Adoption/Fostering Weekly Check In - January 13th! -

hey_its_jenn · January 2014

I hope everyone is done being cold and frozen over and looking forward to warmer days ahead! Last week was terrible here!

Here we go!

1.) What process are you/have you been involved with in the fostering/adopting world?

2.) Who are you in the triad?

3.) How are things going lately? Any YAYs or UGHs happening? Let's hear them!

4.) What's the most recent accomplishment for you/your family?

5.) QOTW: What led you to the choice adoption/fostering? Was it failed IVF, a calling or was it something else for AP/PAP? And for BM and EM, how did you come to this choice?

Have a good week everyone!

bumpuser794640 · January 2014

1) DIA
2) PAP
3) yay - we had our first meeting with an emom and it went really well. Ugh- she's meeting one more family on Thursday, so it'll be Friday at least before we know anything
4) see #3
5) we have MFI, and after corrective surgery didn't improve dh's #s we decided being parents was more important than conceiving, so we set our sights on adoption.

hey_its_jenn · January 2014

1.) DIA

2.) PAP

3.) Ughs: Our social worker had to cancel last week for the home inspection because of the weather but YAY: She is coming this Wednesday! We also have our education class coming up on Sunday and then we should be able to start creating our profile and writing our letter to the BM which I'm super nervous for!

4.) We are getting a new back door put in on Wednesday (while the SW will be there, of course). And we finally decided on a color to paint the nursery so hopefully we can start that project pretty soon!

5.) QOTW: DH was diagnosed with Testicular Cancer and had to have surgery to have the testicle removed. His urologist said that natural conception would be extremely unlikely and even IVF would be a difficult path so we instead started looking into adoption. A very close friend of mine all through school is a BM and my brother's best friend is adopted so we had very long talks with both people and felt like adoption was the right choice for us.

sumati · January 2014

1.) What process are you/have you been involved with in the fostering/adopting world? DIA

2.) Who are you in the triad? PAP

3.) How are things going lately? Any YAYs or UGHs happening? Let's hear them! Ugh.. Still waiting to hear from our agency about scheduling the home study.

4.) What's the most recent accomplishment for you/your family? I started some seeds this weekend to try to plant a veggie garden this spring.

5.) QOTW: What led you to the choice adoption/fostering? Was it failed IVF, a calling or was it something else for AP/PAP? And for BM and EM, how did you come to this choice? We always planned to adopt. The plan was to have a child and adopt the second, but we had 3 miscarriages and a year of unexplained infertility after the last miscarriage. We did not want to try IVF b/c with the history of miscarriages, it made it a huge gamble. So we decided to adopt baby #1 and hold off TTC for a while and TTC baby #2 a year or so after adopting (or adopt baby #2).

Stacy092306 · January 2014

1) IA from Moldova. Dossier waiting to be registered since September.

2) PAP

3) Ugh. Found out trip one might require a 6 week stay. Trying to figure out how to budget for that and get the time off work.

4) Finally got our storage room all organized a year after our move. Now, I need to work on painting the spare bedroom.

5) After years of ttc (severe MFI), we did IVF for DD. We tried again with IVF when DD was 1.5 years old, and on the second try in 2011, I ended up in the hospital with abdominal bleeding, which was a totally out of pocket stay thanks to no insurance coverage for problems associated with IVF. This freaked DH out because of the threat to my life and the expense, and he wanted nothing to do with IVF again. I researched adoption, and DH finally got on board in January 2013.

pleasebeonsale · January 2014

1.) What process are you/have you been involved with in the fostering/adopting world? DIA

2.) Who are you in the triad? PAP

3.) How are things going lately? Any YAYs or UGHs happening? Let's hear them! It's been really weird since being approved and just waiting. On the one hand, it's YAY, we aren't going over paperwork EVERY night! On the other hand, it's like, UGH, I have nothing to do and no control over anything. lol It's just weird.

4.) What's the most recent accomplishment for you/your family? I don't know. I think just that life has been pretty calm lately.

5.) QOTW: What led you to the choice adoption/fostering? Was it failed IVF, a calling or was it something else for AP/PAP? And for BM and EM, how did you come to this choice? I had uterine cancer several years ago. While adoption is something we always hoped we'd do, this made it the plan.

Have a good week everyone!

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maryoosa · January 2014

1.) What process are you/have you been involved with in the fostering/adopting world? Domestic Infant Adoption

2.) Who are you in the triad? Adoptive Mom

3.) How are things going lately? Any YAYs or UGHs happening? Let's hear them! Yay: Baby is awesome, two visits with birth family in last two weeks. UGH: We are in a holding pattern. We can't move toward finalization because our agency is waiting for something (a 2 page signature form) from their legal counsel. Our lawyer has supposedly contacted their lawyer- but we don't know if he has heard back yet. We have been eligible for finalization since late October. I am frustrated and angry and anxious.

4.) What's the most recent accomplishment for you/your family? We are still waiting for finalization.

