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Dear DH

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edited January 2014 in September 2013 Moms
... How awesome is it that you got out of work early!! Thanks for waking me up at midnight, when I just got LO back down so you could see if I wanted to wake up and hang out. Chances are I would have wanted to right? Because I allllllways get to sleep, and it's not like I had to get up and work this morning or anything.

Oh! And instead of taking some medicine because you're super sick and coming into bed with me like you should have (this way DD doesn't have to go to daycare with my sick grandparents) you should probably stay up for three extra hours and work out. Good looking out on turning the music up loud enough for me to hear in bed, I'm sure our new neighbors appreciated that too.

And thanks for doing a load of laundry!' I LOVE that you took the clothes out of the dryer and threw them top so I get to dry them again as well as fold them, along with the load you started.

And lastly, thank you for eating all of the cupcakes I was so excited to get yesterday. You're right, we got paid so we can just easily get some more. Eventually.

On a side note, I do love that you got out early and we at least got to sleep in the same bed at the same time. I'm so glad that it's the weekend and that we can hang out.

Vent. Over. Thanks!

Feel free to add your ventfull letters to whomever deserves them!!

Edit: it's too early.
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  • kennazebrowskykennazebrowsky member
    Thanks for calling me from the bathroom at 4am because you can't sleep and want to have sex...by the way the baby also woke up and couldn't go back to sleep
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  • bermybabe68bermybabe68 member
    edited January 2014
    Thank you for having a hissy fit and slamming doors at 4am because I asked you to help put DD to sleep. This after I've been up most of the night dealing with diaper blowouts, nursing and rocking her with my bad back. Oh, and this after I finally gave you a bit if tail for the first time in 6 months. I thought you would have been a wee bit grateful and not such a prick. Oh right, and I know how hard it must be for you to get up to help maybe once every 2 weeks. You are such a knight in shining armor my darling.
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  • blondii428blondii428 member

    Wow I can't tell you how happy I am to hear that others are beyond frustrated with their DH's as well haha! Here's mine:

    Thank you for not waking up for a bit in the mornings to help while I'm trying to get DS and myself ready at 4:30 so that we can be out the door by 5:45.  Especially on the days you don't have any work, which happened to be 4 out of 5 this workweek.  I wouldn't want you to have to end your all-night-video-game-playing to make this happen. 

    P.S. You better believe that you will be the one getting up for the 5am feeding both tomorrow and Sunday while I get to sleep in!

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  • noelani42noelani42 member
    Thank you for deciding to clean the kitchen, for like the first time ever, right after I put the baby down and dropping the mop and waking her up...you baffle me
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  • averettgirlaverettgirl member
    blonde151188 said:
    Dear DH, thank you for calling me a "useless mother" because I tried to take a quick shower before LO got hungry but I didn't get out in time and so LO had a nuclear meltdown while you were holdung her. So I'm a "useless mother" because I need to "plan better" and she's 3 months old now so I should have a routine by now and "she never does this" when you have her on the weekend (which has been exactly twice) because you "know how to plan". Eff you, DH.
    -------- Dude. Not cool. Someone would be getting their ass chewed, and in the dog house for a long time.

    I was too stunned to respond. I just took LO into her room, nursed her, then hid in there like a chickenshit until he went to bed. We still haven't spoken. He really had me questioning myself after he said that. When LO woke up crying for her MOTN feeding I got all anxious, self conscious and shaky because I couldn't get her to stop crying immediately. I've never felt that way before. Thanks, DH.
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  • beckaleckabeckalecka member
    MosyMama said:

    Thanks for giving me back some covers when you realized that you had more than half of them.

    However, get your ass up already. Your snooze alarm has gone off 4 times, and I'm trying to squeeze another hour of sleep out of the baby since he fought sleep until 1:30 last night and had his usual wakeups, and I'm tired. You might not remember any of that since you got in bed and immediately started snoring.

    This is my husband as well. I didn't get LO down until after 12 this morning and he fell asleep before that. His alarm started going off at 6:30 but he kept hitting the snooze until 7:15. By that time LO1 was awake, so no going back to sleep for me.
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  • kimberlymacraekimberlymacrae member

    @bermybabe68:   That AFTER sex? Oh no no no no no. Big foul. BIG.

