Hello ladies! I'm new here, I've just been lurking around this board the past week or so. Lol. DH and I just found out that we are expecting baby #2, last week!! Although we're so excited, we're also very scared. We suffered the loss of our son in September due to Cervical Invompetence. I went into labor at 22 weeks, and had no idea until I was just about 7 cm dilated. So I have a few questions for you wonderful ladies about what to do this time around.

we're 4 weeks 4 days along. I'm already seeing an OB that I was referred to from the ER. They've been doing HCG quants, and yesterday I was at 814. They said everything was progressing, so scheduled me for an ultrasound next Monday! Hubby will be in the field, but I can't wait to see our baby. Even if it's just a "blob"

so here are my questions.
1. I have an in home daycare- should I or will I need to just let it go?
2. 17P shots? Any success?
3. Will I be bed rested?
4. Will I get a cerclage?
5. DH will be deployed the last 5 months of my pregnancy. Will I need to be hospitalized for bed rest or just fly home?
Any advice, or opinions are appreciated! And stories from others in the same boat.

TIA!
Re: Cervical Incompetence
My cervix is holding strong at 2.1cm below the cerclage placement. I am not on bedrest, but modified activity. I have a desk job so there are no issues with me going to work. Whether or not you are placed on bedrest will definitely depend on your cervix and your dr.
I am on complete pelvic rest and have been since about week 16. I am not supposed to do any heavy lifting (this could make running a daycare difficult if you have the same restriction). I was told no exercise, but at last week's appt my dr said I could start walking again.
I was worried about bedrest but at this point it looks like I will have avoided it completely. My cerclage is holding and doing its job. I think if you get a preventative cerclage you will have an even better chance of avoiding bedrest and making it to term. Overall my daily routine hasn't changed much besides limiting the time on my feet and in the evenings making sure I elevate my feet to relieve some of the pressure and weight on my cervix.
I highly recommend getting a preventative cerclage. Like I said, if we have anymore children I will definitely be getting one. For me the scariest part about a cerclage was the idea of getting one. Once it was placed I felt so much better anxiety wise and wondered why I hadn't gotten one sooner.
Congratulations! And good luck!
This pregnancy, I had a cerclage placed in week 13. I started preventative doses of procardia (to prevent contractions) at 15 weeks. I started p17 shots weekly at 20 weeks. I have been on pelvic rest since the cerclage placement, and have been working from home since 15 weeks (I have super flexible understanding employers!). I have put myself on a sort of 'modified' rest throughout the pregnancy-not lifting/pushing anything heavy, avoiding a lot of activity, minimal exercise. Lots of recliner/couch time. I am currently 36 weeks, and will have my cerclage taken out in 6 days.
dx PCOS 2007
BFP #1 (natural) 12/23/2010. Stillbirth due to IC 4/2/2011
TTC #2 starting 03/2012
RE starting 07/2012
05/2013 BFP on a Letrozole (Femara)/trigger!
Cerclage, Procardia, Makena, GD (with insulin), MBR, and we made it!
Our Angel was born sleeping at 20 weeks due to IC.
This time around I'm carrying twins and because we didn't have a definite diagnosis, and research isn't very supportive of cerclage in multiples, I basically was put in the 'wait and see' category. By the time my cervix started significantly shortening I was too far along for a cerclage because the risk of rupturing the waters was too high. Instead I had a pessary placed at 25+ weeks and am now 30+1. My cervix is still thin, <1cm, but the pessary seems to be helping.
If I were to get pregnant again, I would opt for a preventative cerclage around 13 weeks.
I also lost my baby last pregnancy due to IC (or at least they suspect it was IC) at 22 weeks. I'm very sorry for your loss, and a new pregnancy is very scary. If your OB a high risk doctor (MFM?)
