Positive Thinking

rsmall326 · January 2014

Trying to stay positive because positive things come to positive people.

Again I apologize to anyone I offended. I will keep my list of positives to myself.

Belle3184 · January 2014

I agree with @ktlovess. OP I'm sure your heart is in the right place, but some of your comments have the potential to be hurtful. I'm sure this isn't your intention, but you might want to edit some of those.

AnyMax · January 2014

I have gotten knocked up four effing times and still have no living children. And a break from worrying about what my body is doing? You have got to be friggen kidding me.

Edit: You know what, this is not okay. Not okay at all. Let's go through your items here.

1. "One step ahead because we know we are capable of conceiving"
What good does conceiving do if we are not capable of carrying to term and have no living children? And loss after loss, my husband's ED has become progressively worse, such that we made the decision to start IUIs.

2."We know how common MC is and what to expect"
What to expect? My first did not prepare me for my second, and my second sure as hell did not prepare me for my third. My fourth fucking blindsided me and was nothing like the previous three either. And between all of these, I ended up in a very dark, scary place. That is not a place I ever want to be again, and not a place that I could ever be prepared to end up in again. My husband was not at all prepared by any of the losses for what it did to me.

3. "We have a strong support system"
On here, sure I do. I have made some incredible friends, unfortunately. In real life? Different story. Our losses and how we have struggled as a result has led to the demise of several relationships. My husband barely speaks to his mother any more.

4. "Reduced fear of giving blood"

Am I correct to assume you do not have monitored cycles? Have you had the blood work for RPL testing? I look like I have been shooting up some cycles.

5. "A break from worrying what my body is doing."

By having monitored cycles, we came to find out that I have some issues in my follicular phase. Without meds like clomid, it was a complete shot in the dark if I would have suitable follicles for it to even be worth the time and money of doing IUI. So I spent the time worrying if my body was doing it right on its own. After IUI being cancelled, we decided to try the meds, and I was left worrying and wondering if I was even responding to them.

rsmall326 · January 2014

Truly Sorry if I offended anyone - trying to bring some light so a really dark situation. These few things have helped me so thought they may help someone else.

buggirl72 · January 2014

I am speechless.

OP - I think you need to go back to lurking land and really get a feel for this board. Thank you for the apology but . . . lurking would help you.

I know I should not ask this but for #5, are you saying the break in not knowing what our body is doing and "is this normal" is because we are no longer pregnant? Because, if you read a couple posts, you would see that "is this normal" is a pretty common question from people after a loss.

And if you are trying to make a light at the end of the tunnel for why your m/c was a positive, I really suggest you get a blog and posts those thoughts there.

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megrae12 · January 2014

rsmall326 said:

Trying to stay positive because positive things come to positive people so help me out would you ladies... 1. We are one step ahead of those trying to get pregnant for the 1st time because we know our and our partners bodies are capable of conceiving 2. We know (now) how common MC is and what to expect god forbid it happens again 3. We know we have a strong support system for good and bad (I really hope this is true for all of you) 4. Fear of giving blood has decreased dramatically 5. We got a break from worrying "what is my body doing now" and "is this normal?" Can anyone add to this list???

You know what I think when I see the bold? Bull shit. My body could not conceive normally, I had an ectopic and lost my friggin tube!! Now all I do is worry what my body is doing b/c my endo makes it that much harder to conceive. So, no, this does not give me positive feelings, it makes me mad as hell!!

@AnyMax ((Hugs)) love.

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