September 2013 Moms

WWYD...giving advice

I know this topic has been brought up some but I need advice if I should give advice... A girl who I'm friends with on Facebook posted a picture of her little boy in his carseat, the chest plate was down on his stomach. She very well could have just not been done putting him in but I'm not sure. This girl I went to school with and have recently talked to but I am not close with her. Would you say something to her just offering advice on the chest plate... I just would hate to see her precious baby get hurt...

Also I am a car seat technician. I sat through a 40 hour class to get certified for work so I'm not just telling her what she should do just trying to help her. I really don't want to step overboard so I just want your opinions.

TIA!

Re: WWYD...giving advice

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  • Thanks yeah your right I'm not sure what she was doing or If she was done. Thanks!
  • I would post something about car seat safety (maybe the new rules) then tag a bunch of moms, including her of course, on Facebook. I would say something like, "Passing along what I learned to my mommy friends." You could also add something about your certification and offer to help anyone who has questions.
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  • I probably wouldn't say anything if it were me. If you were closer with her I would but you don't know the situation or if the kid was actually in the car with it like that. I understand not wanting the child to get hurt though, so if you're going to say something just make sure to do it privately. Because you are certified you could go about it that way.

    I just think most of the time people are snapping a cute pic before they are done getting LO ready, I do it all the time. I would hope people know where to put the chest plate considering it's all over the car seat instructions but then again, people aren't always as responsible as they should be.
  • I post the link to the car seat safety pictures (on a blog, I think?) with a little "just a reminder for all the parents out there!".

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  • I took a picture of Caleb in his carseat and the chest clip was down a little low (we were still inside the house, and were going out for a walk), and a friend messaged me telling me to fix it. She was upbeat and polite, but it still made me feel like shit. He was like five days old.
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  • Thank you all for advice I'm not going to say anything I'm sure she wasn't done and if she was I don't want to be the ass who makes her feel like shit. If we were close I might if I saw it in person but I have no idea what they were doing! Thanks again :)
  • I would do it vaguely if anything. Like post a picture of the correct way and say "moms keep your babies safe!!" You could even tag a bunch of people you know that have kids including her as to not offend.
    I really like this idea.  I wouldn't say anything directly unless it were my best friend that I'm super close with. 

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  • I don't give advice unless I am asked. If a safety issue popped up while I was with them I would probably say something. But I have no way of knowing anything is really unsafe if I'm not physically there so I try to not judge based off what I see in a picture
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  • I'll be the minority. Since you're trained it, I'd say something. It's for safety's sake!
  • I don't think you should say anything but I also don't think you should post a pic and say this is how you should be doing it mommy friends or anything like that! That is crazy passive aggressive behavior!
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