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Pregnant again the loss of my fiancée

ImaniJ55ImaniJ55 member
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Hello everyone! I'm back on TB because I found out that I am pregnant again. Unfortunately my fiancée was murdered almost a month ago and I was wondering if anyone had any experiences with this type of loss and if so, can you tell me how you are coping and if you did anything to help with coping, please share. Thank you!
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  • ravenclaw1ravenclaw1 member
    I'm so sorry for the loss of your fiancé. I have no experience with that sort if situation. Are you around his family?
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  • ImaniJ55ImaniJ55 member
    Yes I am but I attend school and work and sometimes I feel like breaking down. Everyone helps but I still feel alone. I just wanted some pointers on getting back on track.
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  • CNYBride05CNYBride05 member
    I'd recommend a grief group for people who have suffered traumatic losses and/or individual therapy. Of course you feel like breaking down - you've suffered a horrific loss. Many hugs and I hope your heart begins to heal soon.
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  • BootsOrHeartsBootsOrHearts member
    Congrats on your pregnancy. I don't have any good advice to offer, only to say I'm so sorry you've had to deal with that kind of loss. Give yourself time to process what has happened and to grieve.
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  • bethLenellbethLenell member
    I'm so sorry for your loss! No good advice from me either but I would try counseling of some kind for sure.
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  • SharonB222SharonB222 member
    I am sorry for your tragic loss. On the November 2013 board a member's DH died in a car accident during her pg. It took me years after my pg losses to get back on track. I found which family and friends could be supportive, went to a counselor, found local and online support groups, read books... Kudos to you for seeking support. Hugs for you in this difficult time.

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