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HBirdie · January 2014

So I'm part of a (very liberal) group of local moms on Facebook. The admins are really intense about manners and not snarking, so I have to vent here. Tonight there was a post about how this woman was losing sleep worrying about her two year old son's future... she's really afraid he's going to grow up and marry someone who won't like her (which is reasonable), or who would dare vaccinate, spank, or circumcise her future grandchildren. She said she would give anything to be able to raise her own grandchildren because she's afraid her future DIL will mess it up. Then lots of people were commenting saying they totally understand, and one person actually said, "I pray all the time that my son marries an orphan so that I don't have to compete for best grandma."

sgautschi · January 2014

Wtf?? I would've had a hard time not saying anything...

CDMay2006 · January 2014

Huh.

OliveMom3 · January 2014

I understand the board wanting people to have manners and not snark but what about a gentle dose of reality? Oy. Vent away hon! We're all ears.

Eta: because I really do know how up spell and say things properly. I swear.

HBirdie · January 2014

Yeah, the whole post is just so weird! I need to stop reading it, I think. It's gross. Remember when we all complained about our MILs and swore we'd never ever be like them or treat our DILs (or daughters for that matter) terribly? Let's stick to that. These ladies just sound real peachy.

I know my son is far away from being an adult, but I really really hope that he's healthy and happy. I hope he finds someone who really loves him and strives to treat him well. And I'm going to teach him how important it is to treat others well. I'm going to have faith that I've taught him to be a good human and that in turn, he'll raise good humans.

And please, dear Lord, help me remember that my grandchildren are not my children to raise. Ugh.

JocelynB0911 · January 2014

I would've been kicked out. Wtf!?

AlejandraN2 · January 2014

Um what? I have a hard time understanding how people think like that and wow I'm impressed you didn't say anything. To quote one of our favorites, "i feel sorry for her babies" - but i mean really. I hope she doesn't smother her son and realizes that his happiness and finding someone that loves him and who he adores back is more important than finding a wife that will be the spitting image of her.

ravenclaw1 · January 2014

Uh. I would've also been kicked out. That's so idiotic. H and I have recently had discussions about how we can raise A to respect us and have a good relationship with us, but that's the only conversation of that sort we even think about. I can't imagine having that sort of attitude.

kennazebrowsky · January 2014

That lady sounds like a control freakazoid

PrettyInPearls23 · January 2014

8-| Delusional much? I already feel bad for her imaginary hypothetical DIL.

kje120 · January 2014

I'm fairly certain I would have been banned from that group.

Wanting your son to marry an orphan so you don't have to compete for best grandma is disturbing.

database6 · January 2014

Oh wow, that's pretty horrible.

JocelynB0911 · January 2014

My mil and I have our differences. They're not huge, just annoying at times. But an awesome story that made me want to hug her.

Her douchey friend (she's a douche for other things she's said to me) commented on how all of the guys are starting to settle down. There's a close group of guys my husband is friends with that were all getting engaged, married, or (we were the first to have kids out if the group) start families.

She told my mil that "none of these girls are good enough for our boys" which my mil quickly snapped back "my son found the love of his life and she's absolutely amazing. She treats him well and is carrying his child. Speak for yourself "

High five mil, high five.

hmlynch84 · January 2014

Of all the things to worry about...seriously? She should be more worried about the diseases he could catch from not being vaccinated. I probably would have been kicked out for saying that

HBirdie · January 2014

Thank you! I knew I was crazy to be judging the crap out of this. Ugh. I know too many people in the group IRL to go crazy and say how I really feel about it. So I just leave it alone. It's so ridiculous though.

@hmlynch84: I'm cracking up at your vaccination comment!

@twolittlewheels: The orphan comment lady is probably my SMIL. She's INSANE- she thinks I shouldn't hang out with my mom because that gives them unequal time with the baby. Right. I'm not going to hang out with my own mother so that things can be "fair." And she's constantly telling Caleb stuff like, "Hi baby. Remember me? I'm your NICE grandma." WTF. She gets insanely jealous of both my mom and DH's mom. It's ridiculous. And I kind of think she wants me to die so she can raise my baby for me. (Only half kidding...). She's yucky.

DaisyZH · January 2014

That is awful, I truly hope I have a good relationship with my future DIL or SIL. I look at it as an extension of the family, as gaining another son or daughter, not an adversarial competition over my kids' love. They sound very messed up.

imakeeff0rts · January 2014

I can't figure out why you're still in that group. It seems like it's way more full of crazies than TB is.

HBirdie · January 2014

twolittlewheels said:

@HBirdie My MIL called my mom a f-ing c*** at a parade because I let my mom hold Caleb when he was a baby. She's a peach.
EDIT: Also, ygpm.

:O

imakeeff0rts said:

I can't figure out why you're still in that group. It seems like it's way more full of crazies than TB is.

The entertainment factor, I guess? Also because it's a really good place to ask questions specifically about local stuff, like who has the best deals on this or that, or if I'm not sure I can find something locally, or if I need ideas for what to do for the day. There are benefits to being a member. There are just also a lot of crazies.

barnratash · January 2014

imakeeff0rts said:
I can't figure out why you're still in that group. It seems like it's way more full of crazies than TB is.

I wonder this too. You said you knew some of them IRL, are they friends, acquaintances? Do you hide from them in public? They sound totally BSC, especially if they're all agreeing. I don't know who worries about things like that.

HBirdie · January 2014

barnratash said:

I can't figure out why you're still in that group. It seems like it's way more full of crazies than TB is.
I wonder this too. You said you knew some of them IRL, are they friends, acquaintances? Do you hide from them in public? They sound totally BSC, especially if they're all agreeing. I don't know who worries about things like that.

It's a group for any mom in our county. Last time I got curious and looked, there were like 2500 members. I have maybe 5 good friends and... eh, 5 or 6 acquaintances in it? It's a secret group, so what's posted there can only be seen by the members. Like I said before, there are good things about being a member- there are often discussions about local doctors, recommendations for who's a good pediatric dentist in the area and who to stay away from, if there's a good deal or cool event going on somewhere local, that kind of thing. It's a really big, busy group, and I like reading the questions and seeing other people's advice. Every once in awhile, there's just a weird/crazy post like this one and it makes my head want to explode. Hence the sharing with you guys.

barnratash · January 2014

HBirdie said:

barnratash said:

imakeeff0rts said:
I can't figure out why you're still in that group. It seems like it's way more full of crazies than TB is.
I wonder this too. You said you knew some of them IRL, are they friends, acquaintances? Do you hide from them in public? They sound totally BSC, especially if they're all agreeing. I don't know who worries about things like that.

It's a group for any mom in our county. Last time I got curious and looked, there were like 2500 members. I have maybe 5 good friends and... eh, 5 or 6 acquaintances in it? It's a secret group, so what's posted there can only be seen by the members. Like I said before, there are good things about being a member- there are often discussions about local doctors, recommendations for who's a good pediatric dentist in the area and who to stay away from, if there's a good deal or cool event going on somewhere local, that kind of thing. It's a really big, busy group, and I like reading the questions and seeing other people's advice. Every once in awhile, there's just a weird/crazy post like this one and it makes my head want to explode. Hence the sharing with you guys.

Ooo. Alright, that sounds more legit. I wonder if I have a local one like that.

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