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Good friends not such good friends anymore?

AMT1107AMT1107 member
in October 2012 Moms
This is a little of vent...

I have a very close friend, we met through work years ago, they (her and her husband) are 10 years older than me and DH... they have kids that are 18 and 24.  Before DS, we did everything together, now that we have DS money is a little tighter. We can't go to restaurants every weekend. I don't like leaving DS with my parents for me and DH to go to a restaurant with them...

And lately, she says oh why don't you and DH come over... no mention of my son, then she'll say things like, it was so nice of you to bring DS he was fun.  If I am going to a friends house, should I need to have a sitter? 

I guess we are growing apart, but it just sucks the way it is happening.  She is judgey (sp) about us not going out weekends or we always have DS with us...  Or she'll say things like oh I got to raise my kids.  I am a full time working mom, she knows that, we work together.  Why make your friend feel bad about having to work and not spend the days with their kid.

Sorry, vent over.  Anyone else go through this?
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Re: Good friends not such good friends anymore?

  • humblejalopyhumblejalopy member
    I'm sorry to hear that you guys are facing this in your friendship. I know transition times in life give us a lot to navigate, and that it is hard when relationships get caught up in that as well, especially when the families involved are at different ends of the spectrum of parenting/time. It could be helpful to talk about how you value the relationship you have with her/them and want it to continue even though it's going to look different with DS in the picture. Have you tried having a conversation with her/them directly about how you have been feeling?
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