1. I have an in home daycare- should I or will I need to just let it go? This is a wait and see. Everything may be fine with the right care this time, so I wouldn't give it up just yet. But you may want to keep the parents informed of your progress (especially as you get closer to second tri) so they can be prepared to make other arrangements if necessary.
2. 17P shots? Any success? I did not get these
3. Will I be bed rested? It depends if you have any cervical shortening or funnelling. Even then, some doctors do not believe it helps. However be your own advocate....I wouldn't put yourself on bed rest if you're doing fine, but I was prepared to do so if I had any shortening, even if my doctor didn't think I needed it. I had to do what I thought was best because I couldn't stand the thought of losing this baby too.
4. Will I get a cerclage? This depends on your doctor. I have 4 doctors in my practice, 2 are for them and 2 are against. I wanted it so I went with the doctors suggestion for one who is pro-cerclage. The two who are against don't believe in IC, they think my loss was due to an infection and "probably" wouldn't happen again. Probably isn't good enough when it comes to the life of my child, so I erred on the side of caution. You can get a preventative one around 14 weeks, or you can wait and see if you have any shortening and get a rescue one between 18 and 24 weeks I think. However if they are certain you have IC, I see no reason not to do the preventative one. The risk of complications is much lower, the procedure is less complicated and there is greater chance of success. In my case they were not even certain I have IC, but both MH and I, and my doctor were comfortable with doing the preventative one just in case. If your doctor is not pro-cerclage and you think you need one, find a new doctor who is willing and supportive of doing one.
5. DH will be deployed the last 5 months of my pregnancy. Will I need to be hospitalized for bed rest or just fly home? Again it all depends. I have a friend who lost her son due to IC, had a cerclage in for the next pregnancy, still had shortening, was on bed rest, then HBR and delivered at 27 weeks. However I am 30 weeks today and I have had no shortening at all, and therefore no bed rest. It's hard to say if I really do not have IC, or if the cerclage is just doing its job, but there are plenty of women with success stories of having no shortening with a cerclage and making it to term with no bed rest.
Good luck!
My Pregnancy/Parenting BLOG TTC since 5/2011, BFP #1 12/3/11, M/C 12/7/11 @ 4wks 2d. Began seeing RE Sep 2012. October 2012 Metformin 1500 mg= ovulation on CD34 BFP#2 11/14/12 9DPO, EDD 7/26/13, DX Gestational Diabetes @14 wks, our angel born sleeping 3/24/13 @ 22wks 2d. BFP #3 7/4/13 8DPO EDD 3/22/14, DX Gestational Diabetes @14 wks. started insulin @16 wks. Our rainbow, born 3/19/14 @ 39wks 6d., we're so in love!
@laura8388, I know you know this, but I just wanted to add in case anyone reading this wasn't aware....pelvic rest is no sex, no orgasm, nothing. So even though OPs DH will be away, pelvic rest also means she cannot partake in any one on one time either
OP, as long as your doctor is fine with it, I wouldn't put yourself on pelvic rest until your doctor says you should. It may not seem like it right now, but that 26 weeks of it can get rather long at times so I wouldn't start before you need to
My Pregnancy/Parenting BLOG TTC since 5/2011, BFP #1 12/3/11, M/C 12/7/11 @ 4wks 2d. Began seeing RE Sep 2012. October 2012 Metformin 1500 mg= ovulation on CD34 BFP#2 11/14/12 9DPO, EDD 7/26/13, DX Gestational Diabetes @14 wks, our angel born sleeping 3/24/13 @ 22wks 2d. BFP #3 7/4/13 8DPO EDD 3/22/14, DX Gestational Diabetes @14 wks. started insulin @16 wks. Our rainbow, born 3/19/14 @ 39wks 6d., we're so in love!
Friends for 17 years. Married 10. TTC since Jan 2009.
2013: IVF#3/FET#4 Elisabeth CJ born April 30, 2014
Cerclage, P17, and 3 months of bed rest brought us our Rainbow.
Dum spiro, spero.