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DublinMama · January 2014

I have my second snow day, so I'm around all to day read 'em lol. Let's go!

Mine is that I have been desperate to get DS on sippy cups, and it's not happening. We've tried lots. He figures out how to drink from them, but shows no interest and will fuss until he gets a bottle. We use Dr. Brown's which I loved for the younger months because it greatly reduced his gas and spit ups. But now he doesn't have either problem anymore, and I'm sick of cleaning all the little parts lol. I don't want to invest in new bottles at this age, so yesterday.....I put a little hot chocolate in his sippy cup. I was making some for myself. I wanted to see if he liked the drink enough, he'd keep using the cup. He definitely did keep drinking more, but still gave up and didn't even finish the less than 2 oz. I gave him. Desperate times call for desperate measures!

kleigh926 · January 2014

My confession is that sometimes I think I have a problem with a food addiction. I've been lucky so far in that I have a fast metabolism and can usually eat whatever I want without gaining a lot of weight. But I'm sure that won't always be the case as I get older, and I'm really going to have to work on controlling myself. My main problem is eating when I'm not hungry. If I'm bored, I eat. If I'm watching TV, I eat. If there's chocolate or anything else around that I think sounds good, I eat. I like so many different kinds of food and it's hard for me to keep myself from eating a lot even when I don't need to. I just love food too much! Ugh.

Drea926 · January 2014

@PeanutR1 there are some kids out there that are mature and responsible, I promise! We have a few sixth graders that could honestly go out on their own today, find an apartment and job and would be perfectly fine on their own, lol.

I'm also on a snow day! Woohoo!! Let me think of something juicy and I'll get back to you. :P

kelly321 · January 2014

kleigh926 said:

My confession is that sometimes I think I have a problem with a food addiction. I've been lucky so far in that I have a fast metabolism and can usually eat whatever I want without gaining a lot of weight. But I'm sure that won't always be the case as I get older, and I'm really going to have to work on controlling myself. My main problem is eating when I'm not hungry. If I'm bored, I eat. If I'm watching TV, I eat. If there's chocolate or anything else around that I think sounds good, I eat. I like so many different kinds of food and it's hard for me to keep myself from eating a lot even when I don't need to. I just love food too much! Ugh.

I have a serious stress-eating problem. I used to also do boredom-eating, but since boredom (at least where I have free time) is pretty much non-existent now, that's not an issue. And my metabolism has slowed down. I maintained (with no effort) the same weight between when I was 17 and 27, and since then have gained about 25-30 lbs.

singingsea · January 2014

My FFFC

I plan on doing as little work as possible today. Today makes week two of having a massive head cold and my boss took another personal day.

The only thing that sucks is I've got to get two skids of machine parts banded up outside and the real feel is -7

Yay

nlp1990 · January 2014

PeanutR1 said:

Drea926 said:

@PeanutR1 there are some kids out there that are mature and responsible, I promise! We have a few sixth graders that could honestly go out on their own today, find an apartment and job and would be perfectly fine on their own, lol.

I'm also on a snow day! Woohoo!! Let me think of something juicy and I'll get back to you. :P

Oh, I'm sure there are...at least I hope so. I just SMH at my SIL freaking about finding childcare for a 4th grader in an emergency for 4 hours. It's just a foreign concept, the way I was raised I mean, I was babysitting for the new infant next door when I was 10 ( with my mother at home 20 yards away).

I agree @PeanutR1. In 5th grade, I was 10 and every day after school I would go to my neighbors house and watch her twin infants while she ran out to do errands. My parents were next door if I ever needed anything, but still, I was left alone with twin infants! No one would do that these days!

Drea926 · January 2014

I never thought I'd be the type of person to think, "Well so and so doesn't have kids so they don't really get it", but I'm finding more and more instances where this is true!

Drea926 · January 2014

I have a fast metabolism and I eat like crap. When I am nursing I don't gain even when I eat awful, I really need to try to eat healthier, but then I am like eh I am nursing whatever. I just got a cavity despite brushing and flossing daily. I think it is drinking a pop a few times a week, I am super bummed out about it.

