Seriously DH? So glad it's all about you! - vent

Re: Seriously DH? So glad it's all about you! - vent

• silentsiren11 member

  January 2014

  My dh is such a baby when it comes to his sleep. I'm pretty confident he will behave similarly when the baby is born. I'm sorry you have to go through this.

  Charlotte Lynne ~ Jan. 23, 2014
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• Arrgcr member

  January 2014

  silentsiren11 said:

  My dh is such a baby when it comes to his sleep. I'm pretty confident he will behave similarly when the baby is born. I'm sorry you have to go through this.

  This. He would pretend to sleep through the cries and such once I got the hang of BF down. Then it was like zero help. He still doesn't get up at night for DS really or me. Unless I can't get out of bed by myself and he's scared ill strain so hard I'll pee the bed or my water will break.

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• luvdelilah member

  January 2014

  I'm very thankful that mike called in a favor to have a friend watch our older son so he could stay with us in the hospital but A) I'm surprised none of the other patients have complained about his snoring and he keeps getting pissy when I wake him up to feed the baby. Um hello? 3 post cs here. It still takes me 10 mins to painfully get out of bed - this is why you are here!

  

  
  
  
  

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• sugarland726 member

  January 2014

  Sounds like your H needs a "come to Jesus" meeting about resetting his expectations. We all need sleep. He isn't a special snowflake in that regard. But we all have newborns who don't sleep and he needs to readjust and do his fair share.

  

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• CeeJC121013 member

  January 2014

  What a jerk DH! get it together! In the same boat with you here! I am EBF and so I am the only one waking up with the baby all night. At first I tried to have him change her and burp her so that I would have some help, but he doesn't burp her gently enough for her to stay drowsy for me to put her back to sleep afterwards. Which ended up more work for me anyway.
  
  On top of that he's only home about 9 days per month and when he is he always comments on how he's tired, or needs a nap, or just doses off on the couch leaving me to both kids by myself. Um. No. If anyone gets to complain about being tired or get a nap it should be me!!!
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• BABYROSEJEANS17 member

  January 2014

  Exactly what @sugarland726 said!  I'm curious to see how my SO will be after DS is born.  We're all cranky with lack of sleep, but this is 50-50!
  

  
  

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• Rushley member

  January 2014

  I'm sorry he is acting like this, my H was like that with our first baby too. With him gone tonight it may be a nice break from him. You'll be able to look after your sweet baby without the peanut gallery's inconsiderate comments.  

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• blondie10m member

  January 2014

  My DH turns into a complete a-hole after 11 pm. Like it's not worth it for him to help because he's so mean. I basically resented him for ds1's first year because he offered to give him a pumped bottle periodically but ended up being so mean and such a prima Donna it wasn't worth it. If everything wasn't exactly set up and DS didn't behave perfectly I ended up getting up and doing it myself while he complained. Know how You feel but men can be big babies.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• Jackapatamus member

  January 2014

  My dh tries really hard, but as pp said it's easier if I just do it. Dd and I have been camped out on the couch (her in rnp) and I always say I'll wake you if I need you ( he's sleeping with ds who has bronchitis & a cough - so I actually might be getting better sleep!). I try to let him sleep sun- thurs( he works, I sahm) but weekends are fair game! But when she's fussy- he has to get up and help!!! Hope tonight goes well!

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• jwp325 member

  January 2014

  Thanks everyone. Like I said, he's usually pretty good. During the week, I do sleep in the living room since he has a commute but honestly weekends should be fair game. He does help during the week if she's super gassy as he seems to have the touch with burping her. I just enjoy sleeping in my own bed and comparatively she wasn't that bad last night. He will also stay up with her so I can get another stretch of sleep.

  
  

  I get annoyed easily as he's a second time dad. Granted he wasn't living with his daughter's mom and wasn't there 24/7 but still this shouldn't come as a shock.  Since he went back to work, I've been home with DD and SD. SD is seven but she still needs attention so I don't always get to nap during the day.  I'm super impressed with all you STMs as it's so not easy.

  
  

  Fortunately DD passed out around 4:30 and I was able to pump, clean everything, and get her upstairs by 5.  Then she slept til almost 8am. It was really nice to get close to three hours of sleep.

  
  

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