Belly Touchers

Prncesta · January 2014

Since announcing my pregnancy I've noticed that everyone wants to touch my belly! I'm 14 weeks and barely showing, and I feel like when they touch the "baby" it's really just the fat stomach I've developed from eating! Is there anyway to nicely tell people I don't want them to touch me? I just hate being rubbed down all the time and I feel violated this early in pregnancy! Maybe when I actually have a baby belly, and not a food belly I won't mind lol

Is anyone else experiencing this?

reils500 · January 2014

When I was pregnant with DS my aunts boyfriend kept touching my belly, so I rubbed his potbelly. He got the point.

BoraBoraBaby · January 2014

I personally love it.

jensavicci · January 2014

If I'm obviously doing something busy and someone's like oooo lemme touch! I'm like uhh no. But if I'm with family and its a relaxed time, I don't mind it at all. Especially the kids! They love talking to the baby. It's precious. Otherwise, it's against the law in Pennsylvania (which is where i live) to touch random women's bumps.

NCbeachgirl2452 · January 2014

I have started telling people I know to be belly touchers that I am trying desperately to avoid the flu and not wanting to be touched at all! Seemed to work on my SIL who touches me too much even while not pregnant! Don't know what I will say after flu season tho

melissaquinn106 · January 2014

I teach in a high school and even though it's only a little bump now some of the girls are obsessed with touching it. I can't say I mind but it's a little weird. They are so excited I'm pregnant for when they are in school. I can only imagine what it will be like when I'm actually sporting a huge belly. It doesn't really bother me just yet but we shall see, I don't think I have the heart to tell them they aren't allowed to touch it even if it does bother me anyhow.

marydannielle · January 2014

I've never understood why people do this!

I've had two touches so far. The first, my SIL rubbed my belly fat when I announced I was pregnant and said, "I thought you were looking a little chunky." Ugh.

The second was at work and it wasn't really weird b/c she is such a sweet lady and she was so excited for me and said, "I just love babies!"

Either way, I just can't relate to the desire to touch another person like that. So awkward.

MonkeyJD · January 2014

I had this happen last week. After church my pastor hugged me & patted my belly. I was completely freaked out. Now I keep my hands in front of my stomach so people can't reach me.

JayNanetteCupcake · January 2014

I just tell people I am uncomfortable with people touching my uterus.

seells · January 2014

My MIL and DHs grandmothers especially like to rub my belly. I just let them. They are old and excited and I would look like the meanest bitch around if I told them to stop! Now if it was anybody else (close friends and certain family members excluded) I would tell them to back the fuck up.

When I was pregnant with DD a stranger told me I was a bitch when she came up to me and rubbed my belly and I told her to step off. I don't understand why pregnancy automatically means it's okay for strangers to touch me.

Edited because words.

INmommy871278 · January 2014

I don't have a poker face when I am caught off guard, like then sigh or lady who is very sweet but when I said we were expecting she rubbed my belly and I know I had a horribly shocked face. Seems to work though because the act stops just as quickly as it begins. I also attempt to fold my arms over my belly to keep people from getting to close.

JayNanetteCupcake · January 2014

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knitsandgiggles · January 2014

I must be intimidating. Nobody ever tries to touch my belly.

DD has a new game of lifting my shirt and "kissing" my belly. It is more of a slobber all over me type thing. It's cute because she does it so randomly (only at home). Part of me thinks she is actually trying to find some boob to nurse and is waaaaaay off.

Anybody else, I'd be like:

marsalisails · January 2014

I "playfully" slap their hand away, and say "no toque!" in Spanish. They laugh b/c I make it a joke, but never touch me again.

Prncesta · January 2014

JayNanetteCupcake said:
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This would be the perfect shirt for all of us! I have to be honest, I actually laughed out loud reading these comments and it made me realize I'm not the only one who is having this issue!

cakebatter27 · January 2014

I love it. But no one's done it to me yet. It depends who it is. I'd obviously say no effing way to any guy besides DH or my dad. And I don't see my dad doing it unless baby's kicking and I tell him too.

