What makes YOU a "bad" mom??

danielle2583 · January 2014

I'm a SAHM, and there are things that happen occasionally that I would be ashamed to tell total strangers that I give to my child or let my child do. I feel like most of us have things like that, so here's the place to dish it.

This isn't a thread to bash each other...just to realize that none of us are perfect!

I let my child have lollipops and candycanes. Ever since christmas there's no stopping her with them. Not everyday, and NEVER unsupervised, but in my previous childless life I would totally judge someone giving their child hard candy this young!

drunkindonuts · January 2014

We co-sleep. I don't think it's bad, but other people give us a hard time about it.

Caroline eats a lot of Nutella sandwiches. She won't eat anything else. We're working on this battle, but I refuse to let her starve.

We also give her bites of sweets if we're eating something and she asks for a bite.

ETA: we also let dd watch cartoons. DH lets her more than myself, but it happens regardless.

zbeesma86 · January 2014

I haven't/never will let DD CIO

It's a fight to get DD to sit in her booster chair- I usually let her sit on my lap to eat.

I get frustrated over silly things (saying no for the same thing 300 times a day, redirecting, throwing food on the floor) and yell out-- NOT at her. Just will yell out, seriously?! or really?! or come on?! (this also usually happens the week before my period and my fuze is super short. ha) but I still feel bad.

chefnicole22 · January 2014

My DD knows what a cupcake is and when she sees one she goes crazy and screams "cupcake!" until she gets a bite of icing...which is 6 days a week.

She also watches Bubble Guppies a lot.

alrighthamilton · January 2014

Lots of things, daily. I keep the TV on all day. I let her sleep in bed with us when she wakes up at night. I still rock her to sleep at night and I don't enforce nap times. Half the days out of the week she doesn't even take one and when she does I let her sleep on the couch. I let her play with plastic shopping bags (supervised.) Yesterday I caught her dipping her Goldfish crackers in the dog's water and then popping them in her mouth and I let her keep doing it.

sdlaura · January 2014

I'm sure I have a ton of these if I think about it, but most of mine probably involve letting DD play with things she shouldn't just to make my life easier. Like, I let her have my keys every morning on our way out the door and she sets off the panic button almost every morning - I'm sure our neighbors love me

shakinros · January 2014

My kid starts every day by watching an hour of TV. She's not rapt every minute of that hour but it's engaging enough that I can make coffee, pack lunches, make and feed us both breakfast with only minimal clinging and whining. She also gets to watch 30 minutes before bed. It is so much and I never thought I'd have such a TV monster on my hands.

No vegetables have passed her lips in I don't even know how long.

fastcarsandfreedom3319 · January 2014

T hasn't eaten a veggie knowingly for several months. It's bad.

Also, sometimes when I get home from work after picking him up from daycare, I'll let him free play for a few minutes while I check my phone. I just need a minute to reboot.

HoneyBunn24 · January 2014

chefnicole22 said:
My DD knows what a cupcake is and when she sees one she goes crazy and screams "cupcake!" until she gets a bite of icing...which is 6 days a week.

She also watches Bubble Guppies a lot.

Jacqueline loves Bubble Guppies! She asks for them by saying "Bubble gubble?" And points at the TV. We have a DVD player for the car, for long trips, and it has made life so much better.

Jacqueline has candy canes, and has helped me with a bite or two of ice cream...but other than that she really doesn't get many junky options...but only because they aren't here. She gets a lot more junk food at Nana and Papas house.

I let her brush her own teeth and she will never CIO. She figured it out on her own...no screaming or tantrums. If she's crying when she goes down it's because she needs somethig...but this is what has worked for us.

Jeffreysmom24 · January 2014

Becc77 said:
Lots of things, daily. I keep the TV on all day. I let her sleep in bed with us when she wakes up at night. I still rock her to sleep at night and I don't enforce nap times. Half the days out of the week she doesn't even take one and when she does I let her sleep on the couch. I let her play with plastic shopping bags (supervised.) Yesterday I caught her dipping her Goldfish crackers in the dog's water and then popping them in her mouth and I let her keep doing it.

Lol, love the part about the goldfish crackers! That is too funny!

BluepointToasted · January 2014

I'm pretty sure a few of the things you guys posted as "bad"parenting are actually good parenting......especially letting your kid "free play". That's how they learn!

fastcarsandfreedom3319 · January 2014

BluepointToasted said:

I'm pretty sure a few of the things you guys posted as "bad"parenting are actually good parenting......especially letting your kid "free play". That's how they learn!

Yea but I feel like a bad mom letting him free play when I haven't seen him all day, I feel like I should be engaging with him. And it's the fact that I'm on my phone...tonight I was so engrossed I didn't even notice he had snot running down his face until someone else wiped it.

fastcarsandfreedom3319 · January 2014

Also, T had Cheerios and raisins for dinner tonight. Eh, if he's hungry he would eat, right?

SBmomma · January 2014

Bubble Guppies & Yo Gabba Gabba are his shows at the moment. Whatever, it gives me a chance to do stuff...can't engage him every single second.

What are vegtables?? Those must be the things he throws on the floor. Ya, he doesn't eat them.

I don't give him a bath every night.

danielle2583 · January 2014

DD watches TV every morning as well. I'm not usually human until 730 or so, and when we wake up anywhere from 530-630 I put on PBS, give her some food and juice and let her watch tv while I drink coffee or sometimes 1/2 snooze on the couch. It's safer for everyone that way.

She is also addicted to Bubble Guppies. I have 15 on the dvr and she'll run after me with the remote all day "Bubble?" to watch them repeatedly.

SJandVA · January 2014

I've come to terms with most of my "bad" mom choices. Co sleeping with my first, too much tv, extended breast feeding the list could go on and on.. My kids are loved and cared for. There is no 1 perfect way to raise a child. The only thing I struggle with on a daily basis is the fighting that goes on with my 5 yo. It's like living with a teenager. How a 5yo can make me so angry I have no idea. That and I wish I had watched my bad language earlier on.

Jessica Swanlake · January 2014

I snuggle with her every night to get her to go to sleep. I know it is bad sleep training, but she is just so cuddly and she is our last LO so I am beyond caring. I don't let her watch TV, mostly, but I do let her watch the Octonauts whenever I need a break. She is crazy for them. Also, it gave me great pleasure that she learned Tweak's name before she learned how to address my crazy MIL.