Could this week get any worse? Long Vent

sparrowmomma24 · January 2014

Okay, so here's the story...

I found out last week (via a text from the ex) that NY had suspended my license due to no insurance, even though I have insurance. So what happened is that last August I switched insurance since I was living here in MO for the time being. I talked to both companies (NY and MO) and both said it was perfectly fine that I now had MO insurance. Ok.. no worries right? WRONG! So I called the DMV this morning in NY and talked to them. Because it wasn't taken care of months ago, I now have a big mess. My license is suspended until I can mail my plates in. Then I will have a restricted license until mid April. FML right? It gets better. I took my car next door to the mechanic to have the oil changed this morning. I knew I had a small oil leak so I was prepared for that. I needed to get it fixed before I head down to see my BF this weekend (3 hour drive). So I get a call from the shop after talking to the DMV. It turns out my car is in BAD shape. As in... it's going to cost 1600 dollars to fix and all of it has to be done asap. So... I don't have that kind of money. I am paying for the bare minimum today. It would be stressful enough if I just had to worry about getting it all fixed as soon as possible. But it gets worse. So I have to mail my plates in today or tomorrow, back to NY. So I have to register my car here in MO. In order to do that it has to pass inspection. And you guessed it... until I get all this fixed, it won't pass inspection. So now I have no idea how I'm going to pay for everything, no idea when I'm going to see my BF next, and I'm just a mess! On top of that Ellie's EDD is Wednesday and I'm just so stressed and anxious and ticked off.

Thank you all for letting me vent. I'm so upset about not seeing BF this weekend. I was going to get Ellie's tattoo while I was there. I guess all I can do is get started on everything. And now I am going to go have a good cry. Is it drinking time yet?

***UPDATE***

So it's true.. I have the best BF around. I am on my way to getting everything taken care of with the car and the DMV but it's doubtful that I will be able to get it all done by Friday. So this morning, when he called to have a morning talk on such an important day (Ellie's EDD).... he informed me that he will be here as soon as I get off work on Friday and will be taking me down to his hometown (3 hours away) so I can still have a great weekend and still get my tattoo. I'm so blessed. Now to relax and try to enjoy this hard day!

litzo27 · January 2014

I'm so sorry dear!!! This is the last thing you need this week! You're right - the only thing you can do is get started on this mess and hopefully everything will be cleared up soon. Can BF come down to see you instead for now?

juliasmama2010 · January 2014

I'm so sorry to hear about all of this, Sparrow. You got a lot on your plate, girl. I hope you can chip away at your new "to-do" list and get things taken care of quickly. And yes, I'd say it is time for a drink!

mommabird77 · January 2014

Oh no, I am so sorry! Sending you big hugs!

Momto1goofball · January 2014

I'm sorry that you are dealing with all this. Car issues suck. I would have thought that having the MO insurance while there would be fine since you aren't in NY right now. Hmm. Interesting. Hopefully the mechanic can get everything fixed quickly and you can get you plates in the mail soon. Take a deep breath and get the ball rolling and then have a big glass of wine tonight. ((hugs))

cowscrub · January 2014

So sorry to hear you're going thru this.. :-(

MrsGraham06 · January 2014

Oh, I'm so sorry. Maybe your BF can come visit you, give you hugs and dry your tears, and hand you a good drink with a big bowl of ice cream.

Arrgcr · January 2014

I'm so sorry hun. I live in MO and thee inspections suck. If you have a crack in your windshield or headlights, even if the lights work, they won't even look at it. Around here though I think it costs $17 for an inspection. MH still has ark tags on his truck...

sparrowmomma24 · January 2014

I'm hoping that when I go pay for the first repairs on my car (what they took care of today) he'll say he'll pass me for an inspection. That would take a serious load off. The other good news is that while everything has to be taken care of asap, some of it is ok for the next few weeks a least. So that should give me a little time and I can still drive my car around town for work. I think I've just been so overwhelmed and so stressed that I finally cracked. I knew I could come here and vent to you all. You guys are so supportive. I just have to get through it. One piece at a time. I also talked to BF and he was so supportive. He almost laughed while I was crying to him. He just kept saying: "Sweetie.. calm down. This is not the end of the world and we will figure it all out. I'm just glad you know what's wrong now. So at least you won't get into an accident because you didn't know." Ugh, I'm lucky to have him.

jessicat2283 · January 2014

I didn't think you were supposed to get tattoos while pregnant?? Did I miss something? Sorry to hear about your car I recently had a bunch if car issues. It was not fun & expensive

km_md · January 2014

I'm so sorry Sparrow ((hugs)) That is a lot to deal with. We are all here for you!

nolagal79 · January 2014

So sorry to hear all of this got dumped on you at once. Sounds like you have great support from your BF, which is awesome. Hopefully the mechanic will pass you on an inspection since the critical stuff is already fixed. If he won't, is there anywhere nearby that will? We have one place that does "inspections" by taking the car in the shop and replacing he sticker. And what crap that even after talking to the insurance companies the info they gave you was not correct.

If you don't mind me asking, what will Ellie's tattoo look like?

You're a strong lady and will get through this mess @sparrowmomma24

aessary03 · January 2014

I'll join you with a glass of wine. We'll toast to shifty weeks!

Sorry nothing seems to be going right. Hopefully everything will right itself very soon. Hugs.

megs12914 · January 2014

I'm so sorry. I really hope everything gets better and you catch a break.

Winnieella · January 2014

I'm sorry

cnctf · January 2014

Im sorry to hear about this crazy fiasco. It totally sucks how the DMV gave you wrong info. I hope you find a way to see your BF and get that tattoo! For the time being, enjoy your glass of wine and we're here for you.

Ljessen13 · January 2014

(((Hugs))) coming ur way. Although not the greatest news glad to hear from u ...we have missed u

sparrowmomma24 · January 2014

jessicat2283 said:

I didn't think you were supposed to get tattoos while pregnant?? Did I miss something? Sorry to hear about your car I recently had a bunch if car issues. It was not fun & expensive

Sorry hun, you must have missed it. My sweet Ellie was born on September 9, 2013 at 22 weeks. Stillborn.

sparrowmomma24 · January 2014

My tattoo is going to be her footprints (actual size), her name Ellie, her birthdate 9-9-13, and the words "Too Beautiful For Earth". The artist is doing it for free and is going to make it really beautiful.

Arrgcr · January 2014

@sparrowmomma24 I hope to see pictures of your beautiful memorial tattoo. I also hope your week gets better soon sweetie.

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