Registry Information with Shower Invite?

RachelCA29 · January 2014

My mom and mother-in-law are planning my baby shower and will be sending out the invites at the end of the month, maybe beginning of February.

So I am registered at 2 places. I have a very bare-bones BRU registry (bottles, receiving blankets, etc.) and I also have a cloth diaper registry at a smaller, Canadian-based store/website (but the physical store is in another province). Most of what I registered for is on my cloth diaper registry. I picked the website because a) they ship from within Canada so no extra duty charges b) they have relatively reasonable prices and a good selection of brands/price ranges and c) they offer free shipping on certain $ amount orders, so it would save people money on shipping.

The only thing is, their website isn't as fancy as BRU where you can just search by my name, people actually need to know my registry # AND a password to view my list and order off this registry. Unfortunately this isn't the kind of information that can just be passed around "word of mouth". So I thought I would make a little card that said I'm registered at BRU on one side, and on the other list the CD website with the registry number and password.

I know it's a big faux-pas to include registry information with something like a wedding invitation, but for something like a shower, which is a gift-giving occasion, it seems like it just makes sense to include a little card showing where I am registered. I have received shower invites with those little cards and thought nothing of it.

Is that terrible? Am I going to etiquette hell?

MrsT2008 · January 2014

I have always received shower invites that included registry info. Like you said, that's the point of the shower - to buy the guest of honor a gift.

Miles2Go · January 2014

People invited to and attending a shower understand that they will be giving a gift. It's kind of the whole point. I'd be put off if registry information was NOT included.

Peaceb0ne · January 2014

A shower invitation should include registry info. The point of a baby shower is to shower the new mom with gifts.

Katemr1146 · January 2014

Miles2Go said:
People invited to and attending a shower understand that they will be giving a gift. It's kind of the whole point. I'd be put off if registry information was NOT included.

This. I hate the scavenger hunt for registry info. Just include it. It's not like you're hosting the shower for yourself.

deanna1313 · January 2014

Include it in your invite! I've never received one without registry info. That's why babies r us and all those places print those cards as inserts for your invitations. It's totally normal to put it with the invitation.

awknyc · January 2014

Agree with PP, not sure if you are inviting anyone that's never been to a shower either, but they would probably find it more helpful instead of trying to figure out what to get you.

ErikaLynn75 · January 2014

Go ahead and put it in there. Etiquette rules say the registry info shouldn't be printed on the invitation, but an extra insert in the same envelope is becoming much more common even for weddings. And I think most people will appreciate the fact that you made it easy for them to find.

whimsy515 · January 2014

Definitely put it on there! I got an invite without info on it, and it was a huge hassle. She kept her maiden name, but her first can be shortened. So trying to find out if she used her full name or not was fun, then when I couldn't find that I searched for her DH, and still couldn't find it. I finally got a hold of her and she used her short name but DH's last name even though she kept her maiden name. Please let people know!

sthomas1222 · January 2014

Miles2Go said:

People invited to and attending a shower understand that they will be giving a gift. It's kind of the whole point. I'd be put off if registry information was NOT included.

This and honestly unless you really need stuff from BRU I would just include the CD registry. At the store I work at we encourage people to make our store their main registry otherwise people don't go to it or buy off it. And funny enough that was what happened to me before I worked there. I registered at Target and BRU and the CD store. I got nothing off there at all...

firebelle26 · January 2014

Yup, I agree with PP's. if it didn't come with any registry information, that would mean I would have to reach out to someone to find out. And I'm lazy, so that may or may not effect the gift I'm getting the person. J/K, maybe...

MamaLlama14 · January 2014

Skipping all the comments, so my apologies if it's a repeat: proper etiquette = it's a no no. Reality = I've never received a shower invite without registry details, and it's never offended me.

83edwards · January 2014

I just hosted a shower for a friend.....I put her registry info on the invite. If you are going to etiquette hell, I'm already there

I wouldn't do it on the front and back of a card though, because people might miss one side or the other. Maybe just put both registries on the front of the card insert

Alexinav · January 2014

Definetly include it it's too frustrating to attend a shower when you constantly question if they will like it or if they will be getting two esp if they are online sites which are more hassle to make returns

boymum2014 · January 2014

I always find it off putting to get registry info.you get a lovely invitation and think aww how sweet then find the card-here's where to go but my gift.

AugustGlass · January 2014

I expect to see registry info on a shower invite. I'm also in the annoyed if it's not on there camp. I tend to shop off registries so I know I'm getting the person something they want/need.

ns1 · January 2014

I agree with PP. People assume you're registered somewhere, might as well make it easy to figure out.

RachelCA29 · January 2014

Thanks everyone!