5.) QOTW: What led you to the choice adoption/fostering? Was it failed IVF, a calling or was it something else for AP/PAP? And for BM and EM, how did you come to this choice?

Ever since I found out how babies were born I thought that I'd adopt. I remember telling my mom when I was six that I'd adopt. I'm glad to be making progress toward that.

aligross · January 2014

1.) What process are you/have you been involved with in the fostering/adopting world? DIA

2.) Who are you in the triad? PAP

3.) How are things going lately? Any YAYs or UGHs happening? Let's hear them! Ugh... Christmas really stunk this year! My dad was diagnosed with Cancer on the 12th of December and passed away on the 25th. The whole month is really still a blur and I am just starting to realize that we are almost 1/2 way through January!

YAY... During the 2 weeks before dad passed away he and I had many talks about our future baby... he promised me that when he got to Heaven he'd be talking to God! So, I know without a doubt in my heart that I now have an angel working on this adoption!

We also needed something to focus on after the funeral/family gatherings so the Hubs and I painted the nursery... we LOVE it.

4.) What's the most recent accomplishment for you/your family? Painting the nursery was a huge undertaking... we did stripes to coordinate with our bedding... it's SO stinkin adorable and fun! I find myself walking into the room and peering in and just smiling every time I pass it!

5.) QOTW: What led you to the choice adoption/fostering? Was it failed IVF, a calling or was it something else for AP/PAP? And for BM and EM, how did you come to this choice?

We tried to conceive naturally for 1.5 years and with no success we knew that the underlying problem was most likely because about 5 years ago the hubs was diagnosed with a rare auto-immune disorder and to 'kill' it off (without killing him) he went through some pretty tough chemo treatments! It took us no time at all after we got the news to decide to begin the adoption process!

kushie77 · January 2014

1. DIA
2.PAP
3. Home study visit done last week. YAY! Waiting for our profile book to get the OK. Agency said we should be active by first of the month.
4. We picked out a crib and some bedding so cute. It's white, grey and yellow and owls.
5. Severe MFIF. Was told varicocele is so big surgery wouldn't do much to help. It was more important to be parents then pregnant and neither of us was comfortable using donor sperm. No particular reason why, just not what we wanted to do.

hansa11 · January 2014

1.) What process are you/have you been involved with in the fostering/adopting world?

IA

2.) Who are you in the triad?

PAP

3.) How are things going lately? Any YAYs or UGHs happening? Let's hear them!

Yay - Our dossier is at the Chinese Embassy being translated...getting closer...
Ugh - A few weeks ago I thought we had a possibility of getting our dossier to China in time to be eligible for the release of the January shared list, but there's not a chance of that now.

4.) What's the most recent accomplishment for you/your family?

I was going to say taking our tree and Christmas decorations down, but oh, wait, they're still up....

5.) QOTW: What led you to the choice adoption/fostering?

I've always wanted to adopt, and while my husband was open to the idea in theory, it took him a long time to get on board with actually pursuing adoption. I was hospitalized last year with an ectopic pregnancy and I think that experience finally made him okay with shutting the door to the possibility of more biological children.

MileHighMaam · January 2014

1.) What process are you/have you been involved with in the fostering/adopting world?

Starting the foster to adopt process

2.) Who are you in the triad?

PAP

3.) How are things going lately? Any YAYs or UGHs happening? Let's hear them!

Received the second round of paperwork to fill out. Registered for the first aid and CPR class.

4.) What's the most recent accomplishment for you/your family?

I'm beating jet lag! Travelling for work this week has been tough, and I get to this all over again when I return next week.

5.) QOTW: What led you to the choice adoption/fostering? Was it failed IVF, a calling or was it something else for AP/PAP? And for BM and EM, how did you come to this choice?

I got married in my late 30's and when we were discussing families I told my then BF that I would prefer to adopt an older child than to be pregnant at 40 and have our children graduating HS when I wanted to retire. He was on board with this plan so here we are.

Chele · January 2014

1.) What process are you/have you been involved with in the fostering/adopting world?

2.) Who are you in the triad? Potential adoptive mother

3.) How are things going lately? Any YAYs or UGHs happening? Let's hear them! Not a darn thing happening!!

4.) What's the most recent accomplishment for you/your family? Just waiting

5.) QOTW: What led you to the choice adoption/fostering? I got married later in life and we figured we had about a year or two to get pregnant and it never happened. We toyed around about which type of adoption to attempt and after planning for a couple years to start international, I just thought one day that going through foster care made more sense for us and I got the ball rolling right away. We've been licensed since October, I think, but don't have a placement yet, either for straight foster or potential adoption.

Sparky1014 · January 2014

1. Older child adoption from Foster Care

2. Potential Adoptive Mother

3. Just started paperwork with DCFS, there's a young girl who would be a wonderful fit for my family, and I'd like to bring her home if she'll have me.

