Any of you co-sleeping moms ever leave LO overnight when they were under a year old?

coffeeandbooks · January 2014

Just wondering how it worked...and what happened. Did LO sleep alone or with DH? Did they sleep at all? Any details would be appreciated.

OKBegonia · January 2014

No help here, unfortunately. Just wondering the same thing. I have to go out of town and she nurses to sleep and all through the night.

TiffanyBerry · January 2014

At 3.5yrs, we still haven't tried that. I suspect there would be a lot of tears, but if it had to happen, she would survive.

kcisthebombdotcom · January 2014

Both of my kids have had regular sleepovers at my parents since a few months old. When they were infants they slept in the rock n play sleeper side carred to my parents bed. Once they were one my mom started bed sharing with the kids in the guest room. They've always slept great.

Emerald27 · January 2014

DS is 2 and has still not been without me overnight. It would be very hard for him.

We haven't had to forgo any trips, though. I have just always found a way for DS to come along.

For vacations, LO is portable and can be worn on chest or back, with diapers, a baggie of wipes, and an extra onesie in my purse. For a business trip, you could ask grandma to come along as a sitter, and if it's in a nice area, she can see the sights (or hire a sitter there). The sitter can bring LO to you during breaks to nurse, and you'll be there with LO at night.

It is also nice to have LO along if you're breastfeeding. It's easier to nurse than to lug a pump and bottles around, and any time you would be nursing, you would need to be pumping, which would be an extra inconvenience. It's easier in my mind to nurse at night when LO wakes than to wake up to an alarm to get up and pump, and to nurse LO in a carrier while sightseeing rather than finding a discreet place to set up the pump I've been carting around...

tl;dr It's just easier to bring LO - but do take your trips, just find a way to do it with LO there.

musicalmama5 · January 2014

I haven't tried nor would I want to. Yes, the idea of a full night's sleep is tempting, but I really don't think I'd do well away from DS (not to mention, it would be awful for him and whoever was with him!). I like just bringing him with me wherever I go. @Emerald27 made some really great suggestions.

ncbelle · January 2014

I didn't but more because I was night nursing still and not so much the bed sharing (as they would have been fine with DH close to one).

coffeeandbooks · January 2014

@emerald27 if was in anyway feasible to take him I would and I wouldn't have posted this question. It is for work and grandma and our sitter unfortunately aren't available for long distance travel and I wouldn't feel comfortable bringing him to this particular locale any way.
I am a WAHM and I have some business travel which is my tradeoff for being able to support my family and still spend most of my time with LO.

rae_dylanzmom · January 2014

Wish I could help from experience, but here are some random thoughts....
- I try to let DH see how I put our DS to bed so that he can anticipate what DS is asking for/expecting.
- Maybe a shirt that smells like you, so at least your smell is nearby.
- Perhaps you could try some DH/LO co-sleeping before you are gone, and you can help him learn how you snuggle.
- And if you nurse through the night, maybe you can introduce a bottle (or whatever your DH will need to do) so he's not starting from scratch with that.

GL!

=Lee=B · January 2014

We went away for 30hrs when my daughter was 3months. It was for my husbands best friends wedding...I'd agreed to it months before baby arrived. I had a few good freak outs in the weeks leading up to it but by the time the event rolled around I pulled it together and survived, and almost enjoyed myself.

We left her with my mom, brother, SIL and 8month old nephew who all drove 18hrs to come stay at our house. I spent weeks pumping enough milk to leave.

They all did well. My daughter ate every 2hrs on the dot, her usual nursing schedule. She slept well and was fine. She never, ever took a bottle after my return...it's been 7months now and I swear she remembers the bottles were from a time when I disappeared!

My mom wasn't comfortable bedsharing so baby slept in the crib with my mom on a bed in the room nearby. My daughter had done a mix of crib and bedsharing prior so was fine with the crib.

Babies can amaze you...your baby will do just fine without you. It won't be easy for you...won't be that easy for daddy or baby but they will be just fine, they will appreciate you all the more when you return.

I pumped milk every 2hrs while away, day and night. It sucked. During the wedding I went out and pumped in the car and stored it in a cooler. Sucked...but we do what we need to do. It meant a lot to my husband that I did this for him. It was nice to have some couple time. It was nice to challenge myself and see that I can trust my family to care for my baby while away.

Mrs.AmyDylan · January 2014

It will be hard, but honestly a lot is going to be YH attitude when LO is crying. If he is tired and short, it could be especially difficult. Try to get him extra support for awake time.

At 12mo, DD loses her shit when DH goes in (we bed share, but join her around 10pm, so I nurse her down and sneak out). Can you ease her into DH taking a lead night role by having him comfort her at first MOTN waking?

Jtiki · January 2014

I did twice, for one night each time. Son normally breastfeeds through the night, but I usually sleep through it. When I went away both my husband and I were shocked about how much he ate. Hubbie because he had to keep getting bottles, and me because I kept getting painfully engorged and had to pump. Normally all three of us cosleep, so it wasn't too much of a shock.

vintagejjane · January 2014

Yes. We left DD at 11 months and she was part time cosleeping. She ended up just sleeping in bed with my mom the entire night.

stephrodgers07 · January 2014

Mine did the other night. My mom took out the blow up mattress and they slept on that. He slept in longer stretches with her.

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