We're going to have to figure out how to make the cards look nice with the website and registry password, but I think it will be the easiest way to share that information. I was considering only putting the cloth diaper registry on there, but I know some of the older invitees would never shop online, so I think I should let them know that we also have a registry at BRU too, so they can shop in store if they'd like.

drjwj · January 2014

Registry info is tacky on a wedding invite since it's coming from you. Shower invites are coming from friends, so it is totally appropriate IMO!

RedInLove · January 2014

I've always received registry info with shower invites. I know my sisters will include my reg info in the invites they send out for my shower since they are hosting that. It's when brides-to-be or mothers-to-be plan their own showers, send their own invites, and include their own reg info, that it is really seen as a faux pas.

ETA some stores provide cards they can print or that can be filled in. I've also seen nice computer-printed inserts made. The host/ess could get some blank business cards (like Avery brand), use the Word template for that Avery product, type up something nice like "RachelCA29 has registered at Babies R Us (#123456) and BabyStoreB (#654321) in preperation for BabyCA29's arrival" in a pretty font, center the text etc., maybe make the text a color to match the invites, and put one in each invite.

ecinereb · January 2014

RachelCA29 said:

My mom and mother-in-law are planning my baby shower and will be sending out the invites at the end of the month, maybe beginning of February.

So I am registered at 2 places. I have a very bare-bones BRU registry (bottles, receiving blankets, etc.) and I also have a cloth diaper registry at a smaller, Canadian-based store/website (but the physical store is in another province). Most of what I registered for is on my cloth diaper registry. I picked the website because a) they ship from within Canada so no extra duty charges b) they have relatively reasonable prices and a good selection of brands/price ranges and c) they offer free shipping on certain $ amount orders, so it would save people money on shipping.

The only thing is, their website isn't as fancy as BRU where you can just search by my name, people actually need to know my registry # AND a password to view my list and order off this registry. Unfortunately this isn't the kind of information that can just be passed around "word of mouth". So I thought I would make a little card that said I'm registered at BRU on one side, and on the other list the CD website with the registry number and password.

I know it's a big faux-pas to include registry information with something like a wedding invitation, but for something like a shower, which is a gift-giving occasion, it seems like it just makes sense to include a little card showing where I am registered. I have received shower invites with those little cards and thought nothing of it.

Is that terrible? Am I going to etiquette hell?

This is what we're planning to do as well. I'm curious which online website you registered for?

SurprisePartySue · January 2014

I usually just assume it should be included. But if you want to ease into it you can do something like, "your presence is present enough, but if you would like to buy a gift; ____ is registered at ______."

candrew05 · January 2014

I forgot to have registry information included on wedding invites. It was so annoying having everyone ask where I was registered. It was a mistake on my part amd I wouldnt recommend it. You should include the info!

theoryofwhat · January 2014

I'm a print designer and I've designed a lot of baby shower invites. Usually registry information is printed on the invitation, towards to bottom in smaller text. I think it's more than acceptable to add registry information.

MrsT2008 · January 2014

knate13 said:
I always find it off putting to get registry info.you get a lovely invitation and think aww how sweet then find the card-here's where to go but my gift.

Really? For a shower? The whole point is to bring a gift. And most people prefer to be pointed in the right direction with regards on what to buy.

RachelCA29 · January 2014

@RedInLove the Avery Cards were exactly what I was going to use! I think I have some left over from my wedding, we put little inserts in the invites letting people know there was free valet parking at our venue, and we have a ton left over!

@ecinereb we are registered for cloth diapers at LagoonBaby.com they have a great selection in lots of price ranges, and pretty much everything you would need to get started cloth diapering! They didn't have one specific item I was looking for, and I just emailed them and they found it through one of their suppliers and said they could special order it for me! Really great customer service.

spacepotatoes · January 2014

RachelCA29 said:

@ecinereb we are registered for cloth diapers at LagoonBaby.com they have a great selection in lots of price ranges, and pretty much everything you would need to get started cloth diapering! They didn't have one specific item I was looking for, and I just emailed them and they found it through one of their suppliers and said they could special order it for me! Really great customer service.

This is great to know, thanks! I'd never heard of them.

ecinereb · January 2014

RachelCA29 said:

@RedInLove the Avery Cards were exactly what I was going to use! I think I have some left over from my wedding, we put little inserts in the invites letting people know there was free valet parking at our venue, and we have a ton left over!

@ecinereb we are registered for cloth diapers at LagoonBaby.com they have a great selection in lots of price ranges, and pretty much everything you would need to get started cloth diapering! They didn't have one specific item I was looking for, and I just emailed them and they found it through one of their suppliers and said they could special order it for me! Really great customer service.

Thanks, I'll have to check it out. I'm using a different one (newandgreen.com) but like having options!

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