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Reassurance for my overreaction, please :)

hopefulmom81hopefulmom81 member
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I am leaving DD for a work trip for a week starting Friday.  This is the first time I have been away for more than a night without her and I am going far enough away that it would be a flight if something happened.

DD adores DH and they play and get along great during the day.  That being said, once 7PM hits, all she wants is mama.  She seeks me out for comfort for sleeping, injuries, illnesses, etc.

Please tell me she (and I) oh...and DH, are going to be okay.  Any first time work trip positive stories out there?

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Re: Reassurance for my overreaction, please :)

  • 82Sonia82Sonia member

    I'm always pleasantly surprised at how well my husband takes care of and entertains our daughter without my help.  The house is almost always worse for wear but she's happy and he's not frazzled. 

    This trip might actually be a really great turning point.  Maybe she'll start seeking your husband out equally when she needs comfort. 

     

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  • jlaOKjlaOK member
    I'll speak from the other side - DS is VERY attached to DH, who travels for work.  DS is 3.5 and is now at the age where he knows daddy isn't at home but doesn't really understand why.  Even though DS misses DH very much we are 100% fine when he travels.  As long as I keep up our normal routine everything works out great.
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  • shannmshannm member
    My first long work trip as a mom was a few weeks ago. I was away for five days. It was a lot for my DH to juggle, he is not used to being a solo parent but the kids were fine. DD would ask for me at bedtime but he just reassured her and said I would be home later. It went very smooth.

    Good luck!
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  • laurakaz13laurakaz13 member
    hopefulmom81 said:
    I am leaving DD for a work trip for a week starting Friday.  This is the first time I have been away for more than a night without her and I am going far enough away that it would be a flight if something happened.

    DD adores DH and they play and get along great during the day.  That being said, once 7PM hits, all she wants is mama.  She seeks me out for comfort for sleeping, injuries, illnesses, etc.

    Please tell me she (and I) oh...and DH, are going to be okay.  Any first time work trip positive stories out there?


    My DD is a total mommy's girl and I travel several times a year for work.  I was gone on four 1 to 4 week trips last year alone.  DD is still a mommy's girl, but she sure had a blast with DH and my parents. 

    You will be fine and it will be good bonding time for your H and LO.  This is a good thing.  Go drink some wine, network, work out, eat adult dinners out, shop, etc.  Really, you will probably enjoy it. 

    I always miss DD, but I sure do enjoy my travels for work as well. 

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  • cedentoncedenton member
    I traveled quite a bit for the first year or so of DS' life. Not constantly, but fairly often. DH is great with him. I have no worries. I'll be traveling at least twice in the next few months. No biggie! Enjoy your me time away.
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  • Virgo17Virgo17 member
    I don't travel a lot, but my kids prefer me at bedtime.  The nights I am not there, they let DH put them down no problem.  However, if I am home and in the other room, they freak out.  It's like they can smell me when I am home.

    It will be fine, kids are resilient!
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  • MommyAttyMommyAtty member
    I'm on a plane home from a business trip as I type this. They will be fine. Occasionally, when I get home, DD (17 mos) will be kind of standoffish when I get home for about 10-30 minutes, but other than that, we are all great. DH loves being the primary parent when I'm away. When I'm there, she doesn't let Daddy do much of anything after her bath, other than hand her her lovey and kiss her before I put her in her crib. Mommy must do everything else.
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  • DiveFrogDiveFrog member

    The project I am working right now is requiring a lot of Travel. My schedule for the next few months in Leave Monday morning, back Thursday evening. DD is 19 months now, but between about 9 months and 15months she and my Mom would travel with me.

    Now I do as much as I can to set DH up for success while I am  gone, getting all my chores done Friday-Monday when I am home. I make sure the laundry is done, cloth diapers are all clean and ready for the week, meals are cooked or planned out for DH & DD, and I pick-out and put together DD's outfits for the week so DH doesn't stress about dressing her. DH and I will discuss his schedule for the week and make sure he always has childcare coverage available/lined up since his job requires him to be on-call 24/7. For the winter we also hired out the snow removal/plowing/shoveling because DH wouldn't be able to do that and watch DD when I am out of town.(like this week during the snow and ice that covered most of the country)

    DD doesn't really understand at this point that I am leaving for such a long period of time. Mostly an out of sight out of mind situation, but we do facetime nightly and I "talk" with her and maybe read her a book (if she will listen for that long:), and we sing our goodnight song before DH takes her up to bed. The best part is she is so very happy to see me when I come home :)

    All in all it has been really great for DH and DD's relationship so far. DH was helpful DD's first year, but really her care fell so much on me since I was BF and DH worked a job where he absolutely could NOT be tired/sleep deprived.

    From my perspective personally it is very hard to be away from both of them, but it has gotten easier with each trip and I have made an effort to have big chunks of time with DD when I can get it. I was lucky enough to have 3 weeks off over the holidays so DD and I made up for a lot of my fall travel time when I was away from her.

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  • dglvrk2dglvrk2 member
    I don't travel for work. I went accross the country for a girls' trip, for 5 days, when DD was 13 months old. I too was pretty nervous at first. I had a ton of fun and things were great on the home front. I came home to a more confident -and exhausted - husband and a happy daughter. It's what our family needed I think. Everyone will be fine. I think when LOs know they cannot have something -eg a parent who is not there- they act differently than when what they want is possible.
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