Anatomy Scan question

BrittanyL14 · January 2014

Hello ladies-
So my a/s apt is Feb.6th and I am so excited!!! But now my mom and sister want to come to the apt with my husband and I which I understand because we are a very close family but I'm not sure how I feel about them coming or if that's a common thing for family to come to the a/s apt..have any of you brought family members to your a/s apt?

SchoolPsychSteph · January 2014

I invited MIL to mine. I agree with mrsgerman just say the doctor will only allow spouses.

katiebartton · January 2014

I had both my DH and mom. If you want additional family there I say go for it (you might want to call to check if there is a max allowance). I think it's pretty common to take parents etc.

mschware · January 2014

Most places actually won't allow you to have more than 1 or 2 guests come in the room. At the place I work we only allow 2 people (usually just one tho) and no kids. So if you don't want to stress about telling them that you don't want them to come, you can just tell them that they won't allow multiple people to come in the room!

mattscountrygirl · January 2014

My Dh will only be going. No one else has sat in on any appointments other than my dh. If you only want dh there tell others they do not allow more than one visitor.

MississippiCatfish · January 2014

For my husband and I, it was a really personal experience, especially finding out the baby's sex. I'm glad that we did it alone, but everyone is different!

b48kate · January 2014

Will only be my husband and I at mine. While amazing, this is still a medical procedure, and I really wouldn't want my sono tech distracted.

That said I am doing a scan at a maternity boutique (I call this my "vanity scan") in February so that my Mom can be there for an u/s.

I think PPs are right on...say it is against policy to have more than one guest in the room.

ELC252011 · January 2014

I agree with PPs, anatomy scans are more personal especially if you find out the sex. If they really want to come to an ultrasound I would so a 3d/4d they're more fun anyway.

PinkKEL9 · January 2014

My mom and dad came with DH and I. We are really close to them and this is their first grandchild. It was so cool to see their reaction to seeing baby moving around. I think we all cried.

StacyH0507 · January 2014

My mom was in town and came to one of my ultrasound appointments, but I will say they only had two seats so I would call and check.

KeyLime81 · January 2014

As PPs have mentioned, you can just say it's office policy to not allow more visitors. My OB office actually has a policy that you are only allowed to bring one other person to the a/s...and no kids. I just sort of assumed that was the "norm". After all, the tech has a pretty important job to do.

Lynnja616 · January 2014

Just DH for me. Personal choice. My current OB also limits guests to 2.

mrs_drc_rn · January 2014

It will only be DH and I. I feel it's a special moment for us to share and he totally agrees. My mom is very respectful and never even thought it was an option for her to go, but my MIL asked if she could go (after seeming to drop hints about it) so we had to tell her no.

chickpea912 · January 2014

DH couldn't come to mine, and given the in depth nature of mine (they did a fetal echocardiogram as well), I asked MIL to come so I wouldn't be alone if I received bad news.

Read247 · January 2014

Keep in mind an anatomy scan is not just finding out the sex. They measure the baby from top to bottom including: the four chambers of the heart, the kidneys, bladder, stomach, brain, spine, umbilical cord, placenta and sex organs to identify potential problems and track growth. Are you okay with the possibility of find out bad news in front of other people?

The u/s room at my doctor's office is extremely small. With just me, my DH and the tech there the room feels crowded. I would ask the u/s tech if you can record it or schedule an elective scan for additional family members. Honestly I think its rude when people ask to come to scans or the delivery. If you wanted them there you would ask them.

Shineoncrazy · January 2014

I invited my mom and 12 year old little sister . It was actually a really neat experience, and I'm glad they were there. My little sister was convinced of the baby's sex since we told her, so it was sweet for her to get to be there and do "grown up" stuff. With that said, I totally understand why many people choose to have a more private experience with just DHs.

hlp2709 · January 2014

When I go for the big one I only have my husband there. You could always say that you plan on telling everyone at the same time. Or even say it just something u and ur husband want to be there.

christinemurray91 · January 2014

Its a little strange to me, but mainly because our ultrasound techs dont let anyone in the room until after they're done all their shots, then they call the dad (or whoever) from the waiting room for a quick viewing.

I'm a pretty private person and even in labour, it will just be DH and me... but if you don't feel comfortable having them there, just say no, or tell them they prefer to only have one, but you'll show them the pics after.

k2k2tog · January 2014

Keep in mind, the a/s scan is long, since they're looking at absolutely everything. My ultrasound clinic told me that DH doesn't even have to arrive until the last 15 minutes of my appointment, since it will be at least 45 minutes. It would be a lot of waiting around for guests to do.

I found my NT scan to be a little... uncomfortable and awkward. I was way more exposed than I would have liked for a good portion of it, so I would not have been happy with anyone other DH there. But, if you're close to them, want them there, and the clinic is ok with it, why not?

christinemurray91 · January 2014

amoot890 said:

I think it's super private. But I also won't be telling anyone until after the birth that I've gone into labor.

I feel like you and I are two of the few who feel this way. No fb posts that I'm going to the hospital, etc. I want to have baby without that pressure and then call family like "surprise! baby is here!"

Mrs_D_in_KY · January 2014

I would tell them the office limits you to one guest because of the small size of the room. DH will be coming to mine and also our 4 year old. I had an in depth cervical length check just a few days ago so it will cut down on my time for the anatomy scan.

christinemurray91 · January 2014

amoot890 said:

christinemurray91 said:

amoot890 said:

I think it's super private. But I also won't be telling anyone until after the birth that I've gone into labor.

I feel like you and I are two of the few who feel this way. No fb posts that I'm going to the hospital, etc. I want to have baby without that pressure and then call family like "surprise! baby is here!"

@christinemurray91 Twinsies! We shared the sex tonight with our parents - It's a GIRL! And they were all very excited. Later on MIL says that we need to call her and my mom (who was standing right there) when I go into labor no matter the time so that they can hang out in the waiting room together. I said they would get a call when it was done & over. I think they thought I was joking.. At least neither said they wanted to be in the deliver room! I'm gonna call that a win

My mom jokingly suggested that we just invite them over to dinner and surprise, the baby is there. I rather liked her idea.

I might cave later and call to give a heads-up, but there is no way that I would want people hanging around waiting for me to expel a baby from uterus.

Haha, my sister's in law's hung out the entire time she was in labour her first time, and she was so overwhelmed with them being there, and coming in to "check on her"... She was in labour for almost a full day and her MIL had the nerve to ask why it was taking so long, since she just pushed once and ta-da! Her son was there... yeah.

We`re team yellow this time, not sharing the gender or names, since my MIL was pretty openly disappointed about DD being a girl. Never again. So, it`ll be extra exciting. We`ll call when baby is born "Christine went into labour, baby is here!" and once they get there, "Meet your grandbaby! Its a ______ (we find out tm), and his/her name is ______!"

Since it'll be our second and last, I'm really excited to keep it private and have that big reveal at the end.

Congrats on the girl!! Girls are so much fun

Edit: Grammar fails.

BabyCurtiss2014 · January 2014

Our doc only allowed spouse/father or someone taking his place if he was not able to come. It's something the two of you should share together... Just the two of you.

BrittanyL14 · January 2014

Thank you all!!! My husband and I talked about it and we are going to
Do the anatomy scan just the 2 of us

My mom and sister can come to a different apt further along thanks again for the advice!

justme04 · January 2014

My mother came with us to my a/a when I was pregnant with my first. Because we lived in the area at the time and she took us out to lunch after. Since it's just been me DH and any previous children

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