I really wish people wouldn't be so damn judgmental about kids. Yesterday I took all my big kids skating, I did one other time this winter break and they were all great. Well this time my 5 year old asked for a toy at this little toy shop thing they have there, I said no. He started crying, and acting all moody. I told him he was grounded from the kindle for three days (we have the time limit thing, and he loves it). If you were to see that situation you would think my kid was a brat, crying over not getting a toy, how spoiled! The thing is he needed that situation to learn, so that next time he knows don't cry over a toy. Guess what he is the type that even if he knows he will randomly test the waters again. Even if he has been disciplined before he will try again randomly, not often but it will pop up again. So after I had to go to the store. In the car I said "now I am only going in if you are going to be good, no toys, no candy, no question." He said yes, and was great in the store, the type of kid that you would look at and say hey what a well behaved kid. He is the same kid as the brat kid in the roller skating rink. He is the same kid that has not one single time gotten in trouble at school, and when I go to conferences the teachers just love on him. Who knows maybe one day he will start testing the waters at school, and he will learn not too, and he still will be a good kid in my eyes.

ETA: Not aimed at anyone here, just in general. You know the people giving the stink eye.

That's terrible. I'm sorry someone was giving you a dirty look - I think you were handling the situation very well. When I see a kid who's acting up and the parent is obviously dealing with the situation I applaud them. I once saw a mom give her child a timeout in Target and I was though, "Good for you! Nanny Jo would be proud!" It's only when a child is throwing an obvious tantrum and the parent just ignores them that I admittedly get a little judgy.

Drea926 · January 2014

Ah! I want to edit my typo but The Bump has been acting weird on me since last night. Should say "and I thought".

Felicity86 · January 2014

So I guess this may be more of an unpopular opinion, but I can't stand it when people call daycare school. There's nothing wrong with sending your kid to daycare, but it's not school. My FFFC is that I will judge the heck out of anyone who does this.

musicalmama5 · January 2014

My FFFC is that DS is still asleep (at after 9am! What?!?!?!) and I'm drinking my coffee in peace and eating his Cheerios lol. I also slept til 8:30, at which point I couldn't sleep any longer because I'm so used to getting up earlier, so that means I'll be going in to work waaaaaay late. And I'm OK with that.

This is pretty crazy that DS is still asleep and now it's into his morning nap time....

Drea926 · January 2014

I have another one. I totally spent $30 on a "restructuring gel" by Mustela to help with my tummy wrinkles. I know I need to eat well and exercise, yada, yada, yada but I am desperate for a fix! :P

wifeofadam · January 2014

expatmama said:

My FFFC is that we have chicken pox in the house. And while that is pretty crappy, it has given us as a family some much needed permission to do absolutely f*ck all for a few days --- no visiting, no errands, no day trips, way way too much screen time, and just in general hanging out, the four of us, doing a whole lot of nothing. And you know what? It has been really really nice. Except for the itching. And the thought that the baby may get it next (although I am hoping that breast milk will keep that mild). Chickenpox vax is not on the sched here, so most kids get it.

My FFFC is that I wish you lived near me so I could come over and catch it from you. We haven't vaxxed for this one yet and my family doc says that in her decade of practice she has never seen a case of c pox in our area, so the chances of my kids contracting it are very slim. We will vax when they are teenagers if they haven't contracted it yet.

musicalmama5 · January 2014

I have another one:

Last night when I was bathing DS, he fell backwards in the tub, and while he wasn't at all hurt, it did spook him a bit. The FFFC part is that I kind of loved it when I reached for him and he reached back for me and put his arms around my neck. It was really the first time he's "hugged" me, and even though I wouldn't want those circumstances, my mommy heart did melt a little bit when I felt him cling onto me like that. He's totally not a snuggly, cuddly baby.

colinsfebmommy · January 2014

I like my mother in law a lot, and I know her world is my child, she adores him. She watches him on Mondays and Fridays at her house. Today she came to my house to watch him cause he is sick and that was VERY nice of her to do.......BUT.......I can't help but hate she is in my house without us there. She is so nosey so I can't help but think when my son goes down for a nap she will be checking out our things and judging our house LOL

Rosebean · January 2014

I just found out that our car got written off from my accident a few weeks back.... And I am kind of grateful. It was my H's brand new car and if I had to spend the rest of that car's life hearing about how it was no longer the same because it was put back together I would probably lose it. He still keeps saying "it's your fault" when I clearly was not at fault. He says he's just teasing me, but there is a ring of truth in his accusation in that he believes if I hadn't taken his car out, he wouldn't be without it. Jerk.

draeray · January 2014

I have posted about my MIL a few times and she watches DS at our house full time--paid of course. I love that it's not a stranger and I love that I don't have to drop him off in the morning or pick him up on my way home or wonder how he is being treated while I am gone. BUT I secretly hate that she watches him and I am starting to despise it more and more to the point of thinking about actually firing her and taking pleasure in it.

