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Miscarriage at 11weeks...Feeling numb...

cs1007cs1007 member
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It has been 8 days since I lost the pregnancy. It started out as spotting, which led to bleeding and severe cramping. I knew it was over, but an ultrasound was scheduled to 'confirm'. The ultrasound confirmed that I had 'lost' the baby, but it was still in my body, which totally disturbed me, because I expected that it had already passed...the baby was more developed that I expected as well, which made it even more difficult to see. They scheduled a D&C for me the next day, but the sac came out on its own at home...which really freaked me out. I spent the first week pretty miserable, crying and constantly sad and depressed.... One week later I literally have no emotion. Friends and family call to see how I am doing and I feel like when I am explaining it, that I am talking about someone else...like the whole thing was just a bad dream. I am almost feeling guilty for my lack of connection/emotion at this point. I just feel like I can't cry anymore...
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Re: Miscarriage at 11weeks...Feeling numb...

  • gabbagalgabbagal member
    I am so sorry for your loss, but you shouldn't feel guilty because there's no wrong way to grieve. I think it's perfectly normal to go through all sorts of weird or unexlplained feelings. I also hit a "numb" feeling after having a bunch of crying sessions where everything felt like a dream from months ago instead of days ago. There will also probably be a time where you'll feel "ok" then some random event will trigger an emotional response out of the blue. I even hit a weird stage where I was hyper aware of everyone's mortality, young and old. All of those episodes will pass and gradually get better. I hope sharing stories and emotions here will help you heal, it has been really valuable for me. Take care of yourself and hang in there.
    Me: 41, DH: 42, married 2009
    BFP #1: 12/05/2012; EDD 08/09/2013; MC 01/2013 (missed, D&C)
    BFP #2: 12/19/2013; EDD 08/25/2014; MC 01/2014 (natural)
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  • smcniffsmcniff member
    Do not feel guilty. I have felt very bipolar since my miscarriage 4 weeks ago. One minute I am crying in the shower, an hour later I am talking about it like it is no big deal. Everyone is different. You still have to live your life after this terrible loss.


    BFP #1 11/02/13, EDD 07/04/14, BO diagnosed 12/12/13 at 9w5d
    BFP #2 6/12/14, DD born 2/21/15

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  • aezimmermanaezimmerman member
    edited January 2014
    I am so sorry for your loss. Like the other ladies, I did hit a numb period. First there was the initial shock and anguish; lots of crying and feelings of emptiness. Then came the numbness. Now I am doing relatively well. I am almost back to my old self. To give you an idea of the timeline, I had a natural mc on the day after Christmas. So I guess what I needed most was time to work through all the emotions. I hope that is true for you too.
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  • SweetiepopsSweetiepops member
    I understand. It is such a rollercoaster of emotions. I had my m/c Dec 11th, went back to work 2 days later which kept me busy. Then I had 2 weeks of Christmas holidays and I felt SO much better relaxing, watching movies, drinking with family/friends. This week back at work has been impossible, like I've regressed back to where I was emotionally 4 weeks ago. There are 4 pregnant girls at my work which doesn't help, and I went to one of their baby showers yesterday. It feels like a bad dream to me too, like it didn't really happen. I hope next week is better. I hope it is for you too.
    TTC Since August, 2013
    BFP#1 11/2/2013 EDD 7/14/2014 MMC discovered at 8w3d (baby stopped growing at 6w2d)
    BFP#2 2/4/2014 EDD 10/15/2014 please stick little one!

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  • cole1265cole1265 member
    I'm 11 weeks.. Or was... Just found out today, my D&C is scheduled for tomorrow..
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