Clicky Poll - Is Your Other Half a Great Parent?

GraceInCA · January 2014

Apologies that this is not gender-neutral, I know we have at least one mommy with a mommy co-parent here. I got grammatically lazy.

BC&LM · January 2014

Yes! I would say things are 50/50, but he makes all the baby food and washes all the bottles. So I think that might make it more like 60/40 in his favor. (When he is doing that, I am usually taking care of LO, though, so maybe that evens things out a bit in my favor!)

Cricket81 · January 2014

This is hard. I think he could do a little more to help and play a video games a little less, but when he is in the moment with LO, he is amazing.

HeartLikeMine3 · January 2014

I put 50/50 I SAH so obviously I do way more but when he's home he helps with about half.

dmlk413 · January 2014

Cricket81 said:

This is hard. I think he could do a little more to help and play a video games a little less, but when he is in the moment with LO, he is amazing.

This. He could spend a little more time at home on the weekends and less time on his phone but when he is interacting with DD, he's pretty awesome.

natalie115 · January 2014

DH is a great dad, but he doesn't realize that you can't just move DS from one contraption to another and ignore him while you watch tv. Even when he has DS on his lap he's ignoring him and watching TV or playing on his phone. I have to tell him to go play on the floor with DS and not just set him there and let him play by himself all the time. I voted the 3rd option

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SilverEF · January 2014

I put 50/50 but I work part time so I am with mister tues-thurs and hubby doesn't come home til right around bedtime. I do work every other sat so hubby watches mister then but I get home at 430. When we are both home hubby does more than his fair share of changing diapers and playing but I always end up feeding mister. I hope this makes sense.

Mufflerlove · January 2014

I would say he does more than his share a lot of the time when he's home. I'm a SAHM and he's gone a lot but that's not his fault (usually).

kelly422 · January 2014

The older J gets, the better DH gets with her. He wasn't near as helpful when she was younger - I think babies really intimidate him, but now that she's older and much more interactive, he's great with her!

NicoleReed0324 · January 2014

My husband is amazing at some things and really shitty about others. He does 100% of baby's baths. It is so cute and they both love it. Now that MJ can play he doesn't seem "burdened" that I ask for some time to get done the things I need to. (He used to really piss me off about that. Acting like his to do list was so much more important than mine) He is awful about MOTN. I'm on my own unless I start crying. Then he acts all pissed off and put out that I need help. It's annoying.

ColieAnn31 · January 2014

My SO has gotten way better about helping now that LO is older. He does bath time every night and gives LO his last bottle of the night. My SO works 12 hour shifts 5 days a week at a very labor intensive job so as you can imagine he is exhausted by the time he gets home but he still does bath time and last bottle. I do everything else including middle of the night wake ups unless SO is still awake. At the beginning though it was hard to get 30 minutes to myself so I could shower.

Monkeybutt80 · January 2014

I feel like I am constantly nursing, pumping, washing bottles and pump parts, preparing his food and running his laundry so I want to say I am doing it all, but then my husband changes all the diapers and night time non feeding related care (like putting the paci back in, changing diapers, rocking him back to sleep when needed) so if you asked him, he'd say he's doing it all too.

Guess that means we are 50/50

ETA: but then when we had a bunch of our friends over for football a couple of sundays ago, someone made a comment that I kept handing Colton off to my husband every time he started fussing or had a diaper issue. so maybe he does more than 50/50....

Murphie82 · January 2014

VASC said:

DH stays at home with LO and is 100% responsible for her care while I'm at work. I marked #1.

This. I work from home mostly so I also contribute here and there throughout the day, but even so, my DH does way more than his fair share including handling cooking, dishes, laundry, cleaning, etc. I'm lucky and totally hit the jackpot, but I am happy he is starting to look for a job because we do need the second income.

phishgirl29 · January 2014

DH cooks, cleans, does laundry, balances the checkbook, and is hands on with the baby.

I'm very lucky

JessicaKS · January 2014

My DH cooks dinner almost every night, goes grocery shopping once a week, empties the dishwasher everyday, does laundry, etc. He is very domestic like that. He is wonderful about playing with LO and LOVES to spend time with her. He gives her bottles on weekends. He lets me decide when/what to feed her because he thinks I know more about those things and knows I keep track of everything in my phone. I therefore make all the decisions about baby food to buy/make and I make all the daycare bottles and he doesn't really help with that. I think it intimidates him a little.

clairmeij · January 2014

@GraceinCA thanks for the mention and comments regarding gender neutrality, not necessary, but I appreciate you being so considerate

No longer the best · January 2014

I put 50/50 because I know he works really hard at work to provide for us and he is great with LO and will do whatever I ask. I do worry when I go back though that it will be much more me! But we shall see!

sparklemotion86 · January 2014

DH does a lot for DS and I do pretty much everything with DD. When we just had DS, I did the majority of caring for him, but I'm a SAHM. When we had DD, DH really stepped up and does a lot for DS.

I voted 50/50.

CindyRelluh · January 2014

50/50 round here! He's a fabulous daddy!

lioness13 · January 2014

I voted 50/50. My DH isn't always great with interacting with DD like I think he should/like I do but he is very hands on otherwise. Right now she is all about being with me when I'm around so there's only so much he can do. He's not into washing bottles either but he's all about bath time, rocking to sleep, getting up for MOTN feedings (even though I nurse) and changing diapers. He also encourages me to leave the house and have me time or time with friends. I'm thankful for it and really working on not complaining about what he doesn't do. Today he has DD while her daycare is closed and I'm at work. I'm very thankful for that!

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Nix55 · January 2014

CTGirl30 said:
He's a great parent, yes.
We both work FT but his job is way more stressful than mine. And it never impacts his level of involvement when he is home with them.

He does bath times, meal times, bedtime tuck ins, gets up in the MOTN, etc. He often has more patience than I do with our toddler. That's all expected 50/50 parenting to me but I know there are still many men who just default to letting their wife do it all.

This exactly. I count my blessings every day. I married a wonderful man, husband, and father.

Greywolf12 · January 2014

HeartLikeMine3 said:

I put 50/50 I SAH so obviously I do way more but when he's home he helps with about half.

This

daffy2k · January 2014

My H is getting better, day by day. It was much harder for him to adjust than I think he realized it would be for him (I knew, and spent much if my pregnancy trying to prepare him...) these days I still do the majority of the "caring" for LO, but he does quite a bit more than he used to and he is absolutely amazing with her. They can play together forever. And honestly, he's way better at that part than I am

MissDei · January 2014

Not sure how to Vote. Hubby is great at playing with DS, taking him for periods at a time when i need a break, changing diapers.i do all MOTN feedings/wakings, putting him to bed, most of the baths...its been tough because i do a big chunk of caring for DS and i dont go anywhere w/o him while DH gets Sundays to himself to relax. Im burned out. So i guess the third option?