Anyone here married more than 10 years??

jjtyler · January 2014

In March, we will have been married 11 years...old.effing.balls.

Anyone else on or around 10 years of marriage? Any 7 year issues or 9 year trade-in thoughts ;-)

I know after 11 years our love is different and some of the trials and tribulations of our life have both strengthened and weakened the love we had when we were head over heels at 23 and determined for forever....

ckandi007 · January 2014

Not quite yet. We hit 9 years in May, but we've been together almost 12 years. He was deployed every other year from 2004 until 2010 so we didn't get to experience living consecutively together for a bit, but always felt like we picked up right where we left off. We have our ups and downs, kid(s) changed our relationship, but still going strong!

monyetta22 · January 2014

We have been married for 10 years. It will be 11 years in June. It was love at first sight pretty much! We are now awaiting the arrival of our second son in May!!

IBackBevo · January 2014

We have lived together for 11 years--just like being married--but only officially married for 7.

We hit some bumps in the road back in 2010-2011, but made it through them. I guess that was at the 7-8 year mark.

MrsT2008 · January 2014

We'll be married 6 this year, but we've been together almost 12 years. Our life is definitely different now but we've hit every milestone in stride - marriage, first house, first baby, etc. We work well together

His(1&only)wife · January 2014

We've been together 11.5 years, lived together 11 years and married almost 8.5 years.

jenb_99 · January 2014

Close. 9 years in April. We'd been married 6.5 yrs, together 9, when we had DS.

jjtyler · January 2014

I've been with my H for almost 14 years. Lived together for two years before marriage, but to me marriage was WAY different.

I remember my 5 year anniversary I was like...oh, we got this. This is easy.

Then year 6 we had some recession issues (I was out of work for a few months and main breadwinner)

Year 7-8 was the fallout from a car accident that I almost died in and the health issues I had after that (and continue to have)...I also mentally completely changed as a person. Being the alpha female was no longer an option and I NEEDED him to step up. Took him a long time, but he really has....this pregnancy especially.

It was hard because I knew that I changed the game plan in the middle of the game...but now I know why the 80 year olds who have been married 50+ years talk about marriage the way they do. It's such a long, windy road and your love does change...in so many ways.

I have a good man, an amazing father. With a good heart and soul, who loves me way more than I can ever have imagined, even with my flaws and my walls and my trust issues.

But man, it's almost like when you leave for college and everyone tells you to enjoy every moment because it flies by and you roll your eyes like the 18 year old that you are...I wish I had listened a little closer. Because, when you listen to those love stories on the news of couple who have been married for years and years...they warn you that it's worth it, but you have to be aware of the work involved.

I'm so glad I did listen after awhile. Change is hard. And in a blink, a year goes by and you think you are never going to figure it all out and then you do.

Growing up is hard ;-)

rainydayluck · January 2014

We've been together for 12 years, but only married for 4 years. Our roughest time was after DD was born. We started seeing a counselor and she helped a ton and I feel like we are in a good place.

RedInLove · January 2014

We've been married for 8, back together for almost 12, and have a dating history that goes back almost 16 years. We've known each other for almost 18 years.

LUCKY22 · January 2014

October will be our 9 year anniversary. We've been together (with the expception of about 1.5 years off) for almost 16 years. Crazy...I know. We started dating when I was 20, I broke up with him when I was 25 and then go back together (obviously). We had a rough patch around 6 years and then things have been great since.

My grandma told me when we got married that, over a course of a lifetime, you'll each fall out of love with each other more than once. You just have to try really hard not to let it happen at the same time. And I can totally attest to that.

CamrynnsMommy · January 2014

Been married for almost ten years next year, probably won't trade him in, but we did hit a rough patch at seven years after our m/c.

jenniferroshto · January 2014

We'll hit 9 years in june. I honestly feel like the last few years have been our best. We struggled some our second year but other than that we have always done good.

Luckyu317 · January 2014

We'll be married 8 years this July, but we've been together for 12. For the first 4 years we were together we lived almost 2 hours apart while he was in college and during his first year of med. school and that sucked. Weekends, winter break, and summer were always the best. We had a rough patch just before we got engaged, and have gone through 2 1/2 years of IF together. No plans to trade him in. Yet.

Kay4244 · January 2014

DH and I met when we were 16 an 17. This April we will be married for 10 years. It doesn't seem to be possible. I am excited to see what the next 10 years bring us.

Kathy36799 · January 2014

Yes, Married 10 years, known each other for 12 years. This is also our first child. And we are old compared to most people I know for having their first child. Hubby will be 41 when baby is born, I will be 35. We have already been through plenty of ups and downs over the years. We would've had a kid earlier, but due to unexplained infertility, it hasn't happened till now. Life works out how it should I suppose. We definitely will be wiser and more patient when the baby arrives in May compared to 10 years ago. I learned a long time ago that the secret to marriage is the ability to accept each other's faults. Communication is key. He is my best friend. You have to have some similar interests. But still be able to do your thing too.

