Going out on dates with SO?

Rachelilly23 · January 2014

The movies post got me thinking about going on dates with DH, and it's a rare thing around these parts...

How often do you go on dates with your SO? When was the last one? What kind of dates do you go on?

Rachelilly23 · January 2014

We go out once every 3-4 months maybe? We went to dinner and a movie for our anniversary in June. Went to the navy ball in October. We got to go out to dinner right before Christmas when we were visiting my parents since we had free babysitting. We'll go out for dinner for my birthday the end of January and go out ballroom dancing afterward. Probably will be our last date before deployment.

CnAnA · January 2014

We try for at least 1 a month. We do dinner and a movie usually.

stephcarter · January 2014

We used to try for 2 a month but lately it's been impossible.

wesleycrusher · January 2014

Not too often, we went out for our anniversary in October. We've been out twice since then without DD, but one was SIL's birthday dinner and the other was a NYE party, so they weren't really dates. As of right now, we don't have any other plans to go out.

We toyed around with the idea of getting a sitter for DD while down in Disney, but don't know if that will happen.

blondie42107 · January 2014

It depends. We try really hard to go out for birthdays and our anniversary. Otherwise it just really depends. Most of our family is about 2hrs away. My sister isn't too far and I have one friend that watches the kiddos occasionally.

We try to do a date night once a week. Watching a movie, popcorn, board game, just good conversation, late dinner - at home. Both kids are usually in bed by 8pm so we plan for after that.

It works for us.

hilsy85 · January 2014

We try to go out 2-3x a month. We do date nights and it's almost always just dinner out.

StefanieM522 · January 2014

We try to do a date night about every two months and we usually just go to dinner. Sometimes we will meet up for lunch during the day but we mostly hang out together after wesley goes to bed. He is usually asleep at 7:15 during the week so I try to plan a late dinner once a week for us

chricast · January 2014

It is rare. We maybe have been out 4x since Emma was born. I actually made my mil put her down for a nap when they were over yesterday and she went down fine. I told my husband we need to go out while she doesn't need me anymore and before baby 2 comes.

pb_bride · January 2014

hilsy85 said:

We try to go out 2-3x a month. We do date nights and it's almost always just dinner out.

IF you don't mind me asking, @hilsy85, who watches your LO when you are out? Since you are SAHM, I assume you don't have a babysitter/nanny per se. Do you have family who watches LO, or do you hire the occasional babysitter for the nights out?

pb_bride · January 2014

To answer the OP, we have yET to go out on a date since LO was born. My SIL is nearby but she hasn't been too enthusiastic about watching DS. I think we are finally going to have her watch DS this Sat (or next Sat) when we go out for dinner. I got a restaurant GC from my ILs for my birthday like 6 months ago. Perhaps it's time to cash that in.

ChrisG83 · January 2014

We have never had a date night. We almost went out once but it didn't work.

AMT1107 · January 2014

We have gone out 2 times since DS was born both times for our anniversary in November.

This will sound corny, but DH and I work together, so we have lunch most days together. So we have about an hour of "alone" time. It's nice to talk about things outside of did DS poop today, when did he nap, did he eat, etc.

Rachelilly23 · January 2014

We're in the same boat @LauraT25. We live no where near family, but if we did, we would get a lot more time out together. When we went to the navy ball, we paid a babysitter $60 for watching the boys for 6 hours and we even left early. The tickets to the actual ball were $50 a piece. That's an expensive night out! Obviously that's only once a year but paying the babysitter on top of paying for whatever activity is insane. We have too much debt to do it often.

My sister on the other hand. Well, she lives 10 minutes from my parents and her kids are always with my parents. Lucky her to have free babysitting whenever she wants!

Wally3 · January 2014

We try every couple of months when either of our parents visit. We went out in a lunch date last week.

scrumpfy · January 2014

I'd say we have a date every 6 weeks or so. My mom is willing to babysit whenever, but with my current bedrest and DH working situation, I have her "babysit" while im home so I can rest or do light chores.

morrkim · January 2014

We go about once every couple of months. We usually take advantage of family visiting and we do exchange visiting with our friends with children. The other day I watched my friend's daughter and then a week later she watched Alexis.

LorMor · January 2014

Hardly ever... we don't have willing family near by (the one time we asked MIL to watch T for an afternoon while we did chores, she tried to take photos of T and then panicked when T didn't sit still. The end.)

T's nights are SOOO unpredictable, we've had friends sit once, and it was successful, but that was during a run of good nights.

My parents have recently moved closer - they are now an hour away - and they keep offering to babysit, but we'd have to go to them, and for a number of reasons that's a bigger pain than it's worth.

We've had the odd lunch date when we stayed with my folks.

tamararachel2 · January 2014

Hardly ever. The last time we went out was back in May for my birthday. I agree with PPs....I don't want to pay someone to watch my kids, and then pay for a date and whatever. Too expensive. DH and I talked about trying to do a date night in once the kids are in bed, but our problem is that once they're in bed, we're tired!!

hilsy85 · January 2014

pb_bride said:

hilsy85 said:

We try to go out 2-3x a month. We do date nights and it's almost always just dinner out.

IF you don't mind me asking, @hilsy85, who watches your LO when you are out? Since you are SAHM, I assume you don't have a babysitter/nanny per se. Do you have family who watches LO, or do you hire the occasional babysitter for the nights out?

@pb_bride we do have family nearby...my in laws live very close and are always available to babysit (literally always, like we could call them last minute pretty much any day of the week and they would be here). It's good and bad having family close by--double edged sword! The nice thing is that they get to spend time with LO and see DH for a bit, but I don't have to spend all night with them

lady dixneuf · January 2014

we have gotten a sitter a few times but after paying an arm and a leg for daycare it pains me to spend another $80-100 to go out.

We both had some time off recently when daycare was open and we brought E in to go out then.

talandree · January 2014

We usually try once a month, but lately with our work schedules it's been impossible. I can't even remember the last time we went on a date night lol. Usually we'll do supper and a movie.

sdb421 · January 2014

We go on dates weekly. I'm a SAHM and feel like its important for me to get a break and also critical in my marriage for my husband and I to have that time together. All 3 of my kids are in by 7pm every night also, so we have mini-at-home date nights regularly too.

We also try to do a weekend getaway, just the two of us at least every several months.

But that is just us. Both my husband and I had very active social lives before kids and traveled frequently. So for us, keeping up with time together and being out with other adults is a huge part of keeping our marriage healthy and both of us happy.

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