Question for STMs: WWYD

kjef11 · January 2014

My DH is being recognized by his company for being the 3rd best, out of all General Managers in the nation, for his company. They are paying for us to go to Key West, FL for 4 days and 3 nights. As much as I would LOVE to go with him we have a 14 month old DD. I have never been away from my DD for more than a few hours, like dinner and a movie. I can't imagine leaving her for 4 days. If I do go my DD would stay with my parents.We asked if she could come with us but his compan said no. I'm so torn and these stupid hormones are not helping. Every time I think about leaving my DD I cry. If I do go I want to enjoy myself and time with DH I don't want to cry the entire time. DH really wants me to go with him. WWYD?

Mowill59 · January 2014

I totally understand how you are feeling. If you are comfortable with your parents watching DD for 4 days then I say go and have fun! Pretty soon you will have 2 little ones and the chances of you getting some alone time with your husband will probably be few and far between. You can always have your parents send you pics and updates on how she's doing and everything.

Lindsleigh77 · January 2014

I would go if it were me. I can totally relate to being sad and worried about leaving your DD (we left our son around the same age for 4 days to go on a couples trip to Vegas) but you deserve a break too and the leaving part is the hardest I have found in my experience, once you and hubby are enjoying a little baby moon you will have a great time and wonder why you hesitated at all. Plus grandparents deserve some one on one time with your DD too, it can be a great bonding experience for all of them. This is all of course provided you have the utmost trust in your parents to provide the level of care you would. I say GO FOR IT!! I really doubt you will cry the whole time, I bet you really enjoy yourself

good luck with your decision.

Lynnja616 · January 2014

Omg go. I would without a second thought.

abastian00 · January 2014

I'm not a STM, but GO!

nunzchucks · January 2014

I left DD with DH for 4 days in FL with girlfriends over the summer. It was glorious. GO!

clee2009 · January 2014

I would definitely go. I know the first time is hard so do a practice run and have her stay a full night with your parents before leaving. That way you can get some of your jitters out of your system.

flerlgirl · January 2014

Go! You'll miss her but she will be well taken care of and you will enjoy the opportunity to go a whole day with no baby fluids on your shirt

tbmadeamistake · January 2014

Go! Not only for you, but also for her. I'm a strong believer that kids need to learn to be flexible and that knowing mom will always come back is huge.

GolfWidow001 · January 2014

I would go. If your trust your parents to watch her, then go for it. Your parents were parents at one time, she will be in good care.
It would be a nice getaway for the two of you before the next. If it were a whole week or more, I'd be a little more hesitant, but four days will fly by!

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robbinrl · January 2014

I think you should go just with DH.

If you decide you don't want to be away from her, I'm not sure why she shouldn't be able to go with you. At 14mos she doesn't cost anything to travel (free flight, bring a pack n play for sleeping, and she could just share your food for meals). If it's just a free trip I would take her if that 's what you want unless it's a company sponsored event with activities and what not.

momof5sept18 · January 2014

I think you should go. Its good preparation for when you do your three day hospital stay. If you have a phone or laptop with Skype, bring it, and ask your parents to download Skype and Skype with her while you're away. Key West is awesome and you'll have a great time. If it helps, think of it as your babymoon.

Kc4mom · January 2014

Go for sure! It's so important to make time with H a priority. What a great opportunity for you guys. Also will be good for your DD to have a night away before you bring home baby. With my first we did not leave him overnight till we had his brother. I think it added salt to the wond that we left him for the first time and came home with a baby. Would have been better to have had a fee nights away first to get him use to it.
If you trust your parents then go and relax.

MrsCase1 · January 2014

At 14 months she is totally old enough to be left for four days. In fact, I think she will benefit immensely from two parents who take time to nurture their marriage. I genuinely can't think of a decent reason not to go!

xnbride · January 2014

Definitely go. Sounds like a wonderful time. It will be a good opportunity to get used to staying away from you which will be helpful when you give birth.

lclark79 · January 2014

I would go! Sounds like fun! I think DD was around 9 mos when we left her the first time with my mom for a couple days. It was tough, but boy did I enjoy some adult time!

kjef11 · January 2014

Thank you for encouraging me to go. I do trust my parents 100%. They raised 5 kids of their own and my mom watched all of my nieces and nephews when my sister and sister-in-law went back to work. <?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />

My DD can't go because there is a special awards dinner sponsored by the company. Other than that one dinner (which will be nice for my DH) we are on our own. The company is even paying for spa treatments, deep sea fishing, etc. I agree it will be a good get away for me and DH.

A little background history and why I think I'm so hesitant to leave my DD: She was born early, 36 weeks 1day. She was born with gastroschisis and need to have surgery at 2 hours old. She spent 29 days in the NICU. I spent every waking hour with her. I only left the hospital to shower and sleep for a few hours. I always felt so guilty leaving her there. I guess I'm still just feeling guilty.

I think you all are right. It will be good for both her and me. I guess I just needed to hear other people say it was ok and that I'm not just being selfish.

LindsayDesigner · January 2014

@kjef11 GO. You are so lucky to have this opportunity!

My niece had the same defect and spent 42 days in the NICU. She's a thriving 5 year old now.

Sareynoo · January 2014

As a STM I would say: GOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!! I left DD for 3 days when she was 6 months old for our mini-honeymoon. You may regret not going later if you choose not to!

emeraldJ17 · January 2014

I say go but I understand your hesistation. It took me a long time to be able to leave DD overnight. She is 20 months now and we are going to a destination wedding for 4 days 3 nights in May. She will be just shy of 2 years old. I'm so nervous to leave her but we really need the time with each other before we throw another baby into the mix. If you are still bfing I might not go but other than that I'm all for it.

hollygb22 · January 2014

I have a 14 month DD as well..I think it would depend on your comfort level with your parents. I know everyone is saying go go go...but I wouldn't be comfortable. Mostly because our parents are about an hour away and don't see her frequently and with regularity. If your parents are around all the time and she's comfortable with them..then I'd probably go as well.

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