Extreme uncontrollable anger/rage/violence

Re: Extreme uncontrollable anger/rage/violence

• KateLouise member

  January 2014 edited January 2014

  I haven't experienced this kind of uncontrolled anger. I've felt rage like wanting to hit someone, but not followed through.

  
  

  Did you experience this level of anger or anything close to it before pregnancy?

  
  

  It could be hormone and tiredness related, but I guess if I was you, my concern would be the baby when it arrives. You'll be tired for ages and still dealing with hormones. Babies can be incredibly frustrating.

  
  

  So I would talk to my Dr about counselling, and resources that are available for now and after baby is born. Medication may be an option but that's something to discuss with your doctor, and may not be relevant to your situation.

  
  

  Try and identify what triggers the anger, and develop some tools for managing the anger.

  
  

  I think you're amazing for reaching out to seek help. Best wishes.

  
  Elizabeth 5yrs old Jane 3yrs old

  
  

  
  
  

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• PrimRoseMama member

  January 2014

  See a professional.

  
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• magentawarped member

  January 2014

  PrimRoseMama said:

  See a professional.

  Yes. Starting now. Like PP said, babies are frustrating, and you'll still have a ton of hormones and not much sleep.

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• dglvrk2 member

  January 2014

  First, It's great that you're reaching out!  You just took the first step in helping yourself.  I'd call your OB ASAP.  If it's after hours for your OB right now, you may be able to talk to an advice nurse or crisis line employee who can schedule appointments with the appropriate professionals ASAP.  Your concerns are very valid.  You need help before the baby arrives.

  
  

  My experience: I haven't felt rage or extreme anger. However, my temper has been shorter and I've been quite a bit more sensitive than usual throughout this pregnancy.  I had the same issues with my only previous pregnancy.  I've actually thought about discussing my feelings with a profession....

  

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• Gemz1989 member

  January 2014

  I have always had a temper but it's only been recent weeks where there's this build up. I think it's because currently I'm living in the same house as my mam and we have basically the same attitudes and temperments so it could be we r just under each other's feet a lot. Everything regarding my baby is great I couldn't be any happier in that respect and wouldn't dream of hurting my child at all or have any harm come to her I love her too much. My mam, brother and my mams partner says that me and my mam r just far too alike and with the added stress of me being pregnant with the hormones it's all adding to the situation. They've all told me not to worry as they've all forgiven me but I can't forgive my self for it.

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• Gemz1989 member

  January 2014

  I really appreciate all your help and advice, I kind of thought that's what would need to happen just really needed to get this off my chest because I can't get the image of me doing that out of my head and it's really upsetting for me as I don't want to hurt hit or anything to anyone. I will contact my doctor etc to get some support. It's just everything I think as I was told I couldn't get pregnant but now I am all the emotions have hit me and hormones after settling r back with a vengeance

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• PrimRoseMama member

  January 2014

  Wishing you the best.

  
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• mysticl member

  January 2014

  Gemz1989 said:

  I have always had a temper but it's only been recent weeks where there's this build up. I think it's because currently I'm living in the same house as my mam and we have basically the same attitudes and temperments so it could be we r just under each other's feet a lot. Everything regarding my baby is great I couldn't be any happier in that respect and wouldn't dream of hurting my child at all or have any harm come to her I love her too much. My mam, brother and my mams partner says that me and my mam r just far too alike and with the added stress of me being pregnant with the hormones it's all adding to the situation. They've all told me not to worry as they've all forgiven me but I can't forgive my self for it.

  I'm a social worker and I believe you can't dream of hurting your baby but your statement that you couldn't seem to stop yourself when you attack your mom is concerning.  I worked with mentally ill children and children with behavioral disorders, I taught crisis intervention and behavioral management to foster parents.  I know all about taking a step back, not letting it get to you, etc.  I still get very frustrated with my ds some days. Your hormones are all wonky, you're exhausted, you're hungry, taking care of a child is a huge undertaking and it can get to you.  Talk to a therapist, it'll make you a better mom.  

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• cMichelle0423 member

  January 2014

  PrimRoseMama said:

  See a professional.

  This... like IMMEDIATELY...

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• Excitedmum35 member

  January 2014

  Yes OP you need to see a professional. Even though your family say its fine- if your mum is bipolar they are probably used to difficult behaviour. My ex was bipolar and my daughter ended up developing it around 14. I know how difficult it can be living with someone with these issues. I still go to a professional to talk through my feelings regarding the situation (I have no contact with my daughter now as she was too violent etc and non compliant with meds- she is now nearly 18).
  Regardless of whether or not you have bipolar or it's just frustration u need strategies to deal with this and maybe medication.
  Please get help.

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• Gemz1989 member

  January 2014

  Thank you all for your advice I have contacted my gp to get the ball rolling as to say and my gp is referring me to see a councillor to talk through any thing and everything that gets me over emotional. So thanks once again for taking the time to read and advise me on my situation.

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• magentawarped member

  January 2014

  Gemz1989 said:

  Thank you all for your advice I have contacted my gp to get the ball rolling as to say and my gp is referring me to see a councillor to talk through any thing and everything that gets me over emotional. So thanks once again for taking the time to read and advise me on my situation.

  I just want to say that I am proud of you for recognizing the issue and taking the steps to deal with it. It shows that you are making every effort to be the best mother possible for your little one. Many people ignore these issues until it turns into a huge problem...it takes a real woman to admit that she needs help.

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