Leaving LO Over Night

psychgirl33 · January 2014

Who has left LO over night or is planning to anytime in the foreseeable future? My husband told me that he will be ok and that I can go to the national conference for my profession. It's next month in Washington DC. I'm a little nervous leaving him alone with both girls for 3-4 nights, but I'm going to go for it.

wlux · January 2014

I'm leaving LO in the beginning of April. I'm nervous since I haven't been away from her at all yet. She's going to stay with my mom . I know she will be okay.

bumpuser10024844 · January 2014

I haven't left LO with anyone overnight yet, nor do I have any immediate plans, but I just wanted to say good luck!

jackdaniels13 · January 2014

Good for you!

I have a work trip in May and I might do an over night away very soon just for DH and I to have a date night and a trial run away from her. I know she will be fine with my mom but I'm sure I'll need some consoling. Thank goodness for Facetime, text and pictures!

PrettyInPearls23 · January 2014

I have a girl's trip planned in September where I'll be gone for 3 nights AND miss Jackson's 1st birthday. I'm fine with leaving him overnight and in all honestly, I want to leave him overnight with a grandparent before then so DH and I can have an overnight date night. I'd do it tomorrow if someone offered, but I don't want to burden a grandparents with that yet since he's still figuring out his sleep patterns.

PrettyInPearls23 · January 2014

twolittlewheels said:

I left LO overnight on NYE and he did better for my mom than he does for me. He took bottles well and slept like a log.
(Preparing to get judged) H and I are going to Vegas for 3 nights in a few days and are leaving all the kids with my mom. I'm not crazy about leaving LO for that long at such a young age, but H's boss paid for our flights and hotel so we couldn't pass it up. I'm definitely nervous but I'm sure all the kids will be fine.
FWIW, I didn't leave DS1 overnight until he was near a year old, but I've gotten way more relaxed since then. H and I's relationship is in the dumps as well so I'm desperately hoping this trip can get us back on track.

No judging here, I'm insanely jealous!!! Have a wonderful time!

noelani42 · January 2014

What @PrettyInPearls23 said- we'd like to plan a night or two away and leave her with his parents, but we'll wait until she has a consistent sleep pattern...hopefully at least for our anniversary in July!

happybride 276 · January 2014

twolittlewheels said:
I left LO overnight on NYE and he did better for my mom than he does for me. He took bottles well and slept like a log.
(Preparing to get judged) H and I are going to Vegas for 3 nights in a few days and are leaving all the kids with my mom. I'm not crazy about leaving LO for that long at such a young age, but H's boss paid for our flights and hotel so we couldn't pass it up. I'm definitely nervous but I'm sure all the kids will be fine.
FWIW, I didn't leave DS1 overnight until he was near a year old, but I've gotten way more relaxed since then. H and I's relationship is in the dumps as well so I'm desperately hoping this trip can get us back on track.

No judgement. I hope the trip is just what you and your husband need!

I already leave my son to work 40+ hours each week so I have zero interest on leaving him overnight. That's just what works for me. I know I wouldn't have fun because I would miss my son too much. He's my first and I am obsessed with him. I would rather have a crappy night sleep with him than a good night sleep without him. I say go and enjoy yourself! I give you credit for going. I am not that strong yet.

Habs2Hart · January 2014

We got invited to a wedding in Ireland next October so that might be the first time we leave him for an extended period. After he is a year old we'll do a trial run.

sunshine2929 · January 2014

We maybe going away to a friends cottage for a night in February. If that doesn't happen we will definitely go away somewhere together for my birthday at the end of March. LO will stay with my mom. I know he will be fine but ill still be nervous! Lol
we do desperately need a night away together to rekindle whatever romance may be left.

sunshine2929 · January 2014

PrettyInPearls23 said:

twolittlewheels said:

I left LO overnight on NYE and he did better for my mom than he does for me. He took bottles well and slept like a log.
(Preparing to get judged) H and I are going to Vegas for 3 nights in a few days and are leaving all the kids with my mom. I'm not crazy about leaving LO for that long at such a young age, but H's boss paid for our flights and hotel so we couldn't pass it up. I'm definitely nervous but I'm sure all the kids will be fine.
FWIW, I didn't leave DS1 overnight until he was near a year old, but I've gotten way more relaxed since then. H and I's relationship is in the dumps as well so I'm desperately hoping this trip can get us back on track.

No judging here, I'm insanely jealous!!! Have a wonderful time!

I agree! Have a great time!

Heffafish · January 2014

My husband and I had a wedding a couple of days before New Years and left LO with my mum and sister and she actually went alright! As much as I missed her, it was nice to have a night with my friends and hubby and I knew she was in safe hands (my mum had 4 kids that all grew up safe and healthy)

psychgirl33 · January 2014

Confession: We have still never left DD1 overnight with anyone other than one of us. And this will be just me being gone, so DH will be there. I went last year, too, but DD1 was older (11 months). We are talking about taking a vaca with friends this summer where we will leave them with grandparents and for some reason that freaks me out!

@prettyinpearls23: Have lots of fun! No judgment from me!

VitaLuna · January 2014

Nope nope. We won't be doing it for a LONG time. I think it's different if H is still home vs leaving them with someone else, though. I think if H was with her , I'd be more inclined to leave her sooner than I would with my parents or something.

