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TTC with my injured Husband

Abbey155Abbey155 member
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My husband has a Chronic hip condition that makes it harder for him to have sex, walk, run. He has had 3 surgerys already to try to correct the problem. Because he is so young(29) they are making him wait as long as possible to replace it. Because of all of this he is in a lot of pain all the time and he just can't have sex as often as we would both like. I feel like a bitch because I feel like I am selfish in wanting to have sex and he doesn't/can't. We both really want to be parents and start our family but it just isn't coming as easily as we thought. I have finally been able to get my cycles under control and somewhat regular since going off Birth Control April 2013. So my question is, does anyone have any tips on good sex postions for my husband and I could try with out me hurting him, and he can also enjoy despite his hip hurting? I really wish I knew someone that was going through something like this because I feel like I have no one that can relate.

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  • missnacholovermissnacholover member
    Have you asked him how he feels about this and what positions are most comfortable for him?  I think that'd be a good place to start.  Also, from what I've read by Dr. Google, the most fertile time is up to -5 days before ovulation, so if you can, focus your efforts on this time.  Do you chart your temp?  That will help you to pinpoint ovulation.
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  • Abbey155Abbey155 member

    first off Love the video of the Dog dancing! lol. yes we have discussed it He likes me on top the most, I have been temping this cycle so far its all been around the same temp everyday so I am just waiting for that to change and a smily face. I should ovulate by the end of next week. I just wonder with me on top is that harder to concieve? I have read mixed things that postion doesn't matter but others say it does.

     

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  • bumpuser794640bumpuser794640 member
    Abbey155 said:

    first off Love the video of the Dog dancing! lol. yes we have discussed it He likes me on top the most, I have been temping this cycle so far its all been around the same temp everyday so I am just waiting for that to change and a smily face. I should ovulate by the end of next week. I just wonder with me on top is that harder to concieve? I have read mixed things that postion doesn't matter but others say it does.

     

    I don't think there's any validity in position making it harder or easier to conceive, so I wouldn't worry about that if I were you.
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  • nykky779nykky779 member
    My husband gets lower back pain every once in a while so we have standing up and I am on the edge of the bed sex. I don't have a fancy name for the position. But it may help.
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  • missnacholovermissnacholover member
    Nope, shouldn't make it harder to conceive!  As long as you're having sex, you have as good of a chance no matter what the position!  

    Once you ovulate, your temp will rise and stay up until you get your period.  It takes a few months to see a pattern with temps but once you do, you can really focus your efforts during the (projected) few days before.  I typically O on day 17 or 18, so I know that from day 10/12ish on, DH and I have to HIO. :o)

    Good luck!
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  • Abbey155Abbey155 member
    Thanks girls, yes last month I got the smiley face on day 18, day 17 I got an error so who knows. We had sex day 17 and day 18, and I ended up getting my period a week later, so thats when I decieded to do my temp this time around to see if there is any kind of change. We have tried him standing up and me on the edge of the bed, lol its definately a good one, just not one we use often because his leg hurts. I really appreciate the advice, I am the first of my friends trying to concieve so I don't really have anyone to ask about this stuff lol.
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  • missnacholovermissnacholover member
    Good luck!  And remember, that even with well timed sex, a couple has about a 20% chance of conceiving any given month! 

    I'm also a fan of the edge of the bed position!  
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  • SmileyJaySmileyJay member
    Two things - first you need to start charting your cycles so that you have a good idea of when you ovulate. Then use OPKs so you can have sex when you are going to be ovulating soon. Do both of these together so that the few times you do have sex it really counts.

    Ask him what is the best position. We can't possibly help you with that. Hopefully he is able to voice these issues with you. Be creative and don't get discouraged. 

    Sorry if this is too much but another option would be to give him a BJ until he is almost there and then have sex just to decrease the amount of moving he has to do. 
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  • AngeliaG8AngeliaG8 member
    Even if the position did make it harder to conceive (I don't think it matters) it's still better than no sex. So there's that.

    As for positions hav you tried the shower? Maybe warm water on his hip will help with the pain. Or maybe shower first to relax it.
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  • Abbey155Abbey155 member
    Yes Me on top is his favorite! I just was wondering if position really mattered because I read so many different things online that you should be in missionary position and afterward lay with your legs up and pillow under your butt. Lol
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