People need to shut the F up

Laroo0220 · January 2014

I've been out on Xmas break for 2 weeks since I'm a teacher then had another 2 days off for it being cold so of course when I return people just have to comment constantly about how huge I am. Today I got the always favorite "when are you due?" When I responded April 5 the woman was completely shocked. "April!? No way. Are you sure there aren't twins in there?!" She was completely serious too like very concerned that I must have missed one somehow. Omigod 3 more months of people's mouths are going to just kill me!!!

luvU2theMoon · January 2014

seriously someone just told me i was getting bigger and bigger every time they see me...WELL NO SHIT SHERLOCK!! thats what is supposed to happen..i am supposed to be growing! and i dont need anyone telling me how big i am getting! UGH i feel your pain! and it makes me even more upset when people tell me i am not looking 6 months pregnant... really? tell me how should that look? sorry i am not gaining a ton of weight but baby is just fine thank you very much! dont make me feel even worse than i do that i cant gain the right amount of weight that i should be! WEIGHT COMMENTS ARE NOT ALLOWED!!!

strawberrytree · January 2014

Next time someone asks when you're due look all confused. "Due...for what?" That'll teach them to STFU.

kali55 · January 2014

I think the general population is ignorant as to how big a belly gets in pregnancy. I want to carry around pamphlets with various women in various stages of the third trimester to hand out and show people that *gasp* pregnant woman come in different shapes and sizes and show differently during pregnancy

Beachgal72 · January 2014

I also had someone look at me like I have 3 heads when I told them I am due April 3 the other day. I think they thought my answer would be that I am due next week. And I have a male friend who thinks pregnant women are funny and he has been telling me that he is going to make SO MUCH fun of me toward the end. Um, yeah, that really makes me want to hang out with you! Guess I won't be seeing him for a few months.

Katiecave · January 2014

Ugh I'm also a teacher and in the same boat. People look at me like I surely don't know what I'm talking about when I say I have 12 more weeks left. Also I'm going to throat punch the next person who comments on what I should or shouldn't be eating or drinking.

pete0121 · January 2014

Laroo0220 said:
I've been out on Xmas break for 2 weeks since I'm a teacher then had another 2 days off for it being cold so of course when I return people just have to comment constantly about how huge I am. Today I got the always favorite "when are you due?" When I responded April 5 the woman was completely shocked. "April!? No way. Are you sure there aren't twins in there?!" She was completely serious too like very concerned that I must have missed one somehow. Omigod 3 more months of people's mouths are going to just kill me!!!

Me exactly. The amount of "you got really big" "you've really popped out there" and "you've blossomed" comments are so damn annoying. Yes I'm fat and yes i have an eternity left. Get off my jock bitches.

Kalau · January 2014

I was working on New Year's Eve and had someone ask me if I was going to have a New Years baby... I said hopefully not... She's not due till April 4th! I'm thinking "geez! I have only gained 18 lbs... Doc said I could gain up to 35... How huge will I look then!?

BiggerinRealLife · January 2014

Opposite complaint: I'm a teacher and I was totally expecting and excited to get comments about how big I've gotten after two weeks, because I'm carrying this baby everywhere and I feel like I'm finally starting to look like I have a bump-ish, and not just fat. I come back and nada. Not one comment. So nope, still don't look pregnant apparently. My belly sticking out must be all in my head. Waah-waah.

RebeccaY1 · January 2014

BiggerinRealLife said:

Opposite complaint: I'm a teacher and I was totally expecting and excited to get comments about how big I've gotten after two weeks, because I'm carrying this baby everywhere and I feel like I'm finally starting to look like I have a bump-ish, and not just fat. I come back and nada. Not one comment. So nope, still don't look pregnant apparently. My belly sticking out must be all in my head. Waah-waah.

I totally agree. I've felt like I look fat for a really long time, so I'm excited to actually look pregnant. I hate that my dad keeps calling it a beer belly (I think that's a crass way to comment on your future grandchild), but am happy to actually look pregnant.

