Help me figure out my morning

megaroo64 · January 2014

Before the holiday break, we had a good thing going. I would wake up at 4:30, feed B in bed, he would fall asleep and then I would get up get ready and be out the door by 6. Since I didn't have to go to work for 2.5 weeks, we got really off. Now it is a shit show! B won't wake up in the morning, and then he won't fall back asleep so I can get ready, and then my H is annoyed that he has to get up earlier. I tried getting ready first this morning and then feeding and B spit up IN MY HAIR. It's just a mess.

I know the following things HAVE to happen- I need to be walking out the door at 6 and it is helpful if I look a little like a professional. And I have to do something about my completely engorged morning boobs. My H goes to work much later than me, so I don't have to deal with the daycare drop off.

Anyway, what is working for you ladies in the morning???

LaBellaVida · January 2014

Our whole schedule is off to since moving. Prior to our move he sttn, went to bed at 8pm and would wake up at 7 am. He would take s long morning nap at 9, then again at 1, another nap at 4, then in bed by 8. He would take the bottle too.

Now he goes to bed around 10pm, gets up 3 times a night, gets up for the day at 9. His naps are only 2 a day now, and he's refusing a bottle!

It can't be the time change, we've gained an hour. I don't know what's up,buti miss our routine prior to the move.

Sorry....no advice. :-(

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RissNRuss · January 2014

Our method is this: Hubs must leave by 7am. I must leave by 7:45am. He gets up at 6 to shower, A is given a dream feed if she's sleeping, or normal if she's awake. At 6:20 we switch, and I get my shower and he hangs with her in our room til I'm dressed. Then we switch and I get her changed and dressed. At about 6:50 I head downstairs and he takes her or she plays while I finish packing bags (my lunch and pump, her dcp bag) then he leaves and she nurses again. At 7:35/7:40 I head outside and start/load the car. Then I come back in, prep her in warm gear and off we go. It's alot of balancing.... as much as I can get done the night before to pack/prep, the better we are able to stick to our routine. Good luck!

Monkeybutt80 · January 2014

Our mornings are tough also so I am not sure if I will be of much help, but I will at least share my experiences (sorry, this is long);

Like you, my husband leaves for work later than I do and takes Colton to daycare. We had an idea of how we wanted things do be, but Colton decided that he is going to do whatever he wants. So some mornings, he wakes up at 4am to eat, then goes back to sleep, somedays he is up for good at 4am, some days he sleeps until I have to wake him up.

What keeps me sane is being flexible about everything else except leaving the house on time , feeding Colton at least once and getting dressed the absolute last minute as to avoid any spit ups. This means, being flexible about the amount of sleep and being flexible about the order things get done in the morning. More importantly, it means my husband MUST be flexible about the amount of sleep he gets also. We no longer operate per how we want our morning to be (as in, sleep until you HAVE to get up for work). Now we are on Colton's schedule. That means, DH sometimes will have to get up early to entertain Colton while I get ready even though he doesn't have to get up for work, he has to get up for his child. His child is a responsibility just like work.

Also, what has helped us greatly being able to get ready in the morning without constantly having to attend to Colton is that we put the jumperoo in our bathroom. He can entertain himself in there and we dont have to worry about him when we are taking a shower and such.

megaroo64 · January 2014

kdc2007 said:

I either get up and get ready first or feed G first (just depends on when she wakes up). I put a bathrobe over my clothes in case she spits up. if she wakes up before I'm ready, then she plays in her crib.

are you pumping? can you get up, get ready and pump while he is sleeping?

what time does your H usually get up?

Ooo... pumping instead of feeding is worth a try. H gets up like 30 minutes after I leave usually but he can feed a bottle if B is starving before daycare.

megaroo64 · January 2014

@libberluru - B does not leave with me, and I guess he doesn't HAVE to be fed- I just need some method of easing the engorgement - B sleeps through the night, so I am REALLY full by the time I wake up.

@monkeybutt80 - fabulous advice on staying flexible. I am a little bit of a morning control freak, and I need to calm down if I have to feed before a shower or vice versa.

RissNRuss · January 2014

@megaroo64 another idea: could you do a small pump to relieve the engorgement? I've done that many times on weekends, because A is a goof and actually sleeps later on weekends (maybe because the alarms don't go off). That way you feel good, get to take a shower, and if he wakes and is hungry, there's still quite a bit ready and waiting IKWIM?

megaroo64 · January 2014

@RissnRuss - I was thinking that. Two reasons 1. then if he did get hungry before I left, all was not lost, and 2. I could just use my manual pump and not have to dirty the parts for my electric one that I take to work. Brilliant.

Monkeybutt80 · January 2014

@megaroo64 I was like you. I cherished my morning routines and was proud of my efficiency in the morning despite doing a full make up and dressing up every morning. I even wrote down how the morning should go with a baby while on maternity leave (with break down of times and minutes and all). After stressing about how my morning was a complete chaos for awhile, I gave up. So in a way, you can say I was defeated

but I think "flexible" sounds better.

My husband was that way for awhile, complaining that he kept having to wake up "earlier than he has to for work". I pointed out that now Colton is like "work"; a.k.a. a responsibility. He now wakes up without complaining. Good luck!

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KMeredith82 · January 2014

not sure if it will help, but here's our routine:

6:00 - i get up and shower
6:15 - h gets up to shower, i dry my hair and continue to get ready for work
6:30 - h out of shower, gets dressed
6:35 - h wakes up lo, changes his diaper, and dresses him for the day
6:40 - i take over with lo, and nurse (one side only, use manual pump on other side at the same time), h gets breakfast and feeds the dogs
7:00 - lo is done eating, hand him off to h while i finish getting ready for the day. sometimes i'm already dressed at this point, sometimes not.
7:10 - we are all downstairs, lo hangs out in jumper or swing while we finish getting stuff ready, bottles together, lunches, etc.
7:15 - we all walk out the door, h takes lo to daycare

this has worked for us since i went back to work after maternity leave - i've become much more efficient in the mornings! lo has only woken up on his own early a handful of times, and when that happens i usually feed him first, and then we just switch things around. i do feel kind of bad because he will sleep until 7:30 or 8 on the weekends with the same bedtime routine the night before, so i know he would like to sleep longer. but he also takes a morning nap at daycare, and is happy in the mornings.

megaroo64 · January 2014

Thank you ladies so much! This gives me a lot of new things to try tomorrow! Fingers crossed I leave the house with no hair vomit tomorrow!

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