She does things I don't do and would never do (never leaves him alone for playtime, doesn't take him ANYWHERE-- not once in 7 months has she taken him outside of the house-walks, park, swimming, nothing!, holds him ALL THE TIME, gives him crap to eat like soy sauce on eggs or mac and cheese every day with no fruits or veggies even though I have set out other stuff that would be better for him) and I can tell DS is picking up a lot of it it and turning into a slight 'brat' because of it; afterall, he is with her from 6:30am until 5:00pm Monday-Friday. My husband and I were fighting on New Years day and I told him his mom was part of my problem and things needed to change and he told me to leave her out of it. Really?

Drea926 · January 2014

@ByeByeBooze I would do the same thing!

TheNewMrsY · January 2014

Hi ladies

I haven't been too active on here in quite some time, so I hope you don't mind me butting back in

I hate it when adults are talking to adults about kids and use "kid words". For example, "DS went poopies on the potty!" Or "take a tubby." They took a shit and a bath. End of story

Also I'm with PP about calling daycare "school." Just call it what it is!! Needed to get those out. Perhaps I won't even go back into hiding

jesuisfatiguee · January 2014

About the daycare/school thing... What if it's a montessori? Is it still not "school" until a certain age?

I don't really care what people call it, personally. Play is the way babies learn so technically they're "at school" every time they're awake

But I think people probably use the term school in lieu of daycare because it has less negative connotations to it.

Drea926 · January 2014

je+suis=fatiguee said:

About the daycare/school thing... What if it's a montessori? Is it still not "school" until a certain age?

I don't really care what people call it, personally. Play is the way babies learn so technically they're "at school" every time they're awake But I think people probably use the term school in lieu of daycare because it has less negative connotations to it.

I admittedly sometimes call daycare school, usually "baby school" lol. I think it's because I'm a teacher and school is my life! However, I agree that for a while the word "daycare" had become a four letter word and people were automatically judged for saying it. Like they were sending their kid to a hell hole. Luckily because more moms are working nowadays, I don't think "day care" is getting as much of a bad rep.

DublinMama · January 2014

I don't really care what people call it. But I'm with a PP who said that her DC has a pre-school portion in it, and so does mine. When DS turns three he moves to that room, and I think then I would call it school.

wifeofadam · January 2014

je+suis=fatiguee said:

About the daycare/school thing... What if it's a montessori? Is it still not "school" until a certain age?

I thought the whole point of things like Montessori is that kids aren't actually in school, but being allowed to explore the world around them and learn through imaginative play. So wouldn't calling it a Montessori school be an oxymoron?

I have strong feelings about calling daycare school, but not because I care what anyone else calls their childcare options - it's because I hate that we're creating an unnecessary expectation for formal education at earlier and earlier ages. A 2YO doesn't need school. A 2YO needs to play and have fun. Don't even get me started on this...

wifeofadam · January 2014

Seeca022 said:

My FFFC is that I find it ridiculous that people care enough to get bothered by what people call things

Like I said, my beef isn't with what people choose to call their childcare options. My beef is with people who have started to believe that younger and younger children need formal schooling. For example, my BFF's family doctor told her that she needed to put her two-year-old in "school" to learn proper socialization. BFF is a SAHM. That's crazy to me. The more and more people start referring to daycare for infants as school and the more daycares start referring to themselves as schools, the more people start to normalize putting a one year old in "school" with formal curriculum and stuff. It creates an expectation that isn't developmentally appropriate or necessary.

This happened when we were children as more parents started putting their kids in preschool. It used to be the Kindergarten was where children started with formal lessons and their alphabet. Now because so many people put their kids in "school" before the kindergarten age, we have made preschool necessary in order to properly assimilate into Kindergarten, not just academically, but socially. I have no doubt that this will happen with younger and younger "schools" and eventually people will be saying that your child won't have all the academic advantages or social skills unless they are in "school" at six months old.

