I want to be BFF with my midwife

inluv4life2 · January 2014

I seriously want to be friends with my midwife in real life. She is the sweetest person and so hilarious. She's close to my age and we totally end up just chatting and laughing at my appointments.

After she's done taking care of my lady parts, would it be weird to invite her to coffee? I think yes but I'm hoping someone will tell me this is not insane and I'm allowed to try to befriend her.

ShePersisted · January 2014

If you guys get along I would say why not. I mean Drs who work together possibly check on each other medically and are friends so I would think no harm. It all depends on the relationship. Plus if you were directly hiring your midwife it was different- the insurance pays her so it's not really a hired relationship. Just my two cents.

sdlaura · January 2014

I feel the same way about my acupuncturist. I don't think it would be weird to invite her to coffee, especially if it's with the intent of her seeing the baby.

PinkLillyLover · January 2014

I dunno, I think there is a fine line that should be kept between doctor/patient; lawyer/client, etc.

MissDemeanor · January 2014

I have no idea! I'm horrible at making new friends. I say go for it. I think making friends when you're an adult is sort of like dating.

clozgoblu · January 2014

Feel her out, it's worth a shot.

I know how you feel, I love the midwifes I see at my practice. Mine are older though, I want ot ask them to be my grandmas. I seriously love them! If they were younger I would definitely try to establish a personal connection with them. :-)

Jspagnuolo · January 2014

PinkLillyLover said:
I dunno, I think there is a fine line that should be kept between doctor/patient; lawyer/client, etc.

I more agree with this. But I'm a social worker so I just very much have the mindset of not blurring any lines.

RondackHiker · January 2014

PinkLillyLover said:
I dunno, I think there is a fine line that should be kept between doctor/patient; lawyer/client, etc.

My dh would say no. He'd be nice about it, but wouldn't go to coffee with a patient.

NatashaJRW · January 2014

I feel the exact same about my midwife and have been wondering the same thing, she is just the most wonderful person I have ever met... She has the gift of making you feel like you're the most important person in her life, and I feel sad when I think that I won't be seeing her anymore after baby... Just not sure how I'd even approach becoming bffs? I feel like she's prob pretty busy...

Giraffealaff · January 2014

I would say go for it, but I would caution that if you get pregnant again, it may not be the best idea to use her as your MW depending on how close your relationship is at that point.

christsgurl · January 2014

My NP that I have been using for all of my pregnancies is great, except she was on leave for her pregnancy during my 2nd & now my current pregnancy. Last time I seen her was my 6 week check up after baby number 2! And I miss seeing & chatting with her my apts with her are always much longer becuz I'm standing outside the door still talking to her! Lol I know what you mean

inluv4life2 · January 2014

Thanks for the input! I won't have her as a practitioner any more because this is my last kiddo. I think I will feel it out after the postpartum visits to see how it goes.

Jspagnuolo · January 2014

klutzygrl26 said:
Even if I wanted to be friends with a patient, I would decline. It's a difficult line to cross. Although it might be different with a midwife since once you have the baby she wouldn't continue to provide medical care for you.

I will actually continue seeing midwives for all my yearly and such check-ups.

Flyingtoast · January 2014

I love my MW. She is actually my back up care person for our animals. I am also her back up for her animals if for some reason she can't get care for them in a timely manner( crazy long labors, kids, ect). We were actually joking that who will come to the animals if I have a longer labor.

I wouldn't call us beat friends, but good friends.

I would put out a tentative suggestion, and see how she responds. Leave it up to her, since she has to decide where she stands on the blurred lines of medical professional and friend.

TessyMessy · January 2014

For some reason I read your title as "I want to breast feed with my midwife". I was very confused but curious. Damn pregnancy brain. Words are hard.

tiggernorton04 · January 2014

I love my midwives too but I don't think I would try to have a personal relationship with them. But I also use them for my annual visits etc.

micaelasmakeup · January 2014

I felt this way about my prenatal chiropractor. Our kids go to school together and we have a mutual friend. I was hoping to befriend her and then last week at my appointment she invited me to join her and mutual friend to a mommy night out after baby. So maybe you could make it a group date like thing?