My friend is getting married 2 1/2 months after baby is born. It's going to be hard enough as it is taking a day away from baby. Now the month before they want to rent a cottage for a Jack and Jill kind of thing 4 hrs from here. I cannot go to a cottage for a weekend when my LO is only a month and a half old. I'm afraid she will be upset with me though because there is only one MOH and one bridesmaid.
Re: Maid of Honor distress
I stayed at a hotel with my parents rather than at the house the rest of the Bridesmaids rented because it would have been overload & none of them had kids yet (fortunately my parents were on the guest list). On the big day I went to the house to get dressed/hair/makeup and DH crashed the prep with baby for a few hours. I skipped the mani-pedis the day before & did my own in the hotel room while baby slept because I didn't want to spend an unnecessary afternoon away. I was BFing which was part of not wanting to leave baby if I didn't have to, but even if you're not it's totally reasonable.
My very, very best friend just announced that she's getting married in September and I HAVE to come. And the wedding will either be in CA or ITALY. I was like - California.. I can make that happen. Italy... Um, NO. And now she's also having a bachelorette weekend in Palm Springs. Her suggestion was that I come and can pump while there. NOOOOOO thanks.
And now one of my husband's best friends is getting married in August. It's only an hour drive away so not a big deal, but they recently told us they are hiring people to take care of all the kids and babies at the hotel during the wedding/reception (not at the hotel). And of course I'm freaking out about that already now, too.
People should just stop getting married while it's inconvenient for me! Ha.
Part of me feels like I'm being an antisocial wimp about all of this, but honestly, as a FTM I don't want to overextend myself or put too much stress on myself or my family. I am also taking off 12 weeks of work unpaid, so this late summer/autumn isn't the best time for traipsing around the globe.
Sorry this is long, but weddings have me stressing, yo!
TTC #1 since 2009
3 clomid cycles = BFNs
3 IUI cycles = BFN
1 IVF = BFP
DS born 04/08/12
TTC #2
1 cancelled FET July 2013
on a 2 cycle treatment break
Surprise BFP Aug 2013
Beta #1 833 Beta # 2 1633
I'm in a wedding 2 months after my due date. Bachelorette is a month prior. I still have no idea what I'm going to do. I will no doubt make an appearance, I'm just not so sure about being gone for an extended amount of time that soon...
Baby Girl Born: April 2014
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