    Dear DH,

    Thank you for laying in bed and trying to squeeze another 30 min.s of sleep while shooshing our LO. Thank you for missing all his "I'm really fucking hungry" queues. Thank you for then getting up, getting out of bed, going to the bathroom, letting the dogs out of the garage, checking your phone and having a glass of water all before starting a bottle while I am dealing with one confused and hungry (screaming!) baby. Thank you for bringing said bottle in 5 min.s later and handing it to me and expecting me to do the feeding even though I was already late for work. Thank you for offering to take LO when you can tell by my voice that I am getting flustered, but a really special thank you for when you don't actually come and get or take LO but would rather check your phone, go into the back of the house and do god knows what and then come in and tell me it's time to start his bedtime routine. Thank you.

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  • princessvespa1princessvespa1 member
    I love this thread.  It is making me feel normal and that I am not actually a crazy person.

    Dear H,

    Thank you for being home a total of 40 minutes yesterday.  You went to work, good job.  I would trade you for a day.  Then you had to go pick something up for BIL.  During your absence I tried to be nice and taught myself how to run the snowblower so you wouldn't have to do it.  Then when you got home you never even said thank you - you questioned how I did it (didn't blow the snow in the right direction apparently).  Inhaled supper and went out to the gunclub.  I'm so glad your family is important to you and you have your priorities straight.  Then when you got home after 10 (after I listened to your son cry himself to sleep bc he missed his daddy) and I was going to bed, you got mad at me for not staying up and "hanging out" with you.  Eff that.  You are making my resolution to have more patience VERY hard to do.
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  • stephl3055stephl3055 member

    This is a great thread.

    Dear DH,

    Thanks for going into the kitchen when I was trying to dry LO off after her bath and get her dressed while she was screaming.  I yelled at you to grab a bottle after you hadn't returned after a minute or two, and when you finally did come back you had chex mix breath and no bottle.  So it became clear to me that you were standing in the kitchen, next to the fridge, eating chex mix while you could hear LO screaming so loudly that you couldn't hear me asking you to get a bottle over her. 

    Also, thanks for waking up long enough during a MOTN feeding to ask me if I wanted you to swaddle her (he does the best job).  That would've been great if I had actually unswaddled her, fed her, changed her, and was ready for her to go back to sleep.  I had just gotten her out of the RnP.  I owe you an extra thanks for rolling over and never waking up again.

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  • bermybabe68bermybabe68 member
    I'd like to add... Thank you for telling me on Christmas Eve that you'd try to be home by noon so that I could get cat litter and hit the grocery store for diapers and other much needed staples. But instead you went to the bar, got drunk, went drunk Christmas gift shopping and then drove your motorbike home. Then trying to convince me that you only had a beer before passing out on the couch. I especially loved that you expected sympathy in the morning cuz you were up for midnight till 4am wrapping gifts. Never mind the fact I was up all night with DD, again. I barely remember Christmas morning and who got DD what so that I could properly thank them. Oh, and they expensive necklace you bought me? You can shove it up your you know what. It means nothing to me being as you bought it DRUNK. Oh right and thank you for ignoring my text this afternoon as I had a meltdown and not showing up at home yet. $100 bucks says you're out having 'a beer'. Great family values my darling, you sure are a swell guy.
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  • kimberlymacraekimberlymacrae member

    @jojo1112:   Work from home, right... I am in the same boat! My DH wants me to come home early, so he can go out and run errands. He expects me to sign onto the computer, check work emails and you know "...click some things" all while entertaining a 3 month old. Yup. Couldn't make that up.

    One income means I will work as much overtime as I need to... meaning I will probably be home around 5:30... which is a perfect time to have a glass of wine. Cheers!

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  • aislinsmomaislinsmom member
    Dear DH,

    Thank you for coughing all night and keeping me awake. Thank you for completely ignoring me when I told you to take cough medicine, get a cough drop or try some Vick's. I'm glad you got to sleep in this morning while I was up early with DS, after having gotten up with him 4 times in the night. And I'm so excited you just texted me that you're coming home from work to take a nap. How nice for you. I'm also sick as a dog and exhausted but whatever, you need your sleep so that you can play video games all weekend.

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  • bermybabe68bermybabe68 member
    @pumpkinmommaaa great thread! This should be a weekly. Feels great to get this off my chest and also to see that I'm not the only one with a hubby so who acts like a selfish dink occasionally.
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  • redfallonredfallon member
    Dear DH, you told me to trust my instincts about taking care of DD, so don't question my instincts. When I say she's tired, don't tell me she doesn't look tired to you. When she is tired, she does everything she can to NOT go to sleep, including babbling and laughing while on the changing pad. It may not seem she's tired, but trust me when I say that she is.

