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One & Done: Only child
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Hi ladies. I've been lurking this board for a week or so now, and I'd like to jump in if you'll have me. I'm so happy to see that you accept "on-the-fencers". I've always thought I might be ok with just one kiddo, but DH was staunchly anti-only child, so we agreed on two. Now that I have DS, I am pretty sure I am done. DH is not so sure, but in no rush to add another just now. So, we might be OAD, or DH might convince me to change my mind somewhere down the line. Anyway.
The main reason I don't want another is transitioning into motherhood has been WAY more difficult than I thought it would be. DS was an extremely wakeful baby for his first 18 months and I struggled with severe sleep deprivation which probably was a big reason why I developed PPD/PPA (I'm doing much better now that he's STTN and I'm on medication). It's taken a major toll on my relationship with DH (though, again, we're doing much better now). I can't imagine doing all this again. I feel like our family was tortured for 18 months and I don't want to risk that again. I love DS to pieces and wouldn't trade him for anything, of course. I also feel like he deserves my undivided attention and to have a calm, happy, focused mama.
Anyway, you all seem like a fun bunch. 
I'm not into the drama and cliquey stuff that's on some of TB boards, but this one seems fun and low-key. Can I come out of lurkerdom and join you?
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Re: Lurker intro...
I understand, too. Motherhood put a big strain on me, also. Our marriage suffered for a good 6 months, but in the end it became SO much stronger than it ever has been. But I would never want to re-live that again.
Glad ya joined us!!
Thank you.
I love that sweet pic of your DD.
It's nice to hear from other moms who have had a tough time. Sometimes I feel like everyone else just eases into it gracefully, which is what I thought I would do, but I've been the total opposite of graceful, haha.
@KatieB19 We totally lost our couple selves! We are just now starting to rebuild - most of the last 21 months have just been in survival mode. I'm glad you and your DH are on the mend - you certainly must both be very committed to still be working at it this long!
Thank you for the warm welcome everyone!