Now that I'm almost halfway done and the a/s was good, I can't stop picturing my future son with my husband. I'm really excited thinking about seeing my husband and LO asleep together and DH holding our baby in his strong arms. And then when LO gets older seeing DH teach him all sorts of things.
FTMs (and moms with new SOs) is there anything you are looking forward to when it comes to seeing your SO with your baby?
STMs+, what did you love about seeing your SO with your baby. Anything you loved that surprised you?
Edit: by "good a/s" I mean baby was measuring in the normal range for everything. We didn't care if it was a boy or girl.
DH said to me today "Chris and I were just talking about soap box cars and I just got really excited!" It took me a second to realize he was talking about building one with our son he's gonna be so amazing with him.
Seeing my husband hold our first son in the delivery room after my csection and seeing his eyes tear up made me love him more than I thought I could. It sounds so corny, I know. Then for our second, who was born premature and I was in the ICU following complications, seeing him trying to be so strong for both of us was heartbreaking. He was so strong and dealt with almost losing me that I felt a different kind of love for him. Even now watching him with the boys I watch in awe of what a great father he is and how I can't wait for our family to grow. Sorry for the cheesiness of my response, maybe it's my hormones.
That first time seeing him hold our son was truly one of the best moments of my life. He was given to my husband first since I was having some complications, but I was so distracted from everything going on with me because watching them was just beautiful. I fell in love all over again and I am super excited for the same with our little girl.
Nothing compares to that feeling. There's a great photo of the three of us from the day he was born that someone took when we didn't know. It is hanging in our house now. It totally captured all the love in the room with our new little family.
@hjl050308, not cheesy at all! That's the kind of response I was hoping for and to be honest, reading that kind of made me tear up. Your DH sounds great.
If you think you love your SO a lot now, you will fall deeper in love as you see them interact with your LO. DH is an awesome father to our almost 4 year old and I have no doubt he will be awesome for this LO as well.
I dealt with a lot of PPD and DH was awesome. He never thought twice cleaning up after DS with puke, pee, poop or feeding him. He was awesome in keeping us all on track for that first year.
My husband will have an entire semester for paternity leave, and he's taking it. I am so excited to see him "take charge" of the baby-care. He's nervous about it, but I think it'll be a huge benefit to both him and the baby.
I agree, there is nothing better than seeing the love of your life and your LO fast asleep, for a mid day nap. Now I look forward (but mostly curious) as to how my son is going to react to bringing baby, home and how they will interact with each other.
I just wanted to share this photo with you, because my heart just explodes with love every time I look back on it, and give you a glimpse of what you have to look forward to with your new little family.
I love reading your responses! At this point, I am just excited to see him hold our child for the first time and fall in love with him or her. I'm sure I will have more specific answers/scenarios when we know the sex.
These two. It was amazing to watch them meet as she was born, and to watch him figure out being a dad. It's even more amazing to see how they interact as she grows older. One from earlier this year, and one from now. They play with balls and duplo and blocks and all sorts of things. I love how silly he is with her! Their favorite game is blanket forts
I'm looking forward to seeing H kick around a soccer ball with them/help them practice that. I'm also looking forward to seeing him teach them about football.
You know that cheesey Pinterest thing that says "I didn't know how much I loved your daddy until I saw how much he loved you"? Or something along those lines... OMG it's so true. My heart melted when he held DD for the first time. He's so good with her. And to see how much she loves him...it's just so amazing. Now that we are having a boy I cannot wait to watch him fall in love with his son like he did with his daughter. My dad was never around as a kid so it's just so special to me for my kids to have such a wonderful daddy.
Seeing my husband hold our first son in the delivery room after my csection and seeing his eyes tear up made me love him more than I thought I could. It sounds so corny, I know.
It's not corny (although I probably would've said it was a few months ago.) I tell my dude every few days now that I love him more than I did before. This pregnancy has absolutely brought out the best in him -- and he was already a pretty awesome guy.
I know he's going to be an awesome dad (if somewhat prone to spoiling) and I can't wait to see it.
DS is totally in love with DH and vice-versa. I just love hearing them interact. DH is always trying to reason with DS (who is 10 months old) and DS loves his voice so his giggles the whole time. He also loves to touch and pet DH's beard, which is super cute to watch. And then DH shows DS his video games and asks for DS' advice. Super cute.
Totally getting teary eyed over here. I'm a FTM and I can't wait for that moment of seeing DH with our LO for the first time. He isn't the most vocal guy with his emotions but he's been saying things like "I can't wait to cuddle and rock our baby to sleep" and "if we have a girl Im going to be wrapped around her little finger" and things like that. When we had an u/s at week 13 (I was having some bleeding, and he was scared but didn't show it) and we saw the baby moving and flexing and kicking he almost cried in the room. And he keeps saying its not fair how he can't feel the baby move yet. I totally can't wait til June!
I agree with all PP! If you think you love SO now just wait to see them with you LO! I couldn't take my eyes off of him holding LO for the first time, I didn't even realize I had tears rolling down my face. Great post by the way love remembering that moment. I also love to see them sleep I could just lay and watch them sleep with a huge smile.
I was asking DH about strollers today and his (pretty ridiculous) response was that he wasn't going to use a stroller, he was going to wear the baby "in one of those backpack things". Just so beyond adorable.
We went shopping later and saw one in the store and excitedly pointed it out. I could have died there just picturing the cuteness.
I wish I had that feeling. He leaves in two weeks and keeps telling me how much he's going to enjoy his 6 months of freedom and how he doesn't want to talk about the baby right now so that he enjoy what time he has left without responsibilities. I'm almost to a point of just kicking him out. :-/ my daughter doesn't need that in her life...