Meh. I get irrationally annoyed by this, but probably because I have to deal with people telling me how my kids will never be "normal" all.the.time. simply because they aren't in formal schools like the other kids. To think that a SAHM would be judged because she chooses to be with her two year old during the day instead of sending her off to "school", as was the case with my BFF, raises my hackles.

lbonga1 · January 2014

My FFFC is that my fiancé says I sleep too much, and it makes me want to punch him in the throat. He says I "nap all the time" and get 8 hours of sleep a night. Yeah, let me fit that into my 36 hour day when I'm at work for 9 hours, often until 10 or 11 at night, and have lately been getting up to take care of a sick baby 5 times a night….while he sleeps. I understand that he has insomnia and can sometimes only get 4 hours of sleep at night, but when I'm also trying to get sleep and can't, it makes me stabby that he honestly thinks I'm asleep all the time.

nlp1990 · January 2014

+adamwife+ said:

Seeca022 said:

My FFFC is that I find it ridiculous that people care enough to get bothered by what people call things

Like I said, my beef isn't with what people choose to call their childcare options. My beef is with people who have started to believe that younger and younger children need formal schooling. For example, my BFF's family doctor told her that she needed to put her two-year-old in "school" to learn proper socialization. BFF is a SAHM. That's crazy to me. The more and more people start referring to daycare for infants as school and the more daycares start referring to themselves as schools, the more people start to normalize putting a one year old in "school" with formal curriculum and stuff. It creates an expectation that isn't developmentally appropriate or necessary.

This happened when we were children as more parents started putting their kids in preschool. It used to be the Kindergarten was where children started with formal lessons and their alphabet. Now because so many people put their kids in "school" before the kindergarten age, we have made preschool necessary in order to properly assimilate into Kindergarten, not just academically, but socially. I have no doubt that this will happen with younger and younger "schools" and eventually people will be saying that your child won't have all the academic advantages or social skills unless they are in "school" at six months old.

Meh. I get irrationally annoyed by this, but probably because I have to deal with people telling me how my kids will never be "normal" all.the.time. simply because they aren't in formal schools like the other kids. To think that a SAHM would be judged because she chooses to be with her two year old during the day instead of sending her off to "school", as was the case with my BFF, raises my hackles.

I agree +adamwife+. I have a bachelors in early childhood education, but I am choosing to homeschool. I am not a fan of how the public schools here are run. We know littles learn best by playing, so why do we make them sit at a table and do papers for lengthy periods of time.

Puck1182 · January 2014

Regarding the necessity of "school" and young ages, I think it depends on the kid. My mom was a SAHM until I was 8, but when I was 2 years old she put me in nursery school 2 days/week because I truly needed the socialization. I was incredibly codependent and needed the time away from her in order to be able to function socially. It's actually one of my earliest memories: hiding under the couch in the nursery school because I was afraid to interact with anyone, with on of the teachers trying to coax me out. Within a couple weeks I was so excited to go to school that I could barely be bothered to say goodbye to my mom when she dropped me off!

I'm still very much introverted and need my "me" time to recharge, but I think I benefited tremendously from going to school at a young age. But an extroverted child whose parents take the time to read books and teach basic stuff like counting, abc's, etc. probably wouldn't see as much of a benefit as I did, so I don't think it's something you can make a blanket statement about. But I agree that it shouldn't be an absolute requirement.

holly321 · January 2014

We started dd in dance school because she needed socialization. It wasn't that she was just shy, she would get down right mad when people spoke to her, and nothing I did seemed to make a difference. She has done so much better since then. She has a 45 minute class a week. I plan to home school my children, and I have said so to people before, and they are telling me how I need to put her in preschool. It makes no sense to me, she is socialized, she knows her alphabet/colors, etc... so why is it necessary. I don't have a problem with the daycare vs school....but I agree with @+adamwife+ I think too much is expected of young children at a young age. Little kids are supposed to play and have fun.

