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  • How are you planning to be a work at home mom? More than likely you would still need child are which it sounds like you don't really have. When you say you have babysitters lined up, is this a daycare or an assortment of people who agree to watch your ds? Is there a reason you don't just have him enrolled in a child are facility. We had dd in an in home daycare when I first went back to work and it was awful and inconsistent but not like you're describing. We switched to a center, pay through the nose, but it's wonderful and consistent.
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  • I'm confused ?  Have you talked to your current employer about working from home ?  Like PP said, even if they do, you will most likely need to find child care.  
  • I'm a little confused. Are you in the position that SAH is financially feasible? Do you want to SAH? Or are you just so fed up with childcare issues that you're considering SAH? Is there a reason you're using a mish mosh of cildcare rather than a set full time sitter or childcare center?
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  • Why can't you just find a regular daycare or a nanny? You can't really work at home without childcare anyways

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  • I'm going to take a wild guess that you don't have reliable childcare becaus you can't afford it. Which means you also can't afford to quit your job

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  • QueSyrah said:
    She might be back long enough to tell us how mean we are.
    And I haven't even said anything yet!!


  • Hi! Not gonna lie, it's hard to give really good advice since I don't have the clearest picture of your situation, but I will say this....

    1). Before you decide to leave work, do the math and figure out if you can swing it financially (ie all the bills are paid, you have an emergency fund, can contribute to savings) You might need to cut some things out, but you should make sure the bases are covered....if you're living paycheck to paycheck now might not be the right time.

    2). I work at home super part time...like 10 hours a week....and that's pretty much the most I can do on my own. Childcare is a job in and of itself (in that it requires time, attention, and energy), and kids aren't like sitcom kids that will just go off and play while you get work done. I do all my work after the babies are in bed, and, like I said, that's just 10 hours a week or less. Bottom line: if you were going to work full-time from home, you would still need childcare.

    3). Ditto PPs that maybe you should try to find better childcare options. Have you considered a nanny?

    4). I reread your post and saw the line about you having the dream to do it. If the desire is there, you can afford it (see item 1), and your H is on board, go for it! It will be an adjustment, and can be isolating, but there are many wonderful things about it too. Good luck to you either way!
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  • Hav=Fath said:
    And if you do keep working why don't you enroll your LO in a daycare center or find a reliable childcare so he has stability while you're away? I would want him to always be at the same place.
    This is what I don't understand. 

    OP: If you need/want to keep working the easiest and most sensible option is to get him into a daycare. So much less stressful and consistency for him. 

    If you want to stay home, that's great - can you afford to do it on your H's salary? 

    This! Why not a normal 6-6 daycare?
  • NikinDanKNikinDanK member
    edited January 2014
    I think posting on here was a mistake. Thank you for your input though.
  • And I definitely appreciate your kind advice ladies and I will be taking all of it into consideration, but I think I'm a bit too sensitive to subject myself to the unnecessary snarkiness I see on the message boards, It's not really my thing. Best of luck to you.
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