4. Making the commitment to start and follow through on this process.

5. I've always wanted to be a mom, but never saw myself with a baby. When I was younger, I always thought why bring another child into this world when there are already so may here without a loving mother. My views on that haven't changed much in the last 15 years.

justjinny · January 2014

1.) What process are you/have you been involved with in the fostering/adopting world? DIA

2.) Who are you in the triad? Adoptive Mom

3.) How are things going lately? Any YAYs or UGHs happening? Let's hear them! This was my last week of leave from work. I'm actually looking forward to getting back into projects at work, but really really not looking forward to doing the first drop off at daycare on Monday.

4.) What's the most recent accomplishment for you/your family? We heard from our social worker that they finally set a court date for the birthparents to terminate rights. LO's 3 months old, so, yeah... it's about time!

5.) QOTW: What led you to the choice adoption/fostering? Was it failed IVF, a calling or was it something else for AP/PAP? And for BM and EM, how did you come to this choice? After a year of TTC we found out that I have DOR and the success rates for IVF were really low for us. We couldn't justify putting 12K down for a 25% chance at a bio-baby, so we changed our focus to adoption. DH was/is really not into IVF, but I'm still up for giving it a try someday (maybe) if we can justify the expense & risk. At the time we decided to stop trying with the fertility treatments, I was just completely emotionally drained. Our adoption journey had been very good for "resetting" me to a place where I'm happy with life again.

annalisel · January 2014

hey_its_jenn said:

1.) What process are you/have you been involved with in the fostering/adopting world? DIA
2.) Who are you in the triad? (Potential) adoptive mom
4.) What's the most recent accomplishment for you/your family?
We had our first post placement visit with the state. The social worker was positive and encouraging, but the meeting just made me feel like we are still so far away from finalization.
3.) How are things going lately? Any YAYs or UGHs happening? Let's hear them!
Work is giving us a baby shower this week!
5.) QOTW: What led you to the choice adoption/fostering? Was it failed IVF, a calling or was it something else for AP/PAP? And for BM and EM, how did you come to this choice?
We talked about adoption as an option even while doing fertility treatments. We gave IUI/IVF a try because it seemed easier, but it didn't take long for us to feel done with that route. Neither experiencing pregnancy nor a genetic connection was ever all that important to us. It probably helped that both of us have infertility issues.

Have a good week everyone!

lorifromwi · January 2014

1.) What process are you/have you been involved with in the fostering/adopting world? DIA

2.) Who are you in the triad? PAP, I'm also an adoptee...so I guess I get two triads!

3.) How are things going lately? Any YAYs or UGHs happening? Let's hear them! The YAY is that we're almost done filling out the paperwork, and that after another setback in TTC this morning the DH seems more committed to getting the papers in!

4.) What's the most recent accomplishment for you/your family? I am changing jobs at work and the DH just got a promotion. This will certainly help cover all the medical bills from trying to get a LO in the house!

5.) QOTW: What led you to the choice adoption/fostering? Was it failed IVF, a calling or was it something else for AP/PAP? And for BM and EM, how did you come to this choice? We've been trying for over three years and have conceived twice (once natural, once IUI) both ending in MC at six weeks. While we are still TTC, we are both approaching 40 and really want to share our family with children. We can't afford infertility and private adoption at the same time, so we decided to be foster parents being open to adoption. We'd like a few kids, so if we conceive along the way...yay!

m5858 · January 2014

1.) What process are you/have you been involved with in the fostering/adopting world? DIA

2.) Who are you in the triad? PAP

3.) How are things going lately? Any YAYs or UGHs happening? Let's hear them! *YAY* My DH and I painted the nursery, which was a huge undertaking since we had to clean out that room. (It was my sewing and craft room.) Now I'm stuck sorting, donating, and trying to find a new place to put things. Luckily, we have two separate living rooms, so I'm converting the front one to my work space. It feels really nice to begin the nesting process (even though we're still in the HS phase). Also, I got a great deal on a snugabunny bouncer and swing on Craigslist. *UGH* We haven't completed the fingerprinting or the biographical narrative for our home study. I've written a bit of mine, but my hubby has been so swamped with school and work, I don't know if he'll find the time. I'm worried this is going to be a problem. Tomorrow, I need to email our SW who's doing the HS and see what she says about turning in the narrative later.

4.) What's the most recent accomplishment for you/your family? Painting the nursery.

5.) QOTW: What led you to the choice adoption/fostering? Was it failed IVF, a calling or was it something else for AP/PAP? And for BM and EM, how did you come to this choice? My chronic health problems have led me to adoption. My doctor says pregnancy would be very hard on my body and the medicines used to treat my symptoms are category x (i.e. causes birth defects). I won't let my body deny me motherhood.

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March 2014 - RE appt.
April 2014- Saline sono all's good, terrible SA results - 8 sperm found all abnormal
May 2014- Fert Urology- Bilateral varicoceles, recommend Donor Sperm