Nursing Jealousy

Re: Nursing Jealousy

• Emerald27 member

  January 2014

  I don't tandem (I have just one DS and am TTC my second), but I have friends that tandem.
  
  They spend a lot of time snuggling on the couch, each kid laying on either side, sort of facing the couch and so a modified football hold, nursing at the same time.
  
  Sometimes when one is nursing, the other wants to nurse just for the attention. Mama will either welcome the second nursling or if she wants to nurse one at a time, she'll say that this is baby A's turn, and baby B's turn will be next. Baby B can play with something special while she waits, or have a snack or a drink of water, etc.
  
  They can take turns snuggling and nursing just like they take turns with toys and with daddy snuggles...but nursing at the same time is a great bonding experience too!

  
  

  
  

  

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• somewhereincali member

  January 2014

  I went through a period where I couldnt nurse them one at a time for that exact reason (from around 1year-not quite 2?).  So i just let the second nurse because for me I preferred that vs not.  If I wanted to nurse just one I could sometimes sneak away into another room if someone else was around.  We had a bedtime routine where we each have some alone time with each one so I would nurse then.
  Then when they were a bit older and more verbal I could start telling them we were taking turns.  Which they mostly accept and I can nurse them one at a time now, alhtought they sometimes do funny things like start counting and then want their turn right away (one, two, three... ten, OK my turn!)
  

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• somewhereincali member

  January 2014

  oh, but by the time my kids were that age they could tandem nurse without a pillow or anything.
  
  i found at about 1.5 years if i was really insistent I could get them to take turns in public (since i dont really like tandem nursing in public, i cant be as modest as I want to be)
  

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• xoexpat member

  January 2014

  Thanks ladies.

  
  

  Bedtime and mornings usually work out ok because I'm able to get some one on one time, it's usually in the afternoons that it gets hectic. They're 15 months so they can be very persistent! 

  
  

  Sometimes the easiest thing for me to do is just lie down and let them go at it--not really an option in public, lol! 

  
  

  
  

  
  

  

  

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