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• snickersforeveryone member

  January 2014

  @ikamenko, DH is OK, but has not gone for his blood work to be retested yet. This past week has just been overwhelming with yet more things hitting the fan and I think his emotional and physical stamina is just gone. Hopefully he can get in this next week.
  
  My brother...I just don't even know where to start. He did go to the doctor, but saw a different guy (VA hospital). The new guy says he doesn't think the diagnosis was right and told my brother that he just has an overgrowth of yeast in his system. My brother likes this diagnosis better, so he's not pushing to see the first doctor again. His brain is just so messed up. There's a lot going on with him right now and I'm having trouble dealing with it. He's been different for so long, but I thought that he was still basically the brother I grew up with and a good guy. I'm finding out this may not be the case. He's separated from his wife now and doesn't spend time with his kid, he apparently was abusive to SIL, he cheated on his wife with a girl who is head over heels for him (told her he wanted to leave SIL for her) then after they DTD he told her he was going to stay with his wife, we think he's got another girl on the side, and he's being downright mean to my mom. All of this came out in the last week. It's hard to admit that someone you love so deeply has chosen to be...not a good person.
  
  Wow, sorry. That got way longer than I intended. It's just a huge weight on our family right now and I have to keep it all private except for with my mom or DH.

  
  
  
  

  

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• SallySunrise member

  January 2014

  lkamenko said:

  Can I start this today?

  @eafogel - How is you DH is doing? Did he have more tests? Did he hear anything new from the doctor?  And how is your brother? They are both in my thoughts, hope you have some good news.

   

  @Meow where are you? I have not seen you on this board for a while...

  Just fixing your tag... She's @meow84, I think.

  

  
  

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• lkamenko member

  January 2014

  Wow, @eafogel, that is a lot to deal with for you. The good news is the scary diagnosis is not confirmed for your brother. I hope he clears up the mess he has got in regarding his family. Do you think he might benefit from mental counceling or evaluation?

  As for your DH push him to do the bloodwork next week. My mother had some really bad and scary liver blood tests several years ago. They put her on a medicine and she is taking those for the last 12 years and it keeps the levels under control and she has not have any problems since then. 

  

   

   

  

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• snickersforeveryone member

  January 2014

  @ikamenko, thanks for the well wishes. I know my brother would benefit from counseling, but he will not go because he doesn't think he has any kind of problem.
  
  I will definitely keep bugging DH until he goes. And he does want to go, things have just been really rough around here and it got put on the back burner. I'm glad to hear your mom can control her levels with medication, it makes me feel like things will be OK.

  
  
  
  

  

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• SallySunrise member

  January 2014

  @MissMusic I just bookmarked this thread so I can read your suggestions again in August when Ben turns five.  I know the info wasn't really for me, but thank you!

  

  
  

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• snickersforeveryone member

  January 2014

  @aimee223, the last I knew they were considering a divorce and adoption for the LO, but they moved right after that as a family and we lost track of them.

  
  
  
  

  

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• snickersforeveryone member

  January 2014

  aimee223 said:

  
  

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  @aimee223, the last I knew they were considering a divorce and adoption for the LO, but they moved right after that as a family and we lost track of them.

  
  

  wow. sounds like a bad situation. I hope the LO is doing ok
  
  
  Me too. She was a sweet little thing and no baby should be in that situation.

  
  
  
  

  

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• lkamenko member

  January 2014

  kiranata said:

  cbear2010 said:

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  @Kiranata I hope everything is going well for you and LO. I know you posted about having an "exit" plan from your DH and I hope things have turned around for you! Let us know how you are doing!

  Yeah, we've been working through things, things got crazy busy with the holiday season, and then my MIL decided to go BSC, so I've been MIA, but happy to report that we are doing a lot better, still have a VERY long way to go though.

  Oh I'm so glad to hear things are at least a little better!! Check in more often if you can!!

  Yeah, but battling other issues too. Something a little irksome when we are playing cards with friends and he is the ONLY one drinking, he drinks every night, not exactly in excess, but every night, 3 or 4 beers, definitely adds up, and makes me wonder if we have bigger underlying issues

  @Kiratana - this does sounds worrisome. 4 beers every night is escess IMO.  My H had drinking problems and the worst thing is denial. I hope he can admit he is having problem and get help.
  

  

   

   

  

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