Any women I know though. ..bring it on.

littlesparrow602 · January 2014

Yep, just do what I do. When they touch your belly, immediately touch theirs back. They'll take the hint.

noragerman86 · January 2014

I totally feel the same way. I'm 15 weeks and showing a little but still feeling like it's more fat from bad holiday eating and not working out fbough. I don't have a "bump" my whole stomach is fatter from under the boobs on down. I just feel it's an excuse for people to point out my fat and make me feel self conscious . When I have a nice big bump I don't mind as much.

SweetTamale38 · January 2014

When I'm popping out, I will put up a rope and a concession stand -- it's likely my last shot at this, and I am happy to share this brief little window of time where people are excited that a baby is coming.

BlueFox181 · January 2014

I own a silkscreen- I am about to make myself a shirt that says "touch me and die"... I think that maybe, people will get the hint

Heather100612 · January 2014

I've always had what I have dubbed 'personal space issues' so most people around me know my stance. I've been pretty vocal around fam and friends that I don't mind, but please just wait until it's an actual bump. As far as strangers/acquaintances though- that's where my anxiety sets in. I think I kind of, unintentionally, give off a bit of a bitch/defensive vibe, so no one has attempted yet. If anyone tries in public, like in line at Target, I will probably loose my mind, I don't even know what I would do. I just can't fathom why people thinks that's okay. I'm seriously considering getting this shirt:

singingirl96 · January 2014

When my belly got big during my last pregnancy I didn't mind it too much. In fact, I would tell people when he was kicking so they could feel him kick... but when you're not quite showing yet and its all just blubber... it is very weird.

jcartz · January 2014

Touch theirs! That was the only way I got the point across to strangers -- like the random dude in CVS who felt it was appropriate to touch my belly while in line. So I asked when he was due and touched his as well. He got it and apologized.
Family? I don't care - go ahead. Close friends usually asked & I don't care either. Strangers? I'll never get why they think it's appropriate. Luckily I'm not showing yet really, but I'll be bolder this time!

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youreggoispreggo · January 2014

I don't think I will mind close friends when I'm actually showing, but I'd prefer they ask. However, right now it's all just blubber and I have a guy friend who has touched my belly a few times. When I told him I didn't like it he said, "well you better get used to it." He's kind of naive and I know he was well intentioned but... seriously dude. Plus, this was a few weeks ago when baby was even lower so he wasn't even touching where the baby was!

lizzasarah · January 2014

it's soooooo wrong and soooo annoying. I'm 16 weeks tomorrow and there is seriously no "bump" as the rest of you say too. it's just a tummy. it catches me so off guard and no matter how much i want to do the best solution, which is touching there's right back, i just can't do it. so far they have been nice women i know as close acquaintances so i feel bad saying anything. i think the second time i worked up the guts to step back. i guess i care more about making others feel bad? i don't know, but I hope to work up the guts more as I get bigger, b/c i cannot let this continue. idk WHAT i would do if a random man from cvs did that! omg!!!

Skeemer · January 2014

reils500 said:

When I was pregnant with DS my aunts boyfriend kept touching my belly, so I rubbed his potbelly. He got the point.

When I was pregnant with DS2 I got so sick of people trying to touch my stomach. Um...the baby is INSIDE my stomach so what makes you think groping my belly is the same thing as touching the baby?

Anyway, one random woman at my church who I barely know began rubbing my stomach. I reached out & started rubbing hers too. The look on her face was PRICELESS. Needless to say, she never touched my stomach again.

carolinecutie · January 2014

I haven't told any one at work, and when I'm wearing normal clothes I just look like I've got a bit of blub around my middle… so no touching yet.

I don't think I will mind when I am huge and the belly feels like it belongs to the baby and not me, but we'll see how I feel when that time comes…

Also, I'm in England and I have no idea if people (strangers) do the belly touching thing as much here...

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