PAL Checkin

Noethola · January 2014

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Welcome to Friday PAL Checkin! This CheckIn is for everyone who is parenting after a loss. If you have an older child or a rainbow baby or both you are welcome to share here.

I hope everyone is having a good week. If anyone has any suggestions for questions, please don't be shy!

Where are you in your PAL journey?

What are some PAL challenges you have faced recently?

QOTW: For those who now have rainbow babies after a loss, did the name you chose have significance related to your loss? If you have older children, did they help you choose the name for your angel baby?

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?

OSUWifey09 · January 2014

I go here now. Wow.

Where are you in your PAL journey? Our rainbow is four days old. I still can't believe she's here. We also have a 5-year-old who was born before our loss.

What are some PAL challenges you have faced recently? Getting from labor/delivery to home was really hard. The first few days of being DD's mama have been harder than I thought, because I keep thinking about how I should have done all of this with Devon. But without Devon, we wouldn't have Mia...it's just a mixed bag right now. I know some of these feelings are being heightened by my crazy hormones, too.

QOTW: For those who now have rainbow babies after a loss, did the name you chose have significance related to your loss? If you have older children, did they help you choose the name for your angel baby? We did not try to incorporate Devon's name into Mia's name. We wanted Devon's name to be special and his, so we did agree not to use any names that started with an A or a D. DS really didn't care about the name [understandably, since he's 5].

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? I seriously cannot believe I'm here. I miss being pregnant already, but to have our rainbow in my arms is the most incredible thing ever. Her first 24 hours were a little rough, but she pulled through with flying colors and is now swaddled and sleeping the day away. My heart seriously aches for Devon, but I'm so happy to have Mia.

jbranden12 · January 2014

Where are you in your PAL journey? Anna just turned one year old (9 months adjusted). Patricia would be 21.5 months if she were born alive.

What are some PAL challenges you have faced recently? Anna's birthday was hard, both because it shouldn't have been her birthday yet and because we will never get to celebrate with Patricia what we do with Anna. Though I feel I should be more thankful for Anna since we lost Patricia, our difficult journey with her makes it hard.

QOTW: For those who now have rainbow babies after a loss, did the name you chose have significance related to your loss? If you have older children, did they help you choose the name for your angel baby? Our girls share a middle name, thus my blog "Loving the Kirstens." In dreaming of more girls' names, I consider Patricia. I won't reuse her name, but I also won't choose another "A" name, because I don't want her to be left out.

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? We booked our tickets to go to Europe for two weeks in May to visit the ILs. It seems far away but I have a lot of prep work to do. I need to get Anna's U.S. passport application in and am working out who of her specialists we need to see before we go. I need to request a CD of her MRIs to take with us and map out hospitals capable of neurosurgery in case she has a shunt malfunction while we're traveling. This is a good start to my list... :-)

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