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February 2014 Moms
CarynJeanG
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Can I cry to you ladies? Long vent.
CarynJeanG
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I am so sorry about how whiny I am going to sound right now.
I have been getting the worst nights sleep of my life. I wake up on average 2-3 times a night on my own and am awake about an hour and a half each time. Then when I finally fall sleep DD wakes up and wants to sleep in my bed. When I say no she cries till I give in or she falls asleep (2 hours). When she sleeps with me she is all over the bed so I get even worse sleep. Tonight she is apparently coming down with a cold because she won't stop coughing, so I have been up with her for the last two hours. I have had a combined total of maybe 3 hours of sleep tonight.
Well to make matters worse she has been regressing lately and has been throwing major temper tantrums throughout the day. She won't take naps and gets exhausted about 6 everynight. I don't put her to bed till 8pm and then is awake and ready for the day at 6am.
I have little to no patience right now and I am really trying hard to stay positive but it is so hard. My DF and I aren't living together right now so I am doing the whole single mommy thing till after my maternity leave is over mid April.
On top of all of this my work is making me work 6 days this last few weeks and I am at my breaking point dealing with customers and coworkers. All I can do at this point is cry. I only have two weeks left till I'm on maternity leave but I honestly don't know if I'll make it.
I battled PPD with DD and I'm really scared I am going to have it with LO due to everything going on right now. I am planning on talking with my doctor about it on my next visit.
Thank you for letting me vent. I'm a hot mess and I needed to get this off my chest.
I have been getting the worst nights sleep of my life. I wake up on average 2-3 times a night on my own and am awake about an hour and a half each time. Then when I finally fall sleep DD wakes up and wants to sleep in my bed. When I say no she cries till I give in or she falls asleep (2 hours). When she sleeps with me she is all over the bed so I get even worse sleep. Tonight she is apparently coming down with a cold because she won't stop coughing, so I have been up with her for the last two hours. I have had a combined total of maybe 3 hours of sleep tonight.
Well to make matters worse she has been regressing lately and has been throwing major temper tantrums throughout the day. She won't take naps and gets exhausted about 6 everynight. I don't put her to bed till 8pm and then is awake and ready for the day at 6am.
I have little to no patience right now and I am really trying hard to stay positive but it is so hard. My DF and I aren't living together right now so I am doing the whole single mommy thing till after my maternity leave is over mid April.
On top of all of this my work is making me work 6 days this last few weeks and I am at my breaking point dealing with customers and coworkers. All I can do at this point is cry. I only have two weeks left till I'm on maternity leave but I honestly don't know if I'll make it.
I battled PPD with DD and I'm really scared I am going to have it with LO due to everything going on right now. I am planning on talking with my doctor about it on my next visit.
Thank you for letting me vent. I'm a hot mess and I needed to get this off my chest.
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Re: Can I cry to you ladies? Long vent.
If she's tired at 6p (and not napping) is there a reason you're not putting her down earlier than 8p? Perhaps getting her into bed earlier would help?
— The Doctor, Season 3, Episode 6
How old is your LO? It sounds like she's simply not getting enough rest, because 10hrs at night and no nap isn't enough for most kids until they are school aged. Hence the tantrums and stuff during the day. And I know when I'm not getting enough rest all that is a lot harder for me to deal with. I hope you find relief soon.
::hugs::
As far as sleep, I'm right there with you. Elusive creature lately. Also, with DS1, he fights nap time some days and we have to have 'quiet time' instead. I don't force him to nap because it just turns into a screaming crying match, as i'm sure you well know. Have you ever heard of progressive muscle relaxation? It sounds kind of silly, but I swear, if DS is having a tantrum and we do this relaxation technique it works. Just google it, I'm sure there will be a bunch of suggestions for it. I am not kidding when I say 98% of the time, it works and calms him down enough to get him to nap.
She's 2 1/2! I know for sure she is over tired. She stopped napping at 1 1/2. I have never met a LO who can run on the little amount of sleep that she does.
I will try pushing the time up by 15 minutes and see if that helps! I really hope I can too! I have no clue how I will be able to handle a newborn and dd if it continues!
She is in a crib as of now. I was considering transitioning her into a twin bed but now I'm second guessing it because of the regression and when the baby comes it might be too much change all at once.
We do try quiet time but it turns more into "I'm going to yell for mommy till mommy gets me out". The other issue is she is watched through the day by my family and a babysitter and they all have different routines with her. I am going to talk to them about getting her on a schedule. That might help some??
Hang in there mama! Hope LO feels better soon. Hugs!
I really hope you figure something out that works for her. I know there have been times when LO fought his nap so we do relaxing time. And I force him to lay quietly in bed with me for up to an hour. He almost always passes out if I can get him to lay still for a bit - it's that part that can be difficult lol. And sleep issues suck because they are so cyclical so less sleep = crappier sleep = less sleep. It's like torture for everyone.
Definitely not whiny. I would be at the end of my rope too.
I can't afford to go earlier on maternity earlier then I already am unfortunately. My coworkers are pretty understanding and let me sit and do admin work when the restaurant is slow or I am not needed.
Thank you! I was hoping it didn't come across as whiny but I just feel like everything is adding up and making it difficult to even function. I am trying my hardest to stay positive but it really is so hard.
Good luck mama I really hope it all sorts itself out soon . :-)
Different caregivers will do things a little differently, and that is ok, so long as the basic things are being done with some consistency. For example, I would nurse LO to nap but H would rock - but the end result was a nap at the same time each day. So meals at about the same time, wake, nap, etc all needs to be relatively close to the same time day to day. It will help her immensely know what to expect. So she wakes, eats, plays, lunch, nap, play, bath, bed. A routine gives her a sense of normalcy that will help her feel less like every day is a whirlwind of change. Kids really thrive on routines and being able to predict what will happen - heck adults need that too.
Think about it, generally speaking you get up and then maybe go pee, get a drink, take a shower, get dressed, eat your cheerios, drive the same way to work, etc etc. Every day you do very similar tasks in a sort of routine/order. Since so much of a child's day is dictated by someone else, it's so important for them to have a routine so they know what to expect.
I hate to speak in absolutes about other people's kids especially, but I am willing to be good money a routine and more sleep will make a world of difference.
My daughters been wanting to sleep w me/ on top of me lately too. Just be firm and keep taking her back. It'll be hard w the fighting, but once ur lil one gets here do u really want to deal w it then??