I will never ever forget the sound of DH's voice when our daughter was born and he spoke to her for the first time. It was this sweet, loving voice that I had never heard come out of him before. Melted my heart.
There was also an evening within the first week she was born that I was soooooo exhausted, I had to get some rest. I woke from my nap to the sound of her crying, and rushed out of bed to find him frantically changing her diaper and talking to her to soothe her. He didn't notice me watching and I was just in awe of how hard he was trying....it was so sweet, and so apparent how much he loved her. I snuck back to bed for a few min to give him some time. I cry every time I think of that moment.
I wish I had that feeling. He leaves in two weeks and keeps telling me how much he's going to enjoy his 6 months of freedom and how he doesn't want to talk about the baby right now so that he enjoy what time he has left without responsibilities. I'm almost to a point of just kicking him out. :-/ my daughter doesn't need that in her life...
Sorry that he is not being being as supportive as he should be...maybe he is just freaking out over such a huge change in his life? It's a pretty hard realization for some people to come to grips with even when the pregnancy is completely planned. Everything does change after the baby is here, for both of you. I hope he gets it together before too much longer.
As to the original post, I'm a second time mom, and agree that some of the best moments are when your SO/husband holds the baby for the first time or falls asleep with them. I have also enjoyed seeing the love and pride that my husband has in our son continuously grow; pretty much anything that he does, barring whining or crying, makes my husband smile, laugh, etc.. He pretty much glows when his father visits us to see his grandchild (and us), and even though he is a bit of an introvert, he seems to eat up kind comments from strangers about our son. It is also pretty sweet seeing him go straight to Cole after the work day is over to give him a big bear hug, comforting him after a tumble, or encouraging him when he is trying something new.
I agree with all PP! If you think you love SO now just wait to see them with you LO! I couldn't take my eyes off of him holding LO for the first time, I didn't even realize I had tears rolling down my face. Great post by the way love remembering that moment. I also love to see them sleep I could just lay and watch them sleep with a huge smile.
So glad you like the topic of this post. I thought it might be a fun one but it's so much more heartwarming than I anticipated!
@kahorstman So sorry that your SO is acting like a douche. I don't have experience with this but maybe once the baby is here and not an abstract idea (to him), he'll step up. Fingers crossed for you. Stay strong!
I wish I had that feeling. He leaves in two weeks and keeps telling me how much he's going to enjoy his 6 months of freedom and how he doesn't want to talk about the baby right now so that he enjoy what time he has left without responsibilities. I'm almost to a point of just kicking him out. :-/ my daughter doesn't need that in her life...
That's horrible! I'm so sorry he is acting this way, I'm with you hun, kick him out if this isn't the life he wants!
This is the most exciting part of having a kid for me. There is nothing in my life that comes close to the love and joy of my husband. We've been together over ten years, and I still bliss out looking at him.
He constantly talks about things he wants to do with our daughter. We were cleaning out the bookshelves and he'd pick up a book about strong women in film and say, "We need to keep this one for Nugget. And this one." He talks about the places he wants to take her and the things he wants to teach her. And this is the fellow who, even when he has to pee, will sit unmoving for an hour not to bother a sleeping cat. He will be so amazingly loving to a child.
When I imagine this summer -- three months off with my new baby to enjoy summer and go on strolls to the beautiful nearby park with him -- I'm like:
My heart melts when I think about my H doing just about anything with our daughter after she's born. There's just something so special about seeing a daddy with his daughter.
When we first found out we were having a girl he seemed more terrified than happy but he's been getting more and more excited. He told me the other day that he can't wait to take her out on dates and plans on taking her with him to Dunks on the weekends, just the 2 of them. I said 'even when she's still tiny, you're going to feel ok taking her by yourself?' And he said 'yeah! It'll be our time together.'
I was talking to hubby about some baby courses we could take before the baby comes. When I mentioned a class only for fathers, he got excited and can't wait to go to it. He said he would love the class to be a debate one where future dads share their opinions etc... He is so into learning about our little one that I cant wait for the baby to be here to share those cute moments with him/her
FTM here, and I'm sooo excited to see DD with her daddy! DH absolutely loves and bonds with his nephews so well and I can only imagine how he will be with his daughter. I am definitely going to be like some of you and cry when I see him hold her for the first time. I get teary eyed when he touches and kisses my belly sometimes! & @kahorstman that is awful! I'm sorry he is being like that.. Hopefully he will be different when your daughter is born and not such a boy about it!
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Nothing compares to that feeling. There's a great photo of the three of us from the day he was born that someone took when we didn't know. It is hanging in our house now. It totally captured all the love in the room with our new little family.
I dealt with a lot of PPD and DH was awesome. He never thought twice cleaning up after DS with puke, pee, poop or feeding him. He was awesome in keeping us all on track for that first year.
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OMG it's so true. My heart melted when he held DD for the first time. He's so good with her. And to see how much she loves him...it's just so amazing.
Now that we are having a boy I cannot wait to watch him fall in love with his son like he did with his daughter.
My dad was never around as a kid so it's just so special to me for my kids to have such a wonderful daddy.
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I also love to see them sleep I could just lay and watch them sleep with a huge smile.
We went shopping later and saw one in the store and excitedly pointed it out. I could have died there just picturing the cuteness.
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That's horrible! I'm so sorry he is acting this way, I'm with you hun, kick him out if this isn't the life he wants!
When we first found out we were having a girl he seemed more terrified than happy but he's been getting more and more excited. He told me the other day that he can't wait to take her out on dates and plans on taking her with him to Dunks on the weekends, just the 2 of them. I said 'even when she's still tiny, you're going to feel ok taking her by yourself?' And he said 'yeah! It'll be our time together.'
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