OliveMom3 · January 2014

@happybride 276 I totally get being obsessed. I feel the same way. Also, since I EBF I would have to get up to pump anyway, so much better to have smiley cooing company than a stupid pump.

psychgirl33 · January 2014

@vitaluna I'm the same about leaving with H vs others. I definitely wouldn't go if H wasn't going to be home with them! DD1 will be 2 in March and we've never left her with anyone else.

eyris · January 2014

E stays the night with my parents pretty frequently. Probably every other weekend since he was 7 weeks. I was really overwhelmed when he wouldn't sleep more than 30-60 minutes at a time for weeks and my mom basically came over and stole him because she knew I was losing it.

It was hard the first time but I was basically too exhausted to put up a fight and it turned out to be a really great relief. My parents like having him overnight and it gives H and I time to be adults for a bit. Now that I'm back to work during the week I feel like I need a break less, but we still do it every other week so we can have some adult time.

We went to an indoor waterpark overnight on Monday and had an awesome time, but I was definitely eager to get packed up and back home Tuesday morning to see my little guy. I think 3-4 nights away, or even 2 nights, would be really hard for me but it would be easier if he was with my husband and at home with his own crib and everything. For some reason him sleeping in the PnP at my parents' house makes me more nervous. But I'm not nervous at all about my parents caring for him. My dad watches him during the week while I'm at work and is doing a great job.

psychgirl33 · January 2014

Sorry, TB is being crazy...

ravenclaw1 · January 2014

A has spent two nights with my parents. They live far away and don't see her often, so when they were visiting us recently, she went overnight to their hotel. She's a good sleeper and always happy, so I have no reserves. I only hate the fact that she's not there for me to snuggle in the morning and that I have to pump. I hate pumping.

DaisyZH · January 2014

We are pretty bad, we left DS for the first time when DD was born so he was 2. He did great but I think it's better for them to start overnights sooner to get used to them. We simply have never had any overnight plans, no trips or weddings, etc. Maybe that will be a goal for us in 2014, go somewhere overnight without the kids!

psychgirl33 · January 2014

@daisyzh We didn't even leave DD1 when DD2 was born. DH went home at night and spent the night with her. We are terrible. :-/

MegStark · January 2014

I'm leaving LO overnight Thursday and Friday for a work conference. I'm nervous, but I know DH will do great. I just keep reminding myself that it's daddy/daughter bonding time. I'm gonna miss her though! I plan on facetiming them multiple times.

ssublett09 · January 2014

I have to leave LO overnight because I work 24 hour shifts. Right now DH is home with her once he gets off but once he gets put on shift work we will have my mom be staying with her (she will be almost 8 months when this happens). My mom is who watches her while we're both working which is about 5-6 days a month.

I also left LO when she was 6 weeks old, hardest thing I've had to do. DH and I had our wedding and we stayed at a hotel while a good friend of ours who has a 1 year old and is very good with babies stayed with her while we were gone. We also left her with my mom on Black Friday and she did better for my mom than she does for us!

munchkinsmama · January 2014

We left DS overnight at 11 weeks when we had our best friends wedding. My mom watched him at our house which made me less worried. We are thinking of letting her have him over night at her house in Feb (friends are coming in from out of town) so we can have a late night out and sleep in, but we are both a little on the fence. Mornings are my favorite so IDK if I'm ready yet.

happybride 276 · January 2014

OliveMom3 said:
@happybride 276 I totally get being obsessed. I feel the same way. Also, since I EBF I would have to get up to pump anyway, so much better to have smiley cooing company than a stupid pump.

I EP every 2-3 hours. It is such a pain in the ass when you are trying to do something. It really cuts into so much, but breast feeding just wasn't working for me. I want to make it a year pumping. If I do I think I deserve a spa day. It really is a lifestyle at this point in time.

JLMcWeeney · January 2014

I went to a friends house for drinks, and the weather got really bad while I was there so I ended up staying the night. DH did pretty well alone with DS. He struggled a little getting him to sleep

ejb23 · January 2014

We have a wedding in March and plan to be gone 2 nights but I am so not ready so my mom is coming too so I can see her in between events

notapastasauce · January 2014

I just got back from a four day work trip, three nights away. Pumping 20+ times in a row was the worst part for me since feeding baby before and after work is something I really look forward to. Also, it was sad to wake up occasionally in the night confused about where I was and in a panic because I couldn't hear her breathing. It was hard to get back to sleep because I missed her so much in those moments.

My husband often gives her a night time bottle and puts her to sleep so that was not a problem for them; if that's not your usual pattern maybe it would help to try it and get her used to that before you go. She did seem to miss me but he was usually able to distract her-- I slept with one of her little blankets for a few nights before the trip so it would smell like me and my husband could soothe her with it during waking hours when fussy, and he said it seemed to help. I also took one of her worn onesies with me to hold while pumping.

Good luck! I think I worried about it more before going than I did while there.

thedash · January 2014

I'm going to Florida for a family wedding in February for two nights without DH and the kids. Honestly I kinda feel like I'm going to puke whenever I think about it. I have only ever been away from DS for one night at a time and never away from DD overnight so this is a big deal for me.

michelle7482 · January 2014

DD1 has stayed with my parents 4 times for one night each starting at 11 months. Both girls will be at my parents in march for a night bc of a wedding.

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