Birth plans!

Naomijg · December 2013

This is my first baby. I would really like to try and have a natural birth, however my partner would prefer me to have a section as he has to book his paternity leave now with his work. The baby is not due until april. I dont knoe what to do. Its causing so much stress that i could do without just now.

Thank for reading.

Naomi.

kboydbowman · December 2013

Please do not schedule a C-section for anyone's luxury, including your partner's. Your health and the baby's health are not worth being comprised. Your recovery from a C-section is likely to be far longer than from a vaginal birth.

iris427 · December 2013

I am all for the right to have an elective cesarean if it is the mother's choice. But don't have one you don't want just to accommodate your husband's paternity leave. A c/s isn't the end of the world, but it leaves an influence over your whole reproductive future. Every future delivery will be affected by that choice. Every future pregnancy will be at a small but real risk of complications like placental abnormalities or uterine rupture because of your prior cesarean. Those are acceptable risks if you want a c/s or need one for medical reasons but why deal with them just for scheduling reasons? People have been dealing with parental leave and the uncertainty of when a baby will arrive for many years. Your partner and his work can manage it too.

Naomijg · December 2013

Thank you all so much. I would have a c section if it was an emergancy and it was the only safe delivery for the baby but if i can avoid it id like to try naturally. I dont think he understands that it will take me a while to recover. He will just have to accept that im not having an elected section. The safety of his child should be more important.

IdyllicPursuit · December 2013

If you live in the US, and he has FMLA, he doesn't have to "schedule" his paternity leave. He can have up to 12 weeks off for the birth of his child, WHEN THAT TIME COMES.

ncbelle · December 2013

Um...I think maybe since he's such a planner your DH would benefit from doing some reading on birth options. I think he could also benefit from a reality check about having a child - his schedule is about to go out the window in more ways than one!! I mean that in a very gentle way - he's just not thinking clearly about reality!

Ardmhs83 · December 2013

Coming from someone who had to have a c-section...I would NEVER, EVER choose to have one! I also pray I never have to go through another one. Please ignore your partners request...it is crazy! Look up tons of info on scheduling a c-section and all the things that can go wrong and hand it over to him.

C-sections are no joke...they are a serious surgery that most people don't get. Youtube one...it is lovely! The recovery is awful.

Naomijg · December 2013

I really appreciate it. Iv told him i will never ever choose to have a section unless its an emergancy. He is going to get a major wake up call when the time comes!

rooftop · December 2013

Glad to hear that. It's insane that we live in a society where that would be expected of you. Glad you are standing your ground.

ktbug3000 · January 2014

This is your time Lady! One of the most special and life filled moments in your life. You get to make the call this time, no one but you. Have the birthing experience that YOU want. Try to communicate what it means to you and maybe at your next appointment discuss the benefits of natural birth with your care provider and husband so that he understands. I find that in an intimate relationship sometimes a third voice is helpful to show your husband that you're not just talking out of your rear.

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