I need your opinion!

ugoglencoco · January 2014

So DH and I just got in a huge fight. We have two sets of friends getting married in August and up until today we only knew the date of one of them and it turns out they are on the same day. About a month ago we had a conversation about what we would do if they were on the same day and he said we would go to my friends wedding since it's one of my oldest friends and I'm in the wedding. Now that he knows that his friends wedding is on the same day, he wants to go to their wedding instead. They aren't super close friends and he has only known them since college. Am I wrong for being mad and telling him he has to go to my friends wedding?? It's in Rhode Island and we have rented a cottage for the entire week leading up to the wedding. I'm mostly angry because we already had a conversation about it and now he's going back on his word. Am I just being crazy?!

ETA: I will be going to the wedding I am in regardless of what DH chooses!

notkateanymore · January 2014

Well he doesn't have to do anything since he's an adult, but I would also be angry at him for going against the plan that he agreed to previously. Personally I would just go along with your plans for your friends wedding and let him worry about figuring out what to do about his friend's wedding...I would bet he ends up going with the original plan.

FutureMrsCaesar · January 2014

No, I think you're justified.

ugoglencoco · January 2014

Blah. Realized how terribly that is written there. I should have said asking him to go to my friends wedding. Totally sounded like a major bitch.

greenbeanqueen · January 2014

If you're in the wedding logically you would go to the one you're in?

ugoglencoco · January 2014

@greenbeanqueen yes, I will be going to the one I am in either way!

edenkeever · January 2014

So you're in the wedding? Then it's not even a discussion. You've committed to being there so that's where you should be. Too bad so sad DH.

adawn1981 · January 2014

What @KateMW said.

azmama20 · January 2014

I think you're justified. And you should go to the wedding you are in.

lilypienmessimy · January 2014

He did say he would go to your friends wedding a while ago so I'd hope he would stick with the original plan...especially since you have a cottage the entire week prior to the wedding. Personally, I'd be pissed if my DH went back on his word and I would want him with me. The cottage sounds amazing, it's a little trip you have beforehand so I hope he decides to go with you!

BoothBaby · January 2014

FutureMrsCaesar said:

No, I think you're justified.

Agreed. I'd be super annoyed too.

lp0 · January 2014

I'd be pissed too. Especially since you are renting a cottage the week prior.

peitri · January 2014

Heaven802002 said:

You go to your friends wedding and he goes to his. Problem solved.

I was going to say this too.

dbucks · January 2014

I'd be annoyed, but if he was really set on it, I'd just say he should go to his friend's and you to yours. Not fun to be at a wedding without him, but you'll get over it.