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Intro: Soon to be working mom

VegasGal1978VegasGal1978 member
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Hi ladies! To this point I've been most active on my birth month and 0-3 month boards. I will be returning to work on the 3rd and figured I would need to have a different kind of support as we approach the big day. I hope I can join you. IRL I am surrounded by SAHMs. Most of my close friends either have no kids or opted to stay home. When I return to work, DH will be a SAHD; this has been a cause for some mild jealousy on my part. I much prefer this arrangement over daycare, at least while LO is still young. I have always been career driven, but I am finding my return to be very stressful and unwanted. I never thought I would say this, but I wish I could stay home. Maybe even just a few more weeks. Since that isn't possible, off to work I go. I look forward to learning from all of you!
Can't figure out the signature thing, so here's the short, short version.....first daughter born on November 10, 2013. She was conceived through the magic of IVF after 2+ years of TTC.
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  • VegasGal1978VegasGal1978 member
    @mal922 -- that's pretty funny! I am actually from and still living in Boston. Name was created as DH and I planned our Vegas themed wedding. We love it out there!
    Can't figure out the signature thing, so here's the short, short version.....first daughter born on November 10, 2013. She was conceived through the magic of IVF after 2+ years of TTC.
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  • mmille19mmille19 member
    Maybe when you do go back to work your DH can bring the LO to visit you on your lunch break. It would be a nice break and treat for you.
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  • APendolaAPendola member
    First of all, that's awesome that your DH will be with LO when you return.  At least you know your LO is in good hands.  Like mmille19 suggested, it might help on your first day if DH can bring LO for lunch.  Or get him to send you pics and constant updates.  :)

    I took a year off, and it was still hard the first time that I left her at a dayhome.  It's just hard to be separated from your baby.  On the other hand, I do enjoy many things about being back at work.  It gave me an adult life back.  I can have a quiet cup of coffee at the start of the day...I can go shopping at lunch without a stroller, diaper bag etc...

    The anticipation of going back to work can be harder then actually working.  After you adjust to the routine, you might enjoy it.
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  • VegasGal1978VegasGal1978 member
    Thanks for all of the reassuring words and advice. I love my job so I am hopeful that the anticipation is worse than actually going back. I look forward to getting to know the board.
    Can't figure out the signature thing, so here's the short, short version.....first daughter born on November 10, 2013. She was conceived through the magic of IVF after 2+ years of TTC.
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  • NADA-HNADA-H member
    I would like to get familiar with the board too once am close to delivery. I might have to take unpaid maternity leave because I've just joined the company now and will deliver at the end of my probation. Hope it won't be very hard to go back to work for you and for me once the baby comes.

    btw your due date is on my birthday! :D
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    Farida, our first child, born on the 19th of July 2014
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  • litzo27litzo27 member
    Welcome!!
    Personally you couldn't pay me enough to be a SAHM - I like being able to get out into the "adult" world and I like my job too :) But the transition is going to be a little rough for a bit but hang in there, it gets easier!
    I think it's normal for your to be jealous of DH, I was jealous of the nanny for a while. Keep in mind that DH may also get jealous of you as you return to work and he starts staying home. So make sure to keep the line of communications open and check in with each other to evaluation whether both of you are ok, the arrangement is working well, etc.
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  • xyzabqsmvb53xyzabqsmvb53 member
    Hi! I am new to the board as well and in a very similar position as you, OP! My husband is going to be the SAHD and I'm the career person in the family. I always thought I would go nuts at the idea of staying home but now that I am facing the return to work I am super jealous of DH and wish I could stay home. 

    I've been trying to stay positive and think about what I can look forward to about going back to work: engaging with my coworkers, getting out of the house, thinking about projects other than dishes/laundry/feedings... and when I start to get down about having to go back I take the advice of my maternity nurse: feel the emotions as they come and then let them go. I cry in the shower if I have to (DH is wonderful about giving me space/time to do this!) and then when I get out I snuggle the baby and move on.

    Oh yeah and it also helps to think about how my baby will benefit having a strong career-oriented mama who can show him a counter balance to his wonderful SAHD. He deserves a mom who is confident and unafraid of success.
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  • VegasGal1978VegasGal1978 member
    @smbv53-- thank you! I love everything you have to say. I am happy to set an example of a hard working woman for my DD. I have been trying to keep my mind focused on the positive. I can't wait to put on some of my favorite work outfits that I haven't worn in a year!!
    Can't figure out the signature thing, so here's the short, short version.....first daughter born on November 10, 2013. She was conceived through the magic of IVF after 2+ years of TTC.
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  • xyzabqsmvb53xyzabqsmvb53 member
    Yes! I've been scheming up my updated work wardrobe too. Happy thoughts!
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