Laroo0220 · January 2014

Such good points ladies. I forget how it would suck to hear opposite comments as well. People are just so rude. I wish they would just say nothing and leave me alone. Makes me want to hide in my office. I never want to go anywhere in my school anymore bc people are so damn annoying.

ModishMom · January 2014

I got a haircut, so people thankfully focused on that instead of my girth. I was dreading the comments, but no one will say mean things about your haircut. So it was a good unplanned distraction.

babym6705 · January 2014

Laroo0220 said:
Such good points ladies. I forget how it would suck to hear opposite comments as well. People are just so rude. I wish they would just say nothing and leave me alone. Makes me want to hide in my office. I never want to go anywhere in my school anymore bc people are so damn annoying.

This is pretty much me. I am hiding in my classroom until April. I only come out for meetings or to walk the kids to lunch/recess/specials. I am so tired of the weight comments.

StephNordenmalm · January 2014

I just started back at work too. Everyone had a comment about how big I got over the Christmas Break . I think working in a building full of women is a horrible place when pregnant, everyone has to say something. Ive been telling them Im in the third trimester now and my boy is growing.

teachingmama11 · January 2014

We have been off an extra week because of all the snow, so I haven't been back yet, but this is the exact thing I'm dreading. I've already had comments about how big I am this pregnancy, and I remember how I avoided a good number of people when I was pregnant with DS because I didn't want to hear their comments anymore. I always just say, "It's so funny that you think so. My doctor says I am measuring completely average for this point in my pregnancy." (Which has been true, so far at least)

RocksInTheWater · January 2014

Same here with the comments how much I've popped, etc. after being off work for a few weeks. I know the comments are coming from a good place I just don't like the attention to my body that pregnancy brings. Oh well, comes with the territory I guess.

imogenisis · January 2014

That kinda surprises me about the fellow teachers y'all work with. Maybe it's b/c I work with a lot of older women who've gone through multiple pregnancies, that I don't get such ignorant comments. All I hear is "how are you feeling" and people's renditions of similar experiences. Thank god or else I'd be one catty beeyotch to everyone at work!

columbia1 · January 2014

Someone said the exact same thing to me, questioning whether or not I was sure there weren't two in there. I just laughed it off, but so badly wanted to be like "yeah bitch, I'm sure, just fat from one baby". This woman is on the larger side so she really shouldn't be commenting on people's weight.

ksulli · January 2014

I had a guy ask me how much time was left and when I told him 12w he looked all shocked, so I told him dd had been nearly 10lbs. That wiped the look off his face, but then I got the, "but you're so small!" Yes, thank you, I'm small and make huge babies, thanks for thinking of my vagina.

Brigie029 · January 2014

Was in a semi crowded elevator at work and ran into some coworkers from a different dept. One girl, very loud mouth and quite rude to be honest anyhow, states: "You don't even look pregnant, so not fair." To which, everyone else started having a discussion about me while we were riding the elevator up 8 floors. Nice-not awkward at all. We were going to the cafeteria so I pushed past all went first and didn't feel bad. Apparently I need to eat.

Rude and insensitive people. I've never seen so many comments about what should be/shouldn't be. Everyone's a doctor. Grrr. Lol.

MadBloom · January 2014

I totally popped over the break and teachers at my regular school (i sub) were all super nice and giving me compliments on how I looked (even though I know I'm approaching whale status lol).
When people ask when I'm due I've been using weeks instead of the due date. To say I'm 13 weeks from my due date seems like it's so much closer then the first week of April. Also, people are forgetting that January is a third over already!

chirico3 · January 2014

I get the "did your belly grow a bit?" at least once a day. Yes, it did. It popped over the holidays, so now everybody can see it, so stop asking. Or I get "you are all belly" or "I can't see your belly when you have your lab coat on". I guess as long as the baby grows regularly it's nobody's concern (not even mine) whether my belly is visible or not!

Teresa1896 · January 2014

What gets me the most is how quickly people forget their manners when pregnancy is involved. I mean, most of these comments are coming from other women, most of whom have children. Apparently you develop amnesia about all pregnancy and body related issues once the baby pops out.

JuneDay2913 · January 2014

Totally understand how you feel, just had this yesterday also! This is what I wanted to do to that person

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