Drea926 · January 2014

My son goes to Play and Learn Family Daycare so I guess he gets the best of both worlds. ;-)

DublinMama · January 2014

Mine is called "Annie's Place-A Children's Learning Center." So I guess I should be asking him how his day at the Learning Center was?
8-|

wifeofadam · January 2014

verovladamir said:

School keeps starting younger and younger. It used to be half day kindergarten, now it's full days and you have to go to k4 first, and probably k-3 before that. We didn't start learning to read till first grade, but now you probably should know how to do that going in to kindergarten. Children are having to meet more and more criteria at younger and younger ages. Because of that more and more children are being labeled as having behavioral issues because they aren't able to sit still to learn how to read at 2.

You want to know why the number of children requiring medication in order to sit still in a chair all day and learn has increased over the last few decades? Could it be because children didn't used to have to sit still in a chair all day and learn because it isn't developmentally appropriate for them? I'm sure that has nothing to do with it. Let's fill a five year old boy up with a bunch of overly processed sugary food and then force him to sit still in a chair for two hours straight and then call him abnormal when he physically can't. That sounds perfectly logical to me...

Shoot. My little boys don't even eat any sugar and I can't get them to sit still for that long. I pity those poor school teachers who have to deal with a classroom full of them.

Drea926 · January 2014

What I can't stand is giving kids too many after school activities so they have no opportunities to just relax and play. I'm all for kids pursing their interests but not when things take up their whole lives. My mom had me pick my two favorite activities at a time so I wasn't overscheduled. It was a good balance.

musicalmama5 · January 2014

Oh wow. I go away for half a day and y'all open up my favorite can of worms!

Some of y'all may be interested in my current nerdy obsession, Dr. Gabor Mate. Check out this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_tdljIW86e8

One of the things he talks about (at about 2:45 in this video) is about how it's actually unnatural to put large groups of kids together to learn. It's much more in line with our evolutionary biology to have kids learn in their families (this means extended families, the "village" if you will). Basically, when kids are all put together, they end up learning things from each other and it's immature people teaching immature people. And then when they grow up, they are still immature because they didn't have a high enough ratio of mature adults surrounding them. Whereas if kids are in a setting with a higher adult:kid ratio, immature people (kids) will learn from mature people (adults) about how to be an adult. And they will grow into mature people.

I'm sure I didn't put that very well. Just watch the video if this is something that interests you.

Also, I'm not saying that kids shouldn't play together and spend time with their peers. I'm just saying that this guy is giving me more reasons to want to homeschool.

musicalmama5 · January 2014

Actually the part I was trying to describe is at about 6 minutes in. It's worth the watch.

tamarar5 · January 2014

+adamwife+ said:

expatmama said:

My FFFC is that we have chicken pox in the house. And while that is pretty crappy, it has given us as a family some much needed permission to do absolutely f*ck all for a few days --- no visiting, no errands, no day trips, way way too much screen time, and just in general hanging out, the four of us, doing a whole lot of nothing. And you know what? It has been really really nice. Except for the itching. And the thought that the baby may get it next (although I am hoping that breast milk will keep that mild). Chickenpox vax is not on the sched here, so most kids get it.

My FFFC is that I wish you lived near me so I could come over and catch it from you. We haven't vaxxed for this one yet and my family doc says that in her decade of practice she has never seen a case of c pox in our area, so the chances of my kids contracting it are very slim. We will vax when they are teenagers if they haven't contracted it yet.

We are in the same boat! My dd had a bad reaction to vaxs, (so have I) and we never did find out what exactly caused it, so we have delayed vaxing E for this reason. As such, C hasn't gotten the chix pox vax. We won't for E either. If either of the kids get to be teenagers we will revisit the VAX, but I would love to just have a pox party and get it over with.

tamarar5 · January 2014

Drea926 said:
What I can't stand is giving kids too many after school activities so they have no opportunities to just relax and play. I'm all for kids pursing their interests but not when things take up their whole lives. My mom had me pick my two favorite activities at a time so I wasn't overscheduled. It was a good balance.

AMEN!!!! C has two best friend from kindergarten and scheduling playdates with either of them is a total nightmare because we have to plan around soccer, cello, violin, piano, jazz, ballet, tap, oil painting, track practice, first aid, and the next mission to Mars! It's insane. And these two girls are SIX YEARS OLD. I kid you not, each one does at least six different activities. They are so busy that one couldn't even take C's dance class and "has" to take private lessons on Saturday just to fit dance in.

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