Just take it one month, one week at a time. I bf them also and it is so much more physically draining than it ever was to bf my singleton.
    image

    image
    Report Reply
  • SWA80SWA80 member
    This is our situation exactly! It is so, so hard right now. My boys are almost 5 months, 14 weeks adjusted. I keep thinking we're about to turn a corner but if anything it has gotten harder. I know they shouldn't be up for more than two hours or so at this age, and that's great in theory but how do you get two down for a nap when both are already screaming? Or one will nap but the other refuses to sleep anywhere but on top of us and the minute he gets to sleep the other is up. I know they're over-tired much of the time but I have no idea how to fix it. Ugh.
    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
    Report Reply
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards
"
"