    She got overtired and was hard as hell to get to sleep for her evening nap.

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  • bermybabe68bermybabe68 member
    Good grief I have yet ANOTHER! Thank you DH for coming home drunk, again. This time it's not for Christmas Eve but on my birthday eve. You can take our dinner reservations for tomorrow night and again shove it up your arse along with the necklace mentioned above. You really are outdoing yourself dear. And to think you want another kiddo. Bah ha ha ha ... don't make me laugh. And for your hangover tomorrow, you can find 'sympathy' in the dictionary between 'sh*t' and 'syphillis'. Jerk.
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  • laurenmdrn16laurenmdrn16 member
    edited January 2014
    Dear H,
    Thank you for making a huge production of calling in

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  • katdesearkatdesear member
    Thanks for throwing a hissy fit for leaving DS in bed with you this morning while I ran downstairs to let the dog out, in 16 degree weather, eat a cup of yogurt and get some coffee in me. I'm sorry he cried and it gave you a migraine. Did you check his diaper? Nope, sure didn't. He's sick, feels miserable and just wants to snuggle. You wanted me to quit my job, and become a SAHM for a bit, and want a second, which I'd be totally cool with if you'd changed a diaper in the last week. Get off your ass, off the xbox, learn where the laundry hamper, dishwasher, trash can are. Because being a SAHM doesn't mean I'm your mother also. After you screamed at me this morning, you got an earful back. Clearly I was in the right as you changed a diaper and decided to play with LO and also brought the dog in and put your clothes in the hamper to be washed. Good game
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  • bermybabe68bermybabe68 member
    @coraggiosa I really don't know at this point. I feel like one of those wives who say 'he's wonderful except for this one thing...'. I think I need to get my head checked.
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  • SkalbrechtSkalbrecht member
    Thank you so much for always getting drunk at all if our friends holiday get togethers and then act like a whiny drink high schooler when it's time to go...even though prior to the party we agreed when I wanted to leave we could...despite the fact we stayed for hours and I had to bf LO there. Thanks for getting up with the baby this morning so I could sleep in like you said. Your snoring was so damn loud there was no way you heard her, even though you say you always hear her in the morning. Thanks also for griping about how I make you roll over during the night when your snoring is so bad it wakes me up or I can't go back to sleep. I'm glad the adult who is working outside of the house doesn't deserve any sleep...sounds fair. Oh and if I can find the time to ask you to watch her this afternoon so I can nap, I already know how that conversation will go. Also quit guilt tripping me about our 3 month 3 week old sleeping in our room - it is what is easiest for me right now since we are about to be packing up, moving and being in temporary housing for 1.5 months for my new job. Why in the world would we try to get her to sleep in her crib now when our world is about to turn upside down?

    I need some coffee now. Maybe I should wake him up and make him go to Starbucks for me. I think I deserve a latte and it's flipping freezing outside
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  • SkalbrechtSkalbrecht member
    Sorry - that got really long! Didn't mean to write a chapter!
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  • PumpkinMommaaaPumpkinMommaaa member
    bermybabe68 said:

    @coraggiosa I really don't know at this point. I feel like one of those wives who say 'he's wonderful except for this one thing...'. I think I need to get my head checked.

    You poor thing. I wouldn't be able to deal. If I were you I'd have a serious serious talk about priorities.

    Not trying to give unwanted advise. It just sucks that you get treated that way.
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  • Albertsgirl1982Albertsgirl1982 member
    michelle7482 said:

    I can't believe your husbands wake you up to hang out or have sex in the MOTN. My DH knows better then to mess with my sleep haha


    Ya I trained my DH out of that really quick. He's actually afraid of me in the morning.
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  • EllaBelle2010EllaBelle2010 member
    DH,

    Thanks for letting my feelings fall on deaf ears. But please do tell me more about what you need emotionally right now. And thank you so much for understanding that sometimes in life we need a little more than we can give at the moment... like being 9+ months pregnant or you know, still only 4 months postpartum, dealing with an alcoholic mother and a brother who's in and out of jail. But yes let's make sure that we are always equal in what we give each other and if not, then lets not speak for 3 days. Yes I love when you act like that and tell me that I'm not doing my part in this marriage.
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