Joining you with a holiday loss (ticker warning)

HokieLaw · January 2014

The Monday before Christmas MH and I had our first ultrasound and we saw a perfect heartbeat with a baby measuring 8w4d, exactly on schedule. We told our families about the baby during Christmas then went on a mini-vacation with some friends to DC for a few days. We got home late last Saturday.

On Sunday I started bleeding so I went to the ER and was told I had lost the baby. I saw my OB the next day. He was great, he sat with me for a long time and helped me decide what to do. I opted for a D&C the following morning. He also did blood work to see if I was producing antibodies that were interfering with the pregnancies (this was my second loss in just over a year). On the 13th I will have my follow up appointment and should have the results of the bloodwork and pathology.

I'm so sad and so angry right now. It took us three years to get pregnant the first time (no losses in that time). The second pregnancy happened almost immediately and ended at 6 weeks. Then this pregnancy took another year - we weren't "actively" trying that entire year but my cycles are pretty much like clockwork so we could have easily gotten pregnant any month of the past year. I'll be 35 this year so I know that we are probably running out of time to have more kids. MH is already talking adoption or surrogacy but I'm not ready for that yet. I need to know 100% that I can't have another before I go either of those routes.

Anyway, I'm definitely not happy to join you ladies but I'm glad to have found a group where I can voice my anger and frustration.

YaMrWhite · January 2014

I'm very sorry for your loss

I am turning 31 on March 1 and had hoped to be done getting pregnant by then but since I'm here right now (and can't start trying again until mid March after my D&C) that won't be the case. Again, I'm so very sorry that you had this happen over the holidays.

tumbleweed123 · January 2014

HokieLaw I'm so sorry for your loss...it's just not fair and even worse that it happened during the holidays. I'm glad that you have found this board...there are a lot of women here who understand and are happy to offer you hugs and support. I would definitely not give up just yet, 35 is not old. Go look at the pregnant over 35 board...there are women in their 40's on there. That makes me really happy. What you've been through is just so hard and sad and I send you hugs and as much optimism as I can muster!

missgore04 · January 2014

I'm so sorry for your loss. We seemed to share many milestones together during the first few weeks. My heart broke for you when I saw your post on the July board. Thinking of you...sending a big hug and praying for strength and peace during this time.

this+gamer+chick · January 2014

I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm seeing more and more names from the July 2014 board here, and it breaks my heart.

HokieLaw · January 2014

@missgore04 I'm sad that you are here too. Maybe we will be lucky on the same month in the future.

@tumbleweed123 my grandmother actually had her last child at 47. I just always thought I would have all my kids by the time I was 32 but that didn't happen as my first were born after I turned 32.

Thank you all for the warm welcome.

Islandgirl10 · January 2014

I am so sorry for your loss.

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