how did you get your 1 year old to listen to you when you say 'no'?

dpraseutsinh · January 2014

DD is now 15 months and she is a great baby. she's sweet and playful, but she is definitely stubborn like her mama :P i understand toddlers at this age are still learning how to listen to their parents. it's one thing if she doesn't want to listen to me when i tell her not to do something, but she does this thing where you tell her 'no, don't do that', she starts smacking the object, screams, and runs away from you. i've tried calmly telling her and explaining to her why we don't do those things or we can't touch a certain object, but i feel like i see no improvement.

just wondering if anyone else's LO's do something similar and how you deal/stopped it?

minervacullen · January 2014

Just keep redirecting and explaining. My 13 month old does the exact same thing, she just voicing her opinion.

ASmallWonder · January 2014

^Ditto "No" loses its effectiveness when you use it constantly and they actually learn to react to that word in a defiant way. Try "That hurts mama so let's use gentle hands/That will give you a boo boo! Let's play over here with your blocks/Food stays on your tray (or just say ok you seem to be done!)" They don't respond well to a directive without an alternative to steer their attention away from the thing they shouldn't be doing. She'll learn.

kerbear135 · January 2014

My almost 13 month old thinks the word "no" is absolutely the most hilarious word in the English language...if you tell her "no" she laughs hysterically and then goes right back to whatever she was doing....so we use redirection..it doesn't always work the first 5 or 6 times, but eventually we can distract her with something else....

pb_bride · January 2014

DS does that too - he gets upset and will throw the toy or whatever he was doing. I think it is a sign that he knows he is not supposed to do X, and is frustrated by it.

I too try to limit the actual "No". Instead I say something like, "we don't do this" or "mama's sad because you throw your food on the floor." I try to reserve "NO' for something that is dangerous, like climbing up the stairs without me.

CurlyQ284 · January 2014

kerbear135 said:
My almost 13 month old thinks the word "no" is absolutely the most hilarious word in the English language...if you tell her "no" she laughs hysterically and then goes right back to whatever she was doing....so we use redirection..it doesn't always work the first 5 or 6 times, but eventually we can distract her with something else....

This is my DS as well. Its hard because hes like a dog with a bone and he will NOT let up. He wants what he wants and will throw a fit if he cant have it/do it.

kerbear135 · January 2014

CurlyQ284 said:

My almost 13 month old thinks the word "no" is absolutely the most hilarious word in the English language...if you tell her "no" she laughs hysterically and then goes right back to whatever she was doing....so we use redirection..it doesn't always work the first 5 or 6 times, but eventually we can distract her with something else....
This is my DS as well. Its hard because hes like a dog with a bone and he will NOT let up. He wants what he wants and will throw a fit if he cant have it/do it.

same here..if you take her away from something, she usually starts crying like her heart is breaking....and as soon as you let go of her, she'll run right back to whatever she was doing that she shouldn't have been....eventually she gives up, but man that kid is stubborn!

hmontty · January 2014

I can't remember with my daughter, who is now almost 3, but with my son, he just started understanding. When he was about 10 months old, he started crawling toward the fireplace, and I said, "No, Reid." And he stopped cold. I was surprised!

He listens well to no still, although at some point he will start resisting -- that's just normal.

I do know that with my daughter, I had to use a lot of redirection -- say no, then suggest something else in place of the forbidden act, hand her something else, etc. Redirection is the name of the game for a long time.

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