To keep the baby?

Jragena · January 2014

My SO is not on board with the pregnancy.

We have been in a stable relationship and are buying a house together.

The pregnancy was unplanned and he doesn't want kids. I've always wanted kids (I'm 32), but am considering all my options.

I don't have a strong support base, and I don't know how to deal with pregnancy symptoms, a break up, a move, and having to make the best decisions for another life. I'm more scared about getting through the pregnancy than raising a child on my own, and I feel so lonely in not being able to discuss what is happening inside me with anyone.

MinnesotaMomma91 · January 2014

None of us on this board can tell you what to do. Sorry. But the best i can do for you that if you choose to stay pregnant and your so chooses to end things. You are strong enough to do it on your own. But dont expect him to suddenly change his mind and want to be involved once the baby is born.

Hes been up front with you, he never wanted kids, hes not on board with the pregnancy.

Gamera3000 · January 2014

I would never, ever consider a man's opinion about whether or not to continue a pregnancy.

When I got pregnant I was terrified but happy.

My sister and one of my friends have had abortions (my sister has three kids as well). They didn't feel attached to the baby when they found out and were afraid they'd "have" to have the baby.

I think you should search your own feelings and go through with the pregnancy only if YOU want to.

tig594 · January 2014

I obviously don't know the circumstances surrounding your conception, but if he didn't want kids maybe he should have been more careful about not getting you pregnant. I think you should keep the baby but that's just my opinion because I really don't think abortion is an option nor should it be used as a form of birth control. Not trying to be mean...just my 2 cents.

That being said, I am a 43 year old woman with thyroid issues and type-1 diabetes who had pre-e at the end of my pregnancy. I saw specialists throughout my entire pregnancy. It was a lot of work and I was scared I'd miscarry DD like the 2 before her. I was also scared shitless about being responsible for another human being. Let me tell you, my little girl is worth every second of the worry and frustrations I had when I was pregnant with her. I wouldn't trade her for anything in this world. If I had a SO that wasn't on board I'd kick him to the curb. But then, if I had a BF that didn't like my dog I'd kick him to the curb, too.

It's all about family. The little human growing inside you is your flesh and blood. Please let us know what you decide if you see fit.

EmeraldCity84 · January 2014

I am 39.5 weeks pregnant and have been 100% alone the entire time, also moved 3200 miles by myself at 24 weeks. It's not that big of a deal to be pregnant alone. It just goes day by day. I was terrified, but it's been fine. Even with complications. You just do what you have to do and it all works out.

jdias428 · January 2014

I am 18 weeks, and the father left me shortly after I found out, and after many manipulative attempts by him to get me to abort. I felt like I was choosing between him and the baby. I chose the baby, and while it still hurts, in so many ways - I will never regret this decision.

I also quit my job, moved from LA to Boston, and got a new job and apartment... all while pregnant. This was upheaval to the fullest.

Single pregnancy is not easy. There are constant reminders about it everywhere. I went on a babymoon this weekend and have had numerous tears-inducing encounters with fathers playing with little ones. It's hard, and it's sad, but it passes.

If having children was something you always wanted, you've been given a gift. If he was meant to be your mate, he will come around. And if not, then you can move on and live the life you want to live. You can do this. Be strong!

JlWhite14 · January 2014

Please don't abort your child because of a man! If you do want an abortion do it for yourself! When first found out I was pregnant the father of my child told me it would be best if I got an abortion because he wasn't going to be apart of me having a baby! While I thought long and hard about it I chose to keep my baby! And 19 weeks later I still find myself wondering if I did the right thing! I'm scared and it's hard at times. If your main reason to abort your child is to please a man maybe you should think again! He is not worth sacrificing who you are!

luvmybundle · January 2014

I'm also pregnant and single. It is hard, just as i'm sure raising a kid alone is hard. but i'm also sure the joy and love you have for your child will be well worth it. i don't know about you, but if i caved in to the pressure of having an abortion, i would probably be crying myself to sleep every night. so in the end, i decided what was right for me, and that was to have my baby. hope it all works out for you.

inthelost · January 2014

I'm raising my daughter alone. The father wanted me to get an abortion ,but I couldn't do it. and I'm burned out a lot, but I don't regret my decision at all.

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