Fussing

readyornot12345 · January 2014

How long do you ignore fussing at night? Our pediatrician told us to ignore fussing for up to 20 mins so lo can learn to sleep on her own. Last night lo was fussing and let out a few small crys here and there but did not full out cry or anything like that. But she was very fussy so I went to pick her up and she took over an hour to calm down. Now dh is all pissed off saying I'm not following the drs instructions and we will never get any sleep.

SweetPriz · January 2014

Well if she's not crying that's fine I think :)but they do let little screams here and there I think to see if they get picked up but if she full on cries feel free to pick her up and cuddle her

gcama85 · January 2014

If it's just fussing and you can tell she's tired, I think it's fine to wait a bit.

sleepymonkey · January 2014

Our LO fusses without crying a lot. It's almost more like fidgeting, where her little arms and legs just start going for awhile. As long as she's not crying, we will usually let her just fuss for awhile. But if she starts crying, we pick her up and try to comfort her.

Ktrue85 · January 2014

If there is crying, I pick up and soothe. Fidgety for us normally means a burp is needed or he wants to be held.

lilypienmessimy · January 2014

My LO does the fussing in the mornings, I just have to rearrange her sleeping position or pat her butt for a min or two. She's not crying and her eyes aren't even open, there's no way I'd pick her up though cause she would fully wake up for sure. It's totally normal but she only does it for like tops two minutes..I don't know if I could wait 20 min either.

dbucks · January 2014

I'll let her fuss for a few mins before I pick her up. Usually after that she falls asleep or starts crying. She's never fussed for 20 mins.

mrsseguin · January 2014

I'll let LO fuss for a few minutes. We put her in her crib awake and she'll squirm and make little noises...we leave her. She'll usually fall asleep. If not, after about 5 minutes, we go in and get her. I don't think letting them fuss for a few minutes is a big deal.

MissyC979 · January 2014

DS sometimes fusses for a few minutes after being put on the crib. It's isially pretty short and I leave him alone as long as his eyes are closed and he's not crying. It doesn't last too long for us. He fusses for a bit when he's waking up off a feeding too. I try to start getting up then because fussing at that time leads to crying.

insertclevername · January 2014

It depends on the fussing. Fussing with eyes closed and on the verge of sleep I let him be. Fussing because of gas then I burp or give gas drops. Fussing and showing hunger cues then I pick him up and feed him.

KFiori1 · January 2014

mrsseguin said:

I'll let LO fuss for a few minutes. We put her in her crib awake and she'll squirm and make little noises...we leave her. She'll usually fall asleep. If not, after about 5 minutes, we go in and get her. I don't think letting them fuss for a few minutes is a big deal.

Some for me. I let her fuss a few minutes because many times she puts herself back to sleep after a few minutes. And I agree with others that crying and fussing are different.

SarahDavis83 · January 2014

Ktrue85 said:
If there is crying, I pick up and soothe. Fidgety for us normally means a burp is needed or he wants to be held.

This exactly. Usually he needs something when he fusses. I figure he's too young to learn a bad habit, so I'm ok with soothing on demand.

lollipoppoop · January 2014

I let her fuss if she is trying to push out gas but if she's fussy because she's tired I will try and soothe her

thesportsgal · January 2014

I can usually tell if it's a fuss that's going to lead to a cry. I will get involved then. But I have a mini pterodactyl so I've had to learn what her noises mean. Grunting and moving her arms and legs generally means she's fine and it doesn't last long.

She's normally not all the way asleep when I put her down so she'll grunt and move around to get comfortable and then falls asleep. I don't consider what she's doing crying or being uncomfortable to need me though (and I've watched where she couldn't see me

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Skylight21 · January 2014

I wait to see if the noises turn into crying. But my LO will also let out a cry in her sleep so I get up and check if she is actually awake or if she is still sleeping.

Krilolo · January 2014

I noticed you posted about being sleep deprived.. I just want to make sure you are sleeping when the baby sleeps.. like EVERY CHANCE YOU GET. Maybe you sleep an hour at 9am then again at 1pm then 5pm but get no sleep overnight at least you will be getting some sleep.

readyornot12345 · January 2014

Krilolo said:
I noticed you posted about being sleep deprived.. I just want to make sure you are sleeping when the baby sleeps.. like EVERY CHANCE YOU GET. Maybe you sleep an hour at 9am then again at 1pm then 5pm but get no sleep overnight at least you will be getting some sleep.

I try but I can't fall asleep during the day no matter how hard I try!

teacupkat · January 2014

I'm pretty much in the majority here. If her eyes are closed and she's just kicking around, no crying, I just sit down next to the pnp and put my hand next to her body. Now this might be weird but I started putting my breast pads in the crib with her so my smell is in there. I feel like this has been helping her feel comfortable like I'm right there still. Maybe I'm crazy but anything to help us both sleep...

notkateanymore · January 2014

NYMama1 said:

It depends on the fussing. Fussing with eyes closed and on the verge of sleep I let him be. Fussing because of gas then I burp or give gas drops. Fussing and showing hunger cues then I pick him up and feed him.

This. I can tell want fussing will lead to sleep and what won't. For DS even some eyes open fussing will lead to sleep...it's more about the amount of fussing vs eyes open or closed for him. Of course, food fussing and gas fussing are different. DS doesn't like to be swaddled so there is always some calming down if he wasn't all the way asleep when I put him down.

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