AugustGlass · January 2014

This may we will have been together 10 years and our 8 year anniversary is in August. Last valentines day I gave him a card that said "I'm still not sick of you". (It was a tough call between the 2 cards.).

TecheB · January 2014

Will be married 12 years this June. Been together 17! We met when we were 16 and 19 and been together ever since. Strange I know.

Shell+Bell · January 2014

Married for 5 years, but I always tell people we've been together for 13 years (this March). Time served has to be considered right? I never liked being called a newly wed, because we had been together for 8 years before we got married. I'd say the only rocky time in our relationship was in our early 20s because we thought we were both too young to be settling down. We are each others 'firsts' so we have no other experiences and we thought that is something we were supposed to explore. So we had very short 'break ups' but we never did venture away from each other. Just too young to realize that it's okay that we found each other so young. So 13 years and still going strong.

Hallil · January 2014

We have only been married for 4 years but together for 11! We started dating when we were 16, so yep, we went through some rough stuff because we were pretty serious pretty young. It all worked out though! I can't tell you how many people started asking us when the wedding was when we were 19 and 20. Well...just because we had been together 4 years didn't mean either of us thought we were old enough to be married.

spinsoffresonance · January 2014

We've only been married 2.5 years, but lived together 9 years and have been together 12years.

bumpuser10194737 · January 2014

Our 10 year anniversary will be on May 29th! We celebrated it early last summer because we were hoping I'd be pregnant or have a baby around our anniversary.

ThereBeDragons · January 2014

Married 10, will be 11 next July.

Honestly our worst rough patches were through the beginning 5 years- and the 5 years before we got married. We had one of those "I hate you, I love you, go away, but please don't leave" relationships. I threw a lot of dishes and screamed, DH passive aggressively stayed out until 3 with his poker buddies. Not flattering behavior for either of us. It took us both a long time to find our groove as adults (we started dating at 17) and we come from very very very different backgrounds.

We really clicked into our groove just before we started trying to have a baby, and honestly the nightmarish process has only brought us closer together. We needed something to both fight against to really see how well we could work together when we weren't constantly fighting eachother.

So no trade in thoughts

I wouldn't trade him in for anything- even if we still bicker and I'm still a slob and he still plays way too many video games. Perfect was never the goal- happiness was, and happiness we have.

g8trbaby01 · January 2014

We've been married 6 yrs, 7 this may...no itch to move on here head over heels still in love with my hubby. We've been together 11years.

Dellaramsey · January 2014

14 years in May!

goodgalpal · January 2014

Yep! Been married 11 years, been together for about 17 years. No trade in thoughts here. This is our first baby.

Dellaramsey · January 2014

Do I get a prize if I've been married the longest?

sammy.k · January 2014

Married for 7, been together for 12, known each other for 15. I think he's a keeper

Sarac2288 · January 2014

We are not married yet but have been together 10 years. High school sweethearts

ShannonSky · January 2014

Married 7 yrs this September, together 11yrs. Our hardest time as a couple was our first year living together. The last 6mos have probably been the most difficult for each of us, but now we work together.

mmks · January 2014

Only been married 5 years, but together almost 8. Just chiming in to say that it is reassuring to hear that lots of couples have gone through a rough patch at some point. We are going through ours now (unemployed DH, unplanned, but not unwanted pregnancy) and I can only hope that what doesn't tear us apart will make us grow stronger as a couple.

ShannonSky · January 2014

mmks said:
Only been married 5 years, but together almost 8. Just chiming in to say that it is reassuring to hear that lots of couples have gone through a rough patch at some point. We are going through ours now (unemployed DH, unplanned, but not unwanted pregnancy) and I can only hope that what doesn't tear us apart will make us grow stronger as a couple.

Life is hard, every relationship faces difficulties. If you can figure out how to face the hard times together vs against each other, you're halfway there. Unfortunately I've found that its the serious life and death type problems that teach you how to support each other. The times that are stressful but don't necessarily remind you of what is truly important can actually be harder to work through, IMO.

jjtyler · January 2014

mmks said:

Only been married 5 years, but together almost 8. Just chiming in to say that it is reassuring to hear that lots of couples have gone through a rough patch at some point. We are going through ours now (unemployed DH, unplanned, but not unwanted pregnancy) and I can only hope that what doesn't tear us apart will make us grow stronger as a couple.

Sometimes people only let you see the good and don't let you know that they may have been in the same spot too...and whatever side that you come out on, if it is what is right for you...that's OK.

Just wanted to get perspective as I know I live an open life IRL and many friends and family were aware of our rough patch (and a lot of that was because it wasn't filled with animosity, so much as "is this working?"....I think it has made us realize that our love is different after a house, kids, life-changing events, etc...but it's worth it to keep trying until it isn't right anymore.
I never want to hate him like my parents hated each other. I wanted to respect what we had and what we had become...even if that meant not being a couple anymore.

MelissaShimkus · January 2014

Meet in July, pregnant by Dec and married almost 14 yrs! Lol